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Old 10-23-2008, 08:25 AM
 
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Default Enabling, when Helping doesn't help...

We christians are called to help people be more like Christ... that is good enabling.

There is something in drug and alcohol circles, however, that is another kind of enabling.
That is where people, out of love, try to protect the alcoholic/drug addict from the consequences of their actions.

I believe that christians can do the same thing sometimes...
Trying to be loving and accepting they can actually interfere with the working of the Holy Spirit in someone's life.

Enabling takes many forms....

" Helping is doing something for someone that they are not capable of doing themselves while enabling is doing for someone things that they could, and should be doing themselves. Enabling creates a atmosphere in which the (person) can comfortably continue his unacceptable behavior....

As long as the (person we love) has his enabling devices in place, it is easy for him to continue to deny he has a problem -- since most of his problems are being "solved" by those around him. Only when he is forced to face the consequences of his own actions, will it finally begin to sink in how deep his problem has become..."

The above is taken from this article that I found on the web.

Enabling - Enabling and Alcoholism in the Family

As christians, we sometimes need to take our hands off the people we love and allow them to hear from God for themselves.

Last edited by World Citizen; 10-23-2008 at 09:37 AM..
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