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Old 10-27-2008, 03:58 PM
 
Location: Oxford, OH
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I'm off to see Fireproof for the second time. A girlfriend and I saw it the other day and I thought it was wonderful.
We are going again with the husbands tonight
My DH and I are really struggling in our marriage. He shows very little love or concern for me. I have felt so bad the past five years but have hung on by God's grace...
Have you seen this movie yet????
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Old 10-27-2008, 04:03 PM
 
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My wife saw it. She really enjoyed it.
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Old 10-27-2008, 04:03 PM
 
Location: RV Park
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I'm off to see Fireproof for the second time. A girlfriend and I saw it the other day and I thought it was wonderful.
We are going again with the husbands tonight
My DH and I are really struggling in our marriage. He shows very little love or concern for me. I have felt so bad the past five years but have hung on by God's grace...
Have you seen this movie yet????
Is DH going with you?
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Old 10-27-2008, 04:11 PM
 
Location: Indiana
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my husband and I saw it while he was home on R & R a couple weeks ago. The acting was rather so-so for the most part, but the Message prevailed, as did the main message of working on your marriage even when it seems hopeless and trusting in God to make the final decision

oh and 'the love dare' is available at most stores & bookstores now.
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Old 10-27-2008, 07:51 PM
 
Location: Oxford, OH
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Well we just got back from the movie. He did say he like it but as yet no other comment. It should have been very convicting since in fact he is a firefighter as a volunteer and has had issues with porn. In fact I just heard him turn the sports on in the other room. That will be the intertainment for the evening. I keep waiting for God to move in his life. He became a Christian about 20 years ago when we were dating but really has not grown.
I guess the upside the past five years is that it has drawn me closer to God since I have no where else to turn....Everything I have tried, counseled, read...I have batted zero! I know somehow God has a plan but it is very hard to wait on God's timing...
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Old 10-27-2008, 08:24 PM
 
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Well we just got back from the movie. He did say he like it but as yet no other comment. It should have been very convicting since in fact he is a firefighter as a volunteer and has had issues with porn. In fact I just heard him turn the sports on in the other room. That will be the intertainment for the evening. I keep waiting for God to move in his life. He became a Christian about 20 years ago when we were dating but really has not grown.
I guess the upside the past five years is that it has drawn me closer to God since I have no where else to turn....Everything I have tried, counseled, read...I have batted zero! I know somehow God has a plan but it is very hard to wait on God's timing...

(((HUGS))) I can relate to you in so many ways.

Lucy
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Old 10-27-2008, 09:22 PM
 
Location: SW Indiana
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Keep hanging in there. Does he realize that your hightest earthly priority is drawing the two of you closer? We don't love others because they have no flaws, but in spite of them.

Are you listening to him? Is he open to considering why he finds change so unnecessary and so hard? I ask only because you've just come home, and you're on the computer and he's in front of the TV. Please don't take that as snippy; it's not meant that way. I realize perhaps he just wants to be left alone for a bit, but if not, use your faith as an example of your acceptance, even if he's slow to realize the power of God's love.

My heart goes out to you. The shell of God's grace is such a glorious place, I know you're anxious to share it with him, and probably breathless at the thought of the tender joy and spiritual strength you'll both experience when he learns to open his heart and accept salvation. Your dream is to share that enraptured state with the man you love. Even accounting for other troubles, he must certainly respect that and rejoice that your mutual love and hapiness is so important to the woman he loves.

And a thought from an old man... tough as it is, five years isn't so long after all. May God grant you strength and most of all, patience
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Old 10-28-2008, 05:53 AM
 
Location: Oxford, OH
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My husband is a believer just not very mature. We have been married twenty years, second marriage for both of us. I'm almost 60 and he is going on 67. He used to be wonderful to me, I felt cherished. Now he retired but has three part time jobs and works all the time. The last five years I have just felt ignored. We have counseled three times and gone to marriage seminars with no change.
He always says that to him life if fine. He's satisfied with working, coming home, watching TV and going to bed....so sad to only want that out of life. We are just roommates...so sad since I know this is not God's best.
I feel so lonely and sad. I have done much better since April. I have just decided to just go and do on my own. I have a little Honda Helix that just turned 13th miles. I just wander the back roads. I start every day out with "the Joy of the Lord is my strength". I keep asking God what I am supposed to learn from all of this!
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Old 11-13-2008, 08:06 AM
 
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UPDATE:

Has grossed $28,000,000, made more than 50 times it cost to make and is now being ordered in over a hundred new theaters.


Please tell your friends and family about this movie especially couples going through a rough time.
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Old 11-13-2008, 09:38 AM
 
Location: SC Foothills
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Well we just got back from the movie. He did say he like it but as yet no other comment. It should have been very convicting since in fact he is a firefighter as a volunteer and has had issues with porn. In fact I just heard him turn the sports on in the other room. That will be the intertainment for the evening. I keep waiting for God to move in his life. He became a Christian about 20 years ago when we were dating but really has not grown.
I guess the upside the past five years is that it has drawn me closer to God since I have no where else to turn....Everything I have tried, counseled, read...I have batted zero! I know somehow God has a plan but it is very hard to wait on God's timing...
Ahh, Driftwood, I'm so sorry. I missed this when you first posted it, but it reminds me of my Mother's situation. She is in the exact same situation, but now it's worse because she has become caretaker for the most ungrateful curmudgeon of a man you can imagine.

I need to call her as a matter of fact, because the past few days she has been really depressed and upset because, to make a long story short, he wants to be buried beside his parents instead of her. I just want to choke him for the way he has treated her over the years.

But she's trying very, very hard to "accept her assignment". This is her second marriage and she is 67, he's 74 but acts like 90. Our favorite Pastor had a sermon on "accepting our assignments" and I'll share it with you here, so maybe it can help you through this somewhat.

Unshakable Confidence (Psalm:16)
1. We must accept our assignment
2. We must acknowledge Who is in control
3. We must know our boundaries
4. We must relax in our faith
5. We must praise the Lord
6. We must keep our focus

There was a whole lot more to it, of course, but basically we are in our situations for a reason, it's accepting it that is the hard part. A flood of emotions comes with being stuck like this, but God does have His Hand on it and you will be greatly rewarded, Driftwood, for remaining faithful to your situation and your husband. As long as you can keep from smacking him in the head with a frying pan.

Keep taking your drives (I do that too, just me and my dog), keep praising the Lord and before we know it we will be in His Presence forever. I'll be praying for you.
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