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Old 11-05-2008, 07:32 PM
 
Location: Ruidoso NM
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Old 11-05-2008, 07:39 PM
 
Location: Ruidoso NM
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OMG Divorce him because he watched a porno?!?!? harsh

What's best for the kids?
Porn is evil and vile it brings destruction to a marriage and is very demeaning, it cheapens the sexual relationship in marriage.distrust and feelings of betrayal are not loving side effects of porn.
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Old 11-05-2008, 07:54 PM
 
Location: Murfreesboro, TN
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I believe the effect things have on marriage depends on the two people who are married. What may strengthen one marriage may tear another marriage apart. That's why talking prior to marriage is so important. I know you can't touch on every topic there is to discuss, but making a list of things and being sure you both feel the same way regarding them is a great thing to do.
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Old 11-05-2008, 08:25 PM
 
Location: Socialist Republik of Amerika
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With my H (for adultery among other things) I found that forgiveness is easy compared to forgetness and trust..As others have said, biblicaly you may divorce him..There are other considerations though (speaking with experience here)..Are you educated enough in a good paying career to be the full support of your children if you have to? Is there a chance he would fight you for custody of the children? Do you have a home? If you divorce him, could you maintain a friendship with him for the sake of the children? Think very hard about this one..Do you still love him? If not, could you ever learn to love him forgive him, and trust him if you decide to stay in the marriage? Does he want to save the marriage? If so, is he willing to go for counseling? One little final thought about biblical divorce,..If you are a literalist, are you willing to not remarry or lust in your heart while your H still is alive? That is a very big deal if you take the bible literal, no way around it..although I have heard all the twisted excuses and interpretations from a few......

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Old 11-05-2008, 09:02 PM
 
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Porn is evil and vile it brings destruction to a marriage and is very demeaning, it cheapens the sexual relationship in marriage.distrust and feelings of betrayal are not loving side effects of porn.
While i have no argument with you in principle,i think there needs to be more serious things going on than 'sneaking a porno' before people get a divorce when there are 3 children involved.Of course we dont know what else is going on in this situation either.
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Old 11-05-2008, 09:18 PM
 
Location: Charlotte, North Carolina
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1. I'm sure anyone has looked at man/woman in a way to lust after him/her. If you have then you're guilty of adultery.

2. You will NEED to forgive him whether you go through a divorce or not.

3. Marriage isn't about the sex life, and both partners will always make a mistake.


Anger opens MANY doorways which can lead to adultery, pornography, hate, wrath, bitterness, etc

The bible is very clear on when you're allowed to divorce

32But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

It says fornication which is NOT adultery. Fornication is before marriage, and Jesus was preaching from the OT laws which stipulate a person is ONLY allowed to divorce a woman if she's found not to be a virgin.

Most people think that they are allowed to get divorced, and according to the bible they are not. Weird thing is that people like to change the bible ACCORDING to their lifestyle

4And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

I hope you have never fantasized about any other man while you were married otherwise your judgement will be hypocritical.

I think that YOU need to get right with God first before making any decisions. Getting right with God means that you have forgiven him for his trespasses otherwise God wont forgive you

14For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

The most important advice I can give you whether you want to believe the Bible or not is to make a decision when you're not angry.
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