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This is a question that I've talked about with my church elders. My husband had and affair. It was very emotional and he's having a hard time letting go. He got fired from his job last week because of all the trouble it caused him at his work. She was a coworker you see. Well he had to move back in with me for money reasons. I've been praying for him but he's so stubborn. He pushes the truth away from him. I warned him that things would get worse if he didn't leave this woman alone. Now all he has is disgrace and a wound. Nobody from office wants to have anything to do with him. That really hurt him. He's so angry and blames it on someone else. He says that this other person just wanted his job. But he was told that he was fired cause he lied about the relationship. Well, he's living here and he's so cruel to me. He doesn't talk to me. He was very sick with the flu a couple of days ago and never thanked me for taking care of him. I've had two dreams that he wanted to kill me. I feel like he doesn't want me. I'm hurting so bad cause I care about him and give him my all, like I believe Christ would want me to but he gives me nothing. He says he's just angry about the situation. I feel like I'm go crazy!!!!!!!! I'm always praying and reading scripture but when he pushes himself away like this it just tears my heart to pieces. My church family has mixed feelings about this. Some think that God is letting him get down to the bottom and he might repent. Others think cause of the affair that I should just go and start a new life, maybe marry a Christian. I know that God hates divorce but I'm confused about this. I've been praying that the Lord would have mercy on him and bring him to his senses before it's to late. I also feel like if I leave I'm giving up on him. I don't think Jesus would want me to do that! I'd like to know what other Christian brothers and sisters out there think about this. When my heart is hurting and I want to leave am I being selfish? Can I leave and remarry? I feel so unloved by the man I love dearly. I'm worried I might give up! Being unequally yoked was not by choice. I wasn't a Christian when we got married. My husband wont even tell me what he wants. He doesn't talk to me.I want to be respected and loved is that wrong?
I would first ask a few question of you.
1. Does your husband love Jesus?
2. Was there anytime in his life when he tells you he was Born Again?
3. Has he asked your forgivness?
This is a question that I've talked about with my church elders. My husband had and affair. It was very emotional and he's having a hard time letting go. He got fired from his job last week because of all the trouble it caused him at his work. She was a coworker you see. Well he had to move back in with me for money reasons. I've been praying for him but he's so stubborn. He pushes the truth away from him. I warned him that things would get worse if he didn't leave this woman alone. Now all he has is disgrace and a wound. Nobody from office wants to have anything to do with him. That really hurt him. He's so angry and blames it on someone else. He says that this other person just wanted his job. But he was told that he was fired cause he lied about the relationship. Well, he's living here and he's so cruel to me. He doesn't talk to me. He was very sick with the flu a couple of days ago and never thanked me for taking care of him. I've had two dreams that he wanted to kill me. I feel like he doesn't want me. I'm hurting so bad cause I care about him and give him my all, like I believe Christ would want me to but he gives me nothing. He says he's just angry about the situation. I feel like I'm go crazy!!!!!!!! I'm always praying and reading scripture but when he pushes himself away like this it just tears my heart to pieces. My church family has mixed feelings about this. Some think that God is letting him get down to the bottom and he might repent. Others think cause of the affair that I should just go and start a new life, maybe marry a Christian. I know that God hates divorce but I'm confused about this. I've been praying that the Lord would have mercy on him and bring him to his senses before it's to late. I also feel like if I leave I'm giving up on him. I don't think Jesus would want me to do that! I'd like to know what other Christian brothers and sisters out there think about this. When my heart is hurting and I want to leave am I being selfish? Can I leave and remarry? I feel so unloved by the man I love dearly. I'm worried I might give up! Being unequally yoked was not by choice. I wasn't a Christian when we got married. My husband wont even tell me what he wants. He doesn't talk to me.I want to be respected and loved is that wrong?
Stand Strong;
You must do what the word of God says and says only, and not be lead my your emotions, feelings don't phase God; His Word does,
Don't continue seeking the counsel of too many people, go to God for yourself
and pray to Him to strengthen you as you go through this trial....
And pray for the salvation of your husband, sounds like he brought this on himself, and there are consequences to this sin. Wait on the Lord, and you may be surprised at what miracles He can work in your life, I imagine that is a painful thing to have to endure this treatment from your husband, but remember he is only acting like the one he serves and that is the "devil' don't expect better treatment, continue to stand firm and pray and wait until God finishes His perfect work in your husbands life. Forgive him daily for betraying you then you are free and not ensnared by the yoke of bondage, until he is delivered from the evil one, release him, (sounds like you've done this already)..
God Bless You
This is a question that I've talked about with my church elders. My husband had and affair. It was very emotional and he's having a hard time letting go. He got fired from his job last week because of all the trouble it caused him at his work. She was a coworker you see. Well he had to move back in with me for money reasons. I've been praying for him but he's so stubborn. He pushes the truth away from him. I warned him that things would get worse if he didn't leave this woman alone. Now all he has is disgrace and a wound. Nobody from office wants to have anything to do with him. That really hurt him. He's so angry and blames it on someone else. He says that this other person just wanted his job. But he was told that he was fired cause he lied about the relationship. Well, he's living here and he's so cruel to me. He doesn't talk to me. He was very sick with the flu a couple of days ago and never thanked me for taking care of him. I've had two dreams that he wanted to kill me. I feel like he doesn't want me. I'm hurting so bad cause I care about him and give him my all, like I believe Christ would want me to but he gives me nothing. He says he's just angry about the situation. I feel like I'm go crazy!!!!!!!! I'm always praying and reading scripture but when he pushes himself away like this it just tears my heart to pieces. My church family has mixed feelings about this. Some think that God is letting him get down to the bottom and he might repent. Others think cause of the affair that I should just go and start a new life, maybe marry a Christian. I know that God hates divorce but I'm confused about this. I've been praying that the Lord would have mercy on him and bring him to his senses before it's to late. I also feel like if I leave I'm giving up on him. I don't think Jesus would want me to do that! I'd like to know what other Christian brothers and sisters out there think about this. When my heart is hurting and I want to leave am I being selfish? Can I leave and remarry? I feel so unloved by the man I love dearly. I'm worried I might give up! Being unequally yoked was not by choice. I wasn't a Christian when we got married. My husband wont even tell me what he wants. He doesn't talk to me.I want to be respected and loved is that wrong?
Love conquers all, and only God can tell you what He wants for you.
Thank you for sharing so much personal info. We do have children and I pray that God will bless them and spare them the troubles of a split family. My children range in ages 2 to 14. My older children are very hurt by this. Two of them were friends of this woman's daughters and they were pretty close. I would watch her two daughters a lot and she does this to us. But I know that the devil is using her and my husband. He holds them to do his will. But I pray that God will bring both to their senses and set them free from Satan.
Thank you for sharing so much personal info. We do have children and I pray that God will bless them and spare them the troubles of a split family. My children range in ages 2 to 14. My older children are very hurt by this. Two of them were friends of this woman's daughters and they were pretty close. I would watch her two daughters a lot and she does this to us. But I know that the devil is using her and my husband. He holds them to do his will. But I pray that God will bring both to their senses and set them free from Satan.
Your strength and forgiving heart are an encouragement to all.
I pray everyday. Several times a day. I beg God to have mercy on all of us. Me, him, her. I'm a sinner just like them. I'm no better than them. And I believe that we act like true children of God when we pray for others and offer forgiveness when we have been wronged. God's servant David prayed for his enemies in Psalm 109. He even loved them, and was good to them. In 2nd Timothy, Paul says that we Christians should be patient with difficult people and gently teach those who oppose the truth. Paul says that perhaps God will change their hearts and they will believe the truth. Then they can come to their senses and escape the devils trap. They are held captive by him to do what ever he wants. I've asked God what should I do. We had a wonderful sermon last Sunday that was amazing and it talked about being patient and waiting on the Lord to act. But the waiting is so painful. I read scripture that says we Christians will suffer like Christ suffered and that comforts me. I know that my savior Jesus went before me. If I didn't have the Holy Spirit I would have been long gone and this would be different. I do know that this has pain has brought me closer to God. He has revealed so much about his love to me. It would be easier I guess if my husband would just leave me now but he can't or wont. I don't even think he knows what he wants. Please keep us in prayer. He has never hit me but silence can be just as bad. I know that God works things out for the best for those that love him. And I sure do love him. My heart and scripture say keep praying!
I know the pain you are in......
I know your thoughts......
but like you I sought counsel with my pastor, and he agreed that what I was going thru it would be biblical to leave my husband.....but it didn't sit right with me......
so after praying and praying......I asked the Lord do I leave my husband and he clearly said "no"
I asked why? and he said "Because I am faithful" so then I asked the Lord to please restore my marriage, to bring healing. to this day my husband is so devoted to me, he is still an unbeliever but he has so much love for me.
So pray and seek the Lord for your answer, and know he is faithful.
I know the pain you are in......
I know your thoughts......
but like you I sought counsel with my pastor, and he agreed that what I was going thru it would be biblical to leave my husband.....but it didn't sit right with me......
so after praying and praying......I asked the Lord do I leave my husband and he clearly said "no"
I asked why? and he said "Because I am faithful" so then I asked the Lord to please restore my marriage, to bring healing. to this day my husband is so devoted to me, he is still an unbeliever but he has so much love for me.
So pray and seek the Lord for your answer, and know he is faithful.
That is an awesome testimony! My wife and I are going to a Family Life conference later next month. We heard through our church that if you've lost a job within the past year you call their number 1-800-FL-TODAY and you and your spouse receive free registration. That is gonna help us to go. If they didn't offer it, we wouldn't have been able to attend.
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I want to be respected and loved is that wrong?
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