Your other half? (believe, prayer, Jesus, divorce)

[sn00py]

So i was reading The book The purpose driven the other day and a question came to my mind. please correct me if i'm wrong;

does jesus ever say that the first person you date/love have a close relationship with be the person you should be with for the rest of your life? i.e your first girlfriend should be the one and only and should someday be your wife? If so is it also true that Jesus tells us to not to worry because some day we will find our other half/soul mate?

if both are true, then doesn't that contradict each other?

i mean if you break up with your first girlfriend, does that mean you should do not matter what it takes to get back with her? or just wait until you find the other half? but then it contradicts with the first question? i'm really confused, hope you guys understand what i'm trying to say.

Also i have another quesiton, say the first question is true, that jesus says that our first girlfriend should be the one and only and no other, and should someday be our wife, what if it just doesn't work out? then what?

sorry i'm not really good at explaining hope you understand what i'm trying to ask.

[Fundamentalist]

Originally Posted by sn00py

So i was reading The book The purpose driven the other day and a question came to my mind. please correct me if i'm wrong;

does jesus ever say that the first person you date/love have a close relationship with be the person you should be with for the rest of your life? i.e your first girlfriend should be the one and only and should someday be your wife? If so is it also true that Jesus tells us to not to worry because some day we will find our other half/soul mate?

if both are true, then doesn't that contradict each other?

i mean if you break up with your first girlfriend, does that mean you should do not matter what it takes to get back with her? or just wait until you find the other half? but then it contradicts with the first question? i'm really confused, hope you guys understand what i'm trying to say.

Also i have another quesiton, say the first question is true, that jesus says that our first girlfriend should be the one and only and no other, and should someday be our wife, what if it just doesn't work out? then what?

sorry i'm not really good at explaining hope you understand what i'm trying to ask.

Your first mistake was reading the purpose driven . Your second mistake is having a girlfriend (That is not biblical) The concept of boyfriend and girlfriend only feeds the divorce mentality-that is a worldly idea of jumping from one mate to the next. You come across a mate you like then you court her for marriage-You are fusing together biblical ideas with worldly ideas.
God's will for you in finding a mate is making the right Godly decision by following scripture. Examine your mate carefully, pray about your mate, ask your friends and family what they think about your mate, get pastoral guidance in your relationship. When you have done all these things then you can make a good decision. That's God's will. If you or your mate commit your relationship to God and follow biblical guidelines then I can guarantee that you will stay together.

[mzjamiedawn]

The answers to both your questions, snoopy, is no. Jesus never said either of those things.

[Miss Blue]

As far as I know, Snoopy, boyfriend, girlfriend, who we marry or divorce is part of the "choice plan"

[denverian]

Originally Posted by Fundamentalist

Your first mistake was reading the purpose driven . Your second mistake is having a girlfriend (That is not biblical) The concept of boyfriend and girlfriend only feeds the divorce mentality-that is a worldly idea of jumping from one mate to the next. You come across a mate you like then you court her for marriage-You are fusing together biblical ideas with worldly ideas.
God's will for you in finding a mate is making the right Godly decision by following scripture. Examine your mate carefully, pray about your mate, ask your friends and family what they think about your mate, get pastoral guidance in your relationship. When you have done all these things then you can make a good decision. That's God's will. If you or your mate commit your relationship to God and follow biblical guidelines then I can guarantee that you will stay together.

Huh??? You think dating is wrong??? Why on earth would you go into marriage, having never experienced a relationship? I'm not talking about sex, but dating. That's why teenagers start dating - they learn, grow, and figure out how to have a relationship, often through trial and error. Maybe you date one person and realize that's the totally wrong personality type for you, so you learn from that experience.

The odds of anyone falling in love with the first person they date and being happy with that decision until death are pretty slim. God doesn't just present you with your mate and give you the skills necessary to keep the relationship happy. Those are skills you have to learn on your own.

[Miss Blue]

What is that saying?
Oh yeah, "Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince" (or princess)

[sn00py]

hmmmm... i' see lots of different opinions...some say jesus never said that, some say its wrong to date, and some say its just your choice.

To Miss Blue:
so does that mean dating or getting married is pretty much based on your personal decision and not really jesus's?

To Fundamentalist:
whats wrong with reading the purpose driven? and do you happen to have any quotes that support your argument? because everyone seems to be disagreeing with you

To MzJamiedawn:
same thing, do you have any thing to back up what you said that jesus never said that?

i'm not trying to be picky, mean, or rude just trying to make sure =)

[effie g-tad]

Originally Posted by Miss Blue

What is that saying?
Oh yeah, "Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince" (or princess)

honestly, my never-missBLUE,
how many did you (have to) kiss?

[Miss Blue]

Originally Posted by sn00py

hmmmm... i' see lots of different opinions...some say jesus never said that, some say its wrong to date, and some say its just your choice.

To Miss Blue:
so does that mean dating or getting married is pretty much based on your personal decision and not really jesus's?

Yes, Snoopy it comes down to your choice..God loved us so much that when we rebelled against his authority by "choosing" to turn from His instructions that He gave us free choice..His or ours..
I truly believe that with prayer for wisdom and guidance and a full desire to "hear" you can and will receive the advice you seek..But still, there is a choice

[Fundamentalist]

Originally Posted by denverian

Huh??? You think dating is wrong??? Why on earth would you go into marriage, having never experienced a relationship? I'm not talking about sex, but dating. That's why teenagers start dating - they learn, grow, and figure out how to have a relationship, often through trial and error. Maybe you date one person and realize that's the totally wrong personality type for you, so you learn from that experience.

The odds of anyone falling in love with the first person they date and being happy with that decision until death are pretty slim. God doesn't just present you with your mate and give you the skills necessary to keep the relationship happy. Those are skills you have to learn on your own.

You are an atheist, your way is wrong, God's way is right. The ultimate goal of dating or courting is finding a life partner in which we must put God first. The world is full of lust which is why 50% of marriages end in divorce which is why Christians who adopt that worldview ends up in divorce also.