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Old 04-25-2009, 08:52 PM
 
Location: Highland Village
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Default When someone says "I'll Pray for you"

Something has been bugging me and I want to know what all of you think about this. When someone is being mean or hurtful to you and not acting in a Christian manner, yet then stare you in the face and say "But I'll Pray for You"....how do you react? It seems sad to me that as Christians sometimes "I'll Pray for you" is used as a jab. I don't undertand that.
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Old 04-25-2009, 08:57 PM
 
Location: Hot-Houston Texas
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Something has been bugging me and I want to know what all of you think about this. When someone is being mean or hurtful to you and not acting in a Christian manner, yet then stare you in the face and say "But I'll Pray for You"....how do you react? It seems sad to me that as Christians sometimes "I'll Pray for you" is used as a jab. I don't undertand that.
The best thing to do is just walk away.
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Old 04-25-2009, 08:59 PM
 
Location: Highland Village
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No I agree, but I guess I should have asked, how does it leave you feeling? That would be the better question I guess.
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Old 04-25-2009, 08:59 PM
 
Location: Log home in the Appalachians
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I'll say thank you, and I will pray to my Creator for you also....
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Old 04-25-2009, 09:05 PM
 
Location: Highland Village
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You all know I am tender-hearted. I guess what I am saying is I don't understand how someone being cruel can be genuine in saying they are going to "Pray for you"...this wasn't something that happened to me, but something I saw happen. It upset me. I guess I just wondered if you guys had encountered that and does it upset you that people sometimes "use their faith" to make jabs at others?
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Old 04-25-2009, 09:05 PM
 
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I would say don't bother.
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Old 04-25-2009, 09:07 PM
 
Location: Mississippi
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Something has been bugging me and I want to know what all of you think about this. When someone is being mean or hurtful to you and not acting in a Christian manner, yet then stare you in the face and say "But I'll Pray for You"....how do you react? It seems sad to me that as Christians sometimes "I'll Pray for you" is used as a jab. I don't undertand that.
Can I offer my opinion because I get the feeling that I've heard those particular four words more often than most people. It usually comes at the end of a debate. It is, in my opinion, often a phrase used to get the last word in and more often than not to add insult to injury disguised behind a phrase that is actually meant to be used as a progressive thing.

I think there is a genuine goodness behind the phrase depending on the context. In many cases and situations, it can be construed along the same parallels as "I'll think happy thoughts for you" or "I wish you the best" and even those, depending on the context, can sometimes be used with less than the best of intentions.

I often feel that "I'll pray for you" is very often a suggestion of smug superiority. I think what the person really means to say is something along these lines - "I can't stand you, Troop. You've literally made me pull my hair out and I am sick and tired of you. I am going to pray that your mind changes and that you begin to think more like me because I own the truth."

Don't get me wrong. I think some people use it with genuinely good and wholesome intentions. But, I think in the context you're referring to little_thirsty, I presume you to mean that little phrase that often comes at the end of a debate or argument, right?

If caught in the wrong mood, I'll usually just respond "And I'll think for you."
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Old 04-25-2009, 09:07 PM
 
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I find that phrase to be the the most insulting in any conversation with religious extremists. They are essentially saying, "I will pray that you someday realize I am right and agree with me."

That's why I like to use it back on them.
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Old 04-25-2009, 09:14 PM
 
Location: Hot-Houston Texas
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You all know I am tender-hearted. I guess what I am saying is I don't understand how someone being cruel can be genuine in saying they are going to "Pray for you"...this wasn't something that happened to me, but something I saw happen. It upset me. I guess I just wondered if you guys had encountered that and does it upset you that people sometimes "use their faith" to make jabs at others?
Yes you are very tenderhearted Little T, your heart is as big as Texas.
I know people like this are never going to pray for me because they don't have a clue as to what that really means and the power there is in prayers, and if they do, their prayers won't go past the ceiling.
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Old 04-25-2009, 10:07 PM
 
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Something has been bugging me and I want to know what all of you think about this. When someone is being mean or hurtful to you and not acting in a Christian manner, yet then stare you in the face and say "But I'll Pray for You"....how do you react? It seems sad to me that as Christians sometimes "I'll Pray for you" is used as a jab. I don't undertand that.
It's condescending and arrogant, if you ask me. By saying that, they are trying to make you feel inferior. It's a cleverly disguised attempt to tell you they are right and you are wrong. How to react? Rebuff it. Tell them you don't want the prayers of someone who is so blatantly mean-spirited, and that you are fully capable of praying for yourself if you feel so led.
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