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Old 10-23-2011, 01:55 PM
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We are accustomed to think of murderers and criminals as heartless, not even human. But here is a story where the man acquitted of murder still felt remorse and went to apologize to the victim's mother. Maybe there is some room for redemption and spiritual growth in the world. In some ways, it changes nothing, but in other ways it changes everything.

A life lost, a grieving mother, then a knock on the door | Cincinnati.com | cincinnati.com
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Old 10-23-2011, 03:13 PM
Location: Mason, OH
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I had seen this story previously, and it does have some human interest content. But the one thing which does not change is they lost a son which cannot be reversed. Hoping someone goes forward and makes something of their life is admirable, I am not sure I could do it. Check back in 30 years and maybe we can tell how it really turns aout.
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Old 10-24-2011, 12:35 AM
Location: Cambridge, MA
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Default Goyguy goes off again

I only remember the first part of this sad tale, when it was thought that the victim's longtime friend with whom he'd been the night he was killed was the perpetrator. Seems that a new twist to the case came to light and someone else was actually to blame. I've scoured the Enquirer archives but haven't found the details. That's neither here nor there.

Unfortunately it comes as no surprise that two big White guys with issues wouldn't take kindly to running into a "person of color" in diversity-free Mt Washington. No one should doubt that it took a lot for the mother to see past her loss enough to wish her son's murderer well. But it wasn't as though he was out looking for trouble when he found it. I think the magnanimity which was even harder to find was that of the killer, who had to see past what led him to pull a knife and accept that the person who goaded him had a mom who'd lost her child.

Growing up a P & G brat meant for me that three years of high school were spent at an "international school" abroad. Let's just say that the kinds of experiences I had at that school turn some people into menaces to society and others into do-gooders. (I try not to menace society too much. ) Fast-forward some seventeen years. Boarding a subway in my adopted home city, I happened upon a group of yakking teenagers. One of them had on a T-shirt representing the location of my not-fondly-remembered school. An offhand remark from me was all it took for the kid to almost physically attack. Before I could answer one question he was firing another. It turned out that the next station was his stop. The train doors opened - "C'mon, we gotta go!" called his companions. He wasn't budging (while still not letting me put a word in edgewise), so they grabbed his arms and bodily propelled him onto the station platform as he cried, "Don't leave! WAIT!!!"
Goyguy epiphany! Not only did a lot of people have happier memories of that school, its nature of having a transient student body hailing from all over the place meant that few stayed closely connected. That subway encounter stayed with me and eventually brought about New England alumnae gatherings which drew dozens of folks from their teens to their sixties. I might've run the show, but those who attended made the show. Facebook, Twitter, etc notwithstanding, the delighted shrieks and shouts of 21st-Century graduates were just as loud as those of the older alums when they spotted former schoolmates. All kinds of stories developed out of those get-togethers, and there'll probably be more when the next one occurs.
If I'd kept my far from ideal associations with that school pushed to the forefront of my consciousness, and not made peace with the past and my "debtors/trespassers," all kinds of good things would've never happened. To this day I have no clue who that teenager on the train was. But his near-assault of someone who'd been educated at the same place led me to learn that forgiveness is a beautiful thing.
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