Grave Mistake! (Cincinnati, Dayton, Washington: mortgage broker, relocating, broker)

[jcar]

I feel your pain but Anderson is the Subs. and on the East Side. I would suggest getting into the City more (walnut hills for example) where there is much diversity and better quality living.

[mitchelldawn]

Try Westwood, it is a very diverse family oriented area with nice affordable homes.

[boostin4drcivic]

are you guys being serious with him, regarding the last two post telling him to move to walnut hills and westwood. both areas are horrible to live in, especially for a middle class person doing good for him or herself. ive grown up in cincy all my life and am VERY familiar with all the areas of the city.im black and im 26yrs old.i dont just know where these areas are, ive spent plenty of time in them throughout my years.i grew up in avondale which is horrible, and walnut hills is just as bad or worse.westwood is somewhat better but even in visiting my friend the last time i was over there it was about 4pm on a saturday and people were over there shooting guns off multiple times.he stays off of harrison near werk rd.my gf grew up in westwood as well.even in the mid to late 90's, westwood was def not a "safe" place.it def isnt now.same with walnut hills.to be honest with you, i have no clue when walnut hills has ever been safe. i find western hills to be a little safer than westwood.

sad to say if you want safe and a nice place to lay your head at night, your gonna have to look out of the city limits.i swear to you, as soon as i got some money, i moved outta the city and north to the burbs.i had my crazy younger years when i was into trouble and all that.now im older and wiser and wanted nothing more to do with the city or its crime. maybe you should try further north like springdale,forest park,wyoming,sharonville,woodlawn,etc. much nicer areas than youll find in cincy metro. also some better areas would be colerain and cheviot.in all the places i mentioned, you can be in the center of cincy in 15-30mins in morning traffic (depending on the flow).

and also, yes i understand your pain in anderson. i was treated the exact same way you described. when i first got outta college (UC). my first job was in anderson twp right off of salem ave. all the time i spent out there going to the stores and restaurants and such it was weird.for the 2 yrs i was out there, it was always constant stops and stares and looks at me as if i was a freakin alien. it was almost like they never had seen a black person out there before.i felt very uncomfortable out there.i dont like feeling like i have a bullseye on my forehead or a booger hanging outta my nose whenever i go somewhere.its very annoying and ignorant to say the least.outta all my experiences, i would never live out there. i really believe it to be true tho about them never seeing black or asian or latino people because i never saw any out there either.but just because they havent doesnt mean they have to look at you all stupid and weird and make you feel uncomfortable or like you dont belong there. its all in the demeanor...


PS: these arent in no way all of the good areas where youll be safe and comfortable and whatnot.im just shooting off of the top of my head. feel free to PM me and run any areas you had in mind past me or any q's about some areas.i myself live in fairfield.its a perfect place with good schools,safe,affordable houses, and attractive market.its basically a nice place where i def have never felt like an alien or i dont belong or wouldnt mind raising a family.ive bought a house out here and nothing but appreciation all around me and my area.ive been here for the last 4yrs.also plenty of building out here, home and commerce-wise.as far as traffic and proximity to the city...from my house to UC in rush hour traffic (she had to be @ work at 7:30-8am), it took my gf 25-35mins daily.

[Bigbluelandrover]

The Reeds

I am sorry you had to move here and experience what you have gone through. You will find that in the Cincinnati boards 98% of the posters here are white. I have lurked for a long time and I am a lifelong black Cincinnati woman. The "others" here are going to try to discredit you and tell you that their neighborhood "is not like that"..Well hello stupid but when was the last time YOU were the only white person in ANY social setting. Try going to a black baptist church in Avondale and see how many stares you get....Then and only then will you know what WE go through in some of these non-diverse neighborhoods. Cincinnati is still segregated, racist and behind the times. Sorry to say but Hyde Park would've been a better east side choice. Loveland is not too bad but still does not have a sizeable black population so "some" people will stare at you and look at you like "what are you doing over here?".

The northern suburbs are the ONLY place to live Finneytown, Springdale, Forest Park (although it is getting bad), Sharonville, WestChester, Liberty Township. Mason is ok-but they are snotty out that way and aren't welcoming to blacks either.

[Bigbluelandrover]

Boostin,
What part of Fairfield are you in? I live near the golf course. It is quiet out here but I feel ANY sense of neighborly connection. Neighbors don't look out for the children, if I go out of town I can't call my neighbor as ask them to keep an eye on the house. I hate that part of living here. Even blacks will not speak to one another or acknowledge one another...what is up with that?

[lydunn]

I have been in Cinti for 13 years and there are still uneducated, ignorant, close minded people who live here..and they are not older people either. I get the same thing how can you afford that...how can you afford a $300 purse or a a nice suv at your age. Come on cincy is not diverse, it's not open to interracial dating, it's not open to new ideas. Please people let's stop fooling ourselves. The majority of the down to earth people I meet are not from Cincy and they too (white americans) believe the same thing that I do.

[Bigbluelandrover]

Lydunn
What area are you from? My mom's family came here from Georgia in the 1920's. My mom has always told me that as an AA it is better if you move away after getting your degree. While life had some different plans for me, I do see where she was coming from. Our own community can be the worst, I remember working in a low-paying CSR job years ago and my biggest goal was to complete my degree and move on...Well my co-workers were always asking me "why are you trying to get a degree?". STUPID... just plain stupid. These same people are in the same job making about $3 more on the hour... Ughhh!... However, the same treatment comes from temp agencies and employers that want to nickel and dime you at every chance. No the area is not the most expensive HOWEVER, we aren't super cheap if you are moving to a NICE area...Most brand new homes here are close to $300k out in Liberty Twp and WestChester..
My husband is not from here (I could not date ANY of these lazy Cincy men) and he hates it here with a passion. It is that constant "what school did you go to?" ---meaning HS/what class are you from? that drives him up a wall.

[boostin4drcivic]

Originally Posted by Bigbluelandrover

Boostin,
What part of Fairfield are you in? I live near the golf course. It is quiet out here but I feel ANY sense of neighborly connection. Neighbors don't look out for the children, if I go out of town I can't call my neighbor as ask them to keep an eye on the house. I hate that part of living here. Even blacks will not speak to one another or acknowledge one another...what is up with that?

i live in fairfield twp off of bypass 4 near hamilton mason.i love it out here.in my neighborhood, the black and white kids play together all the time.its not a weird thing, surprisingly...haha!!! and i do have cool neighbors, although they were from cali (maybe that explains it). i wasnt HARDLY expecting it tho, because of course what you described is the norm. "they" usually dont want anything to do with us, as if were aliens. as far as blacks not speaking to each other, i dunno.when i lived in avondale we all did. also where my family lives now in west chester, they all do too. there is actually quite a few AA families spread out over their subdivision.very nice too...all the homes range from 350's & up. they've even had parties to invite all those in the neighborhoods to meet and greet, etc. which i thought was cool. i dunno tho, im just tired of this backwards ass place and want to find somewhere more progressive. i got my eyes set on cali.if that doesnt fit me well, i thing texas will be my next stop. something really needs to change in cincy, but its not gonna happen in my lifetime, so i gotta run. i will think that living here will make me LOVE going somewhere else so much better and easier. and yes, all my friends who have moved away from here, stay away from here and say they will never come back besides to visit friends and family. i dont think i could pay any of them to live here ever again.

[MABCle]

I've noticed that black's don't acknowledge each other in Cincinnati. I went to UC before transferring to OSU. In Cleveland I was acustomed to nodding my head or saying whats up to other young black men. When I tried this in Cincy some just stared, others just looked like I was crazy. That was a shock to me.

[Bigbluelandrover]

I don't know what it is either. I had parents that had a southern upbringing. We were taught to be cordial to one another. I lived in the south for a lil while and made several friends, so I know I am not the problem. When I went to UC the cultural center tried to have events where the leaders would 'teach' the black student to speak to each other--of course that did not happen. I couldn't tell you if UC is the same way now. I do know that the blacks from Cleveland stuck together and didn't care for Cincy people. It was confusing as could be. I have always had a variety of ethnic friends and at first I didn't have black friends at UC.
I have been through that area looking at houses and I do agree that community is very nice. Young couples, diverse and kids playing together the way they should be.