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Originally Posted by Flavia84
I feel like the statements in my original post are just pieces of information that I heard here and there. I'm hoping that people on this board would be able to tell me which ones are true and which ones aren't. It would be easier for me to make a decision if I had more accurate information about the social scene in both cities from people who had experience living there.
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It was just so one sided for Chicago I figured you'd already made up your mind and wanted someone to tell you, yep, you're right.
San Francisco:
You won't make solid friends in the way you're thinking of solid friends. It's unlikely you'd find a serious relationship as far as traditional wedding type stuff most likely.
It's more of a place with cool people who are having fun.
One of the things that would probably bother you is the west coast way of being friends and doing things together. If you go to the bar then you'd have bar friends. Gardening another group and so on and so on.
Many friends with weak ties rather than the Midwestern thing of core group of great friends who always spend the weekends together. Think casual.
Plus you have the thing where people will say I'll meet you at so and so or we should go to such and such, but really mean if I don't have something better to do. And it's not uncommon for them not to even mention that they aren't going to make it or never had the intention of going anyway.
So if you're used to the East Coast or Midwest you may find yourself getting pissed over many nights spent waiting at home.
You get that in the PacNW too.
Of coarse there's always the too PC issue.
"I like the more traditional feel of the Midwest."
You're not going to get this in SF. Might try Oakland, but still even there it may be a stretch.
"Bay Area seemed to be a little more casual - I'm not a huge fan of that but can live with it."
It is. Although a bit of both. You'd have to go to say Portland before frumpy becomes a mode of dress.
Money lasts a lot longer in Chicago.
How do you feel about naked people? If you spend enough time in SF you're going to just randomly see it.
How do you feel about smug people? SF again.
Not sure why you'd pick the burbs in SF, but the Loop in Chicago. Seems like you'd want to be in a more urban setting in SF, but can't afford it.
"Which city would fit me better in your opinion?"
Chicago for just about everything other than weather.
By all means visit SF. It's wonderful, just not for many of the things you're looking for long term.