Dating in DC (NoVa) vs Philly (32 year old woman) (living, better, places)

[28andrelocate]

Hi,
can anyone attest to dating scene for 32 year old woman in DC vs Philly? I'm in Philly now but may move to DC. Thanks!

[*Sweetkisses*]

Neither of them are great for dating imho.

[crystalballmagic]

I'm really not sure. I just moved to DC last week, but I moved with my boyfriend. So my knowledge is very limited about DC right now. In general, though, I believe the dating scene in DC is unique. It's pretty bad from what I hear. The dating scene is better in College Park, MD because of the younger crowd. I live in College Park!

As for Philly, I have no idea.

[TitanRam]

I believe this link will be of interest to you - The New, Interactive Singles Map.

[Port Pitt Ash]

Originally Posted by crystalballmagic

In general, though, I believe the dating scene in DC is unique. It's pretty bad from what I hear.

I can't speak about the dating scene for women, but 100% of my guy friends that have any experience with it say it's terrible. If I'm not mistaken all of my guy and girl friends have left or are making plans to leave. When you get right down to it I'm it might have something to do with COL.

A while ago I tried to contact some women living in Alexandria, VA to get information for a visit and it was overall the worst experience I've had as far as that goes. Which is a shame because at one point it was on the list of possible places to move.

Most people I know say the same thing about Philly, which is, "Great to visit, but I wouldn't live there."

One of my brothers lives in Philly and doesn't like it. Although he was comparing it on a things to do level to NYC and an overall livability level to Pittsburgh. The rest of the people who said that wouldn't really give me a solid reason.

Overall I'd think Philly would be better just from an overall size point of view.

A cousin of mine went to Denver to find her husband and then moved back to Columbus fwiw.

Out west in general seems to have more guys and the east more women in general.

Any other options between DC and Philly?

[Pine to Vine]

Even people in rural areas meet and fall in love. If a person has trouble dating, they should look at the mirror instead of the map.

[Port Pitt Ash]

Originally Posted by Pine to Vine

Even people in rural areas meet and fall in love. If a person has trouble dating, they should look at the mirror instead of the map.

Eh, sometimes. But there are certainly places that are more difficult than others. Usually it's just a case of being the complete opposite of the type of person a city attracts so it feels overwhelmingly negative. Especially if you hit a slump as most people do (assuming they don't settle first).

Thus you create a self fulfilling prophecy and/or downward spiral.

Occasionally the deck will be stacked against you just from the number of available singles of a one gender or the other.

Seattle is an example of the perfect storm when it comes to problems with dating and making friends.

Most of the people from rural areas I know/knew followed one of a few specific paths.

1. Got lucky and made it work with the HS gf/bf. Ended up divorced in the end though.
2. Went to the big bad city for college and met their spouse there before moving back to the small town.
3. Joined the military and met someone overseas who came with them when they returned.
4. Their kids are friends with another kid who's parents get divorced and since they see each other so often they give dating a try.

Very few people, at least from the people I've known, in rural areas meet a stranger at the bar and end up together for longer than a night or two.

In other words the dynamic in rural areas is different than in the city.

[travelingeverywhere]

Originally Posted by Pine to Vine

Even people in rural areas meet and fall in love. If a person has trouble dating, they should look at the mirror instead of the map.

This.

The dating stuff may be the most overdone thing on here.