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Old 09-11-2013, 07:22 PM
Location: NC
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Originally Posted by A.C.E 2007 View Post
His parents live in South Carolina and at 1 point, he too moved to SC. He was gone for a year and a half. He still did get the kids on his weekend, but why is it ok for him to move out of the state to seek better employment and not me?
His move didn't have a negative impact on the kids. He continued to have visitation with them on "his" weekends. He will no longer have "his" weekends with them if you move far away to California.
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Old 09-15-2013, 03:52 PM
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Default To move or not to move

Hello, I am currently living and PA. I was offered a position in the Wilmington that would really help us financially but I have a 13 year old daughter and a 9 year old daughter who really do not want to move. I need advice on if I should decline the position to make my kids happy or not. This move would help us tremendously because I would have my dream job and make a lot more money. My girls however are the most important things in my life. My 13 year old is in 8th grade and I know that is a hard age to pull away from friends and try to make new ones. Plus, my 8th grader is a very shy child with social anxiety and when I told her about possibly moving she got very worked up and depressed/afraid. My husband says we cannot let the kids run our lives but this is their health I am more concerned about. Any advice? Should I stay here and hope something comes up although for the past 5 years nothing has? Thanks
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Old 09-15-2013, 05:17 PM
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Move. Your 13 year old would have been starting a new school anyway. If anything, she'll gain socially with the experience of moving. Whether she likes it or not. Plus she's 13 , she doesn't like anything anyway.
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Old 09-15-2013, 05:42 PM
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No offense to the well meaning folks, but seeking legal advice on a forum, not to mention a custody issue ain't all that swift. Do you want to be the person, for the rest of your life, that is blamed or resented for taking kids away dad. Might not care now, well maybe I watch too much tv.

Good luck. Hard decision.
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