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Old 06-27-2014, 03:33 PM
 
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The title of my post pretty much sums up my question.
My husband and I are a caucasian couple from California, thinking about signing up with an adoption agency in Wilmington , NC. We would like to adopt an African America or Biracial baby. Would African American mothers from this area be interested in placing their baby with a couple like us? Id really appreciate any responses from Wilmington natives, especially African Americans for obvious reasons.
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Old 06-27-2014, 09:05 PM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ > Raleigh, NC
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I have no idea of what the answer to your question is, but I'm betting that I'm not the only one reading your post and wondering this:

Why not just sign up with adoption agencies in California? Or, at least, someplace closer to home? Is there something magical about getting a baby from Wilmington, NC that I'm unaware of?
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Old 06-27-2014, 11:27 PM
 
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Wait, what? You do know that there's no one person who can speak for all black mothers-to-be, right? I'm sure some would, some wouldn't.
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Old 06-27-2014, 11:46 PM
 
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I have no idea of what the answer to your question is, but I'm betting that I'm not the only one reading your post and wondering this:

Why not just sign up with adoption agencies in California? Or, at least, someplace closer to home? Is there something magical about getting a baby from Wilmington, NC that I'm unaware of?
I agree, this is a very strange post and I question the motive of the OP. If it really were about providing a better home for a child why would the race matter?
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Old 06-28-2014, 09:21 AM
 
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Thankyou for the responses! I really appreciate being challenged.

I know its a strange question to ask especially on this site! The reason we were thinking African American is because there are less families willing to adopt AA as their top choice (mostly due to shortage of AA adoptive families). We started off wanting to adopt from Haiti or Ethiopia, but a comment had stood out to me while investigating "white people are all about adopting from all these exotic foreign countries, but they some how fail to realize that once these kids are in the US they become African American." : p I guess this really stood out to me and caused me to start researching domestic adopion. The reason, NC is because we lived in Greensboro for a year and a half, so we wouldn't mind visiting the state. Also, the agencies are much cheaper there! CA agencies are very expensive and super competitive just like everything else in this state. Its not that we wouldn't be open to any race, in our research there seemed to be more of a "need" for AA.

But your questions are making me think! Maybe we should just be open to any race and see what happens. Having to go into a long explanation just doesn't seem right haha. Maybe I need to do some more soul searching because really, race doesn't matter to us, we just wanted to adopt where there was more need.

I appreciate any additional feedback!
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Old 06-28-2014, 09:23 AM
 
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Wait, what? You do know that there's no one person who can speak for all black mothers-to-be, right? I'm sure some would, some wouldn't.
This is probably the answer I was looking for.
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Old 06-28-2014, 09:52 AM
 
Location: Sneads Ferry, NC
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We would like to adopt an African America or Biracial baby. Would African American mothers from this area be interested in placing their baby with a couple like us?
If you include bi-racial children, you could find the child of a white mother and a black father. So you should also ask about the attitudes of the white mother about a California couple. I have no way to generalize. If I were an expectant mother, I would just ask if you were good people and whether your values corresponded with mine. I'd ask whether your home in California is a good place for a child.

So, why not just talk to the adoption agency you are interested in? I don't see any potential problems.
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Old 06-28-2014, 12:49 PM
 
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If you include bi-racial children, you could find the child of a white mother and a black father. So you should also ask about the attitudes of the white mother about a California couple. I have no way to generalize. If I were an expectant mother, I would just ask if you were good people and whether your values corresponded with mine. I'd ask whether your home in California is a good place for a child.

So, why not just talk to the adoption agency you are interested in? I don't see any potential problems.
That is true. Thankyou....

Yeah I am probably just overthinking!
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