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All very "popped collar and pearls, pink oxford shirts on guys, J.Crew U" - solidly upper middle class to upper class types.
What I found funny, and what I totally didn't expect as an income freshman, is my alma mater was full of solidly upper class and upper middle class types, who were not like that at all. Many outright rejected that sort of thing. Where I went had a fairly strong reputation for working with intelligent students with LDs and being a highly supportive community with a high tolerance for uniqueness among students. As such it attracted a lot of kids from upper class backgrounds looking for those things. I was rather surprised at the the sheer number of folks who had trusts and/or got generous stipends from their families.
Sheena, has your niece decided what to do? It seems like her & her lol are SOL she shouldve applied to easier schools, hofstra for example, not super fancy but moderatley known, she could have gotten a decent amount of money there. I got 18.5k and my ACT was WORSE than her SAT- hofstra looked at the breakdown and my math was 18...
Same thing with pace, I got 19 and my friend got 19.5k neither one of ua are geniuses.
I truly do feel bad for them but if they aren't looking to RD schools than no one can help. It seems like the onky options they have are
A gap year
A community college
Or they can suck it up
And I'm assuming it will be the latter. I'm very shocked that no one told this parent about EOP, HEOP or any of the other programs, makes yoy wonder how concerned mom was. If she waa truly micromanaging she could have at least done a good job and do her researxh!
I'm interested in knowing what the final decison will be so keep us poated!
Also, everyone I apologize for the atrocious amount of errors in my reaponse, im on my phone and there is a delay and its just beong stupid lol.
What I found funny, and what I totally didn't expect as an income freshman, is my alma mater was full of solidly upper class and upper middle class types, who were not like that at all. Many outright rejected that sort of thing. Where I went had a fairly strong reputation for working with intelligent students with LDs and being a highly supportive community with a high tolerance for uniqueness among students. As such it attracted a lot of kids from upper class backgrounds looking for those things. I was rather surprised at the the sheer number of folks who had trusts and/or got generous stipends from their families.
I wasn't directed where to apply, I did all of that research on my own. I did hours of research finding the best schools that would fit for me.
In my honest opinion, parents should stop trying to control their kids' lives. I see way too many kids I go to school with still controlled by their parents that still can't make decisions for themselves.
I agree, it's one thing to offer helpful advice and give opinions etc but in the end, it's the kid's life and they need to do the bulk of the research and decide for themselves, imo too many parents try to micromanage. Sure, you can be interested and can sit down w/ them and go over the financial aspect(s) to help prepare them but in the end, it's up to the student (even doing that a yr or so before they graduate is helpful). My parents drove me to a college i was particularly interested in and we went on the tour but they sat outside while I was interviewed (which Im sure happens these days as well).
I am not being obtuse because I don't think fancy is a good word to describe a college.
So what word or words would you prefer? Socially elite? Preppy? Traditional and expensive but not necessarily more difficult that other colleges? Legacy oriented? Crew and dressage enhanced?
Give me a phrase! Because I think you know the type of school we are all referencing, and "highly competitive" does not begin to describe them.
I think if you mean socially elite you should just say socially elite. Fancy is very vague.
Edited to add: I think the words we choose are important. That does not make me obtuse.
I think words are very important also. "Fancy" was not my choice of a word, and yet; the poster who used that term did manage to convey to me, the meaning of "fancy", with reference to colleges.
Google search also understands it, when paired with the word "college". Try it.
You'll see. "fancy works".
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