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Well, it's two years later. I wonder how this guy did or is doing. I didn't read all the posts. Did anyone suggest a craft, electrician, plumber? They can make as much or more than many college grads these days. And you don't have a huge loan to pay off when you get that degree.
I can but I can't make a lot without college. Also in 2020 I read you'll have to have a college degree to be able to make more than minimum wage. I'd like to go to college now so I could enjoy it, its said the first two years are when it all happens, so if you transfer later you might miss out and end up alone because everyone locks in a group of friends by the time. Finding single women then, I don't even know about that. You need college or the military to get anywhere in life in this country. That's what the news says. They stress you need college though.
So get a job at a place like Walmart, which helps pay for tuition for its' students. My niece works at a hospital and her degree is also being paid for by her employer. If all you're going to do is look for the obstacles, then you won't make it.
You have never told us a thing about what you're good at, what you're not good at, and what you actually want.
It sounds like the military will be too much stress for you, frankly. I don't think you should go to college with the aim of meeting women. If you had a problem meeting women in high school college will not be any different. If you weren't a popular party type in high school, you won't be in college either. Not saying this to discourage you but just so you can take that off the table in your decisions. People with issues will do better trying to meet people in Meetup groups or similar where you can get to know people one on one.
Decide your career, decide your social life, don't try to combine them.
Do you get any sort of counseling? Have you ever had vocational counseling?
okay, well, even if you were to move to another country, how would your situation differ?
your thinking is scattered. and if you do have issues, do you have a diagnosis? are you on meds?
the country is not your problem. if you can't afford college there are still opportunities, but it's up to you to find them. what about training programs for plumbing or welding? college isn't for everyone, but it doesn't mean you will end up living in a box.
figure out what you need to do to get your head together and go out and find your life.
you are capable of so much more than you think. the only limitations you have are the ones you place on yourself. good luck to you.
ETA: sorry, i see now you have anxiety, OCD. you NEED to see your doc and test for the MTHFR gene mutation. do a search on google and read about it. it is fairly common. i have this myself. i now take a compounded supplement of folate and B vitamins and have been anxiety free for over two years. be well; you're too young to give up on yourself.
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College is not for everyone. College may not be for you at your age. I can understand what you’re explaining. Being older and a lot more experienced, maybe I can lend some perspective.
I dropped out of high school. I was angry, drunk, and stupid at the time. I moved out when I was 18 (I’m currently 54 years old). At the time I dropped out, President Reagan was remaking the United States military. I looked at enlisting. I got polite smiles. I got laughed at. The military didn’t want me. I knocked about. I worked dead end jobs. I learned things the hard way. I had some hard times. I went hungry many times. More than once I went as long as two weeks with no food.
I worked as a janitor. I drove a truck. I fueled airliners. I worked in a factory. I worked as a manager and a trainer. I waited and bussed tables in a hotel. I worked in a record store. I helped paint airplanes. I towed airplanes. I threw suitcases. I made keys and engraved gifts. I drove a taxi. I helped kids with after school programs. I was a licensed exterminator. I volunteered with at risk boys for 11 years. I worked as many as three jobs at once. I learned to have fun. Because I was always broke, I learned to work on my own car, sometimes alongside the freeway. I met and worked with some awesome and very memorable people.
So what, right? Working for minimum wage isn’t the end of the world. I learned how to work hard. I learned to appreciate what I earn. I learned to do without when I have to.
Remember me writing that college may not be for you right now? Higher education wasn’t for me until I was 46 years old. I went to college and earned my associates degree. I applied to and was accepted to nursing school. I graduated from nursing school and earned my nursing license.
I work now as a nurse. I feel that I am a better nurse because of all my experience earning minimum wage. I get people. I understand where they are coming from and where they have been. I am a nurse that knows how to empty the trash in my department. I know how to empty the laundry hampers. If the floor has a mess, I know how a broom and a mop work. I know how to listen.
Living life the hard way taught me compassion. I learned how to be gentle AND stern at the same time. I learned I have patience I didn’t know I possessed.
Education isn’t the end all and be all of adult life. Give yourself a chance.
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The School of Hard Knocks taught me:
How to live with a roommate.
How to wash and fold my own laundry.
How to grocery shop.
How to cook ... I’m a damned good cook!
How to do dishes.
How to balance a checkbook.
How to live inside my own means.
How to pay cash.
And finally, just how damned tough I really am.
You’ve got this. I have faith in you.
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