Katiana, you are not a wet blanket. I appreciate the thoughts.
I'm not one to recklessly jump out of the frying pan into the fire. As I said in my previous post, my husbands family lives out west and we go twice a year to our place as well. We did lots of research and hands on checking in our area (FAR AWAY FROM DENVER) and have gotten to know our neighbors and the locals as well. To my knowledge, there have been no tornados in our parts (1 hour from Grand Junction). Even if one shows up though, it's not the same as being in Tornado alley. Snow I can handle and even enjoy and the heat is fine if there isn't the humidity...and there isn't. The teens I've been around in our area of Colorado (when we've gone to the drive-in or 4th of July festivities, fairs, etc..) have been fantastic in comparison to what I see and hear daily in Indy. Sure...there will always be some draw backs but we're willing to take the risk!
It sounds to me like YOU should consider a move though. Although no place is perfect, the area we are moving Northwest of Denver really is a paradise to us compared to Indianapolis or even downtown Denver as you describe which wasn't even an option when we were looking.

We are getting far AWAY from large cities.
Things change though...ya never know what it will be like anywhere in 10-20 years we just hope to enjoy as much as possible for as long as possible.
Thanks again and best wishes to you.
Reese