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Old 11-05-2009, 04:28 PM
 
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Hello, I am new to this and new to Columbus. Just moved here from Virginia. Been here now for about five mths. Just got a job that I will be starting at OSU. It sounds great and I was excited about it. I am 30 yrs old, and have two kids I just moved in with my dad to get back on my feet. we were getting along well until I started to see this guy I met here. I don't know anyone and we are just friends with benefits. He has a girlfriend. I just got out of a no good mariage. But, I need advice on is to whether I should stay here, or go back home since, my father and I are physically fighting in the house, he drinks all day. I want to stay here and work but, I need some place to stay with my kids. If I go home I have no place or no job because my husband took everything I owned and left us just with clothes. I am very stressed out. I know there is way more opportunity here than where I come from. That was my whole purpose was to come here and have a clean fresh start for me and my kids but, can't really stay with my dad anymore unless one of gets hurt because, it's not working out. If anyone has any good suggestions please let me know.

Sincerely,
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Old 11-05-2009, 04:48 PM
 
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Gut it out for a few months and pocket every dime you can get, so long as your kids are safe and you're not getting your ass beat every night. Then get an apartment. If you can't stand another minute with pops reach out to social services; this country is f'ed up beyond belief, but we generally have a kind heart for single mothers who aren't ghetto trash. They should point you in the right direction.


Beyond the short-term survival advice, there is nothing else I can really say. I dont' want to tell a grown woman what to do with her life. Just remember that when you decided to have kids you essentially made a pact with them that says "it's not about me anymore." But them in the best school districts you can. You can do it.

If you need any help, or contact numbers with social services, PM me. I wish you and your kids the best. Keep fighting. It'll get better.
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Old 11-06-2009, 06:00 PM
 
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My opinion...you need to aggressively work to get your own housing now...you have kids and they/you don't deserve that environment....are you from NOVA?

Like the above poster said...reach out to social services and see what housing programs they have available...i'm sure they would have something for you..

good luck and be safe..
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Old 11-06-2009, 10:02 PM
 
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Thankyou, both so very much! I will take heed to the words you have said to me. And I will try to get help. I"m from Virginia so, like I said, it's very nice to have this sort of thing to get some kind of advice or help from people when you have no one to talk to. Once, again much appreciated!
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Old 11-07-2009, 03:15 PM
 
Location: Cleveland OH
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Find Sugar Daddy.
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Old 11-08-2009, 07:33 PM
 
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Call the cops on your dad and then live in his house while he's in jail.
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Old 11-12-2009, 03:25 PM
 
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Dear Cameron12 - I agree that You Can Do It. And I agree that moving again so soon could be disruptive for your kids. Also, I strongly recommend going to Alanon meetings (for families of people with a drinking problem). It could REALLY make coexisting with your father more workable until you're on your feet and can afford your own place. Don't hesitate -- just give it a try, for your own good and the good of your kids. (Info at Al-Anon/Alateen Information Service (614-253-2701), 1561 Old Leonard Ave, 43219 -- website is <Al-Anon & Alateen of Central Ohio, chair@coafg.org>) After all, there's a chance that you entered into and stayed in a disastrous marriage due to habits and attitudes developed when living with an alcoholic parent. (I know this from personal experience.) Also, your "friend with benefits" has a girlfriend, so please be careful with your heart, and the rest of you -- and consider whether this is more dead-end behavior to avoid. (I don't know how old your kids are, but they will learn by watching you.) Last, I suspect you are stronger and more resourceful that you know and that you just get scared and exhausted and discouraged sometimes. But hang in there. All the best to you!!
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