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Old 03-22-2013, 09:36 PM
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Originally Posted by random83274 View Post
I originally posted here a few months ago:
Relocating to Connecticut - help!

I'm coming from Dallas. I love it there. It has everything I want in an urban setting with 100s of restaurants/bars, but there's countless suburbs that I can drive to on a whim and find something on a drop of a hat. I'm in my late 20s, single, male.

My company is relocating me for my job in the Hartford area. I generally need to be in the general Hartford area probably on a busy week about 3-4 times a week for the most part, and there will be probably many weeks I will probably only need to be in 1-2x a week. I can telecommute the rest of the time.

That said, needing to stay within a 30 minute commute (driving) is not absolutely necessary and I'm willing to live in a reasonable distance (50-75 miles) if necessary so I don't go crazy from boredom. This is especially true after this past week I've been here for work and finally checking out what the towns in the area have to offer.

Now, I'm not extremely needy by any means. I lived in Syracuse a few years, and it was fine. The downtown (Armory Square) was great, and it had tons to offer. It had a great nightlife scene where everything was in a safe walking area. It had food all around town that didn't take long at all to find anything new to eat/drink without the need to use Yelp/Foursquare to find anything. Prior to going there for school, I heard a bunch of bad things but it turned out to be awesome. I was thinking Hartford would be the same. Unfortunately, it isn't turning out to be that case. I spent the whole day exploring between Hartford and New Haven, and all I found was depressed and run down suburbs. Everyone I spoke with in Hartford said, "West Hartford has great stuff."

Maybe I'm looking in the wrong spot, but the Blue Black Square that seems to be the only thing is really just a few local shops and a bar or 2. The Irish bar is nice, but it'll get old extremely fast I can tell. The square/town center seems like it could be great, but coming from Dallas it is really nothing more than a strip mall that appears like a nightlife spot (minus any actual nightlife). Is this the biggest citywalk and congregation of young professionals in CT (except for the NYC suburb towns)? I drove through New Haven, and it seemed to live up to its reputation of what I heard about that Yale is gorgeous and everywhere else is a dump.

I know a long commute may be a little stressful or possibly a little pricier for gas, but really I just can't see myself going 'home' to a duplex built in 1920 and counting down the days every day until I can make it down to NYC for the weekend, or get out of town on business. It's extremely disheartening when all I can read online or hear from people locally is they can't wait to move out of the state. I was just sitting at a burger place, and I overheard the waiters talking to each other about how much they can't wait to get out.
Saw your post and wanted to respond, thought I could provide insight from a fellow single 26 year old male. I was in a similiar spot as you. I went to college here locally, but am originally from NY. Westchester area. Now living in Hartford working for a large company. I used to live in West Hartford, but the rent kept going up so I got pissed off and moved to Hartford.

I won't compare any places for you since thats already been done and probably won't help you out much since you are here.

There are two ways to look at your situation...the need for socializing(establishing friends) and nightlife (going out at night clubbing, casino, bars). When you start out its almost like they are two seperate elements since you probably have no friends here...

-Bar and Toads Place in New Haven. Someone mentioned these previously and I agree. Toads place is the definition of a college party on saturday night when they run the actual "dance party". It's a fun place to go for a night. It's a younger crowd so you may be pushing out of that... but still i would check it out. Bar seems to attract a slightly older crowd and is very nice to hangout.

- Hartford, is well....a joke in some respects, but in other ways can be very nice. I live in Hartford and don't find it a great place to be for younger people. There is a constant undertone of "darkness" downtown at night. Much different then new haven which is a lot more lively. Although, in terms of safety I will say I was there last night and the police presence was much more impressive. There is Pour House, Russian Lady and Up or on the Rocks. I would check the websites to see what theme they are running before you go. Check out Tisane once you have a friend or two.

-Check For Larger Events- this is key in this area, I believe the site is Zevents.com that has a listing of all activites going on.. I actually would plan things weeks in advance (its not like NYC where you can almost certainly find a major DJ event going on every weekend). One night I drove to Providence RI cause it was for a DJ event i wanted to go to, another night I hit up the XL center.

-West Hartford- if you dont have a wingman or friends to go out with, I think its tougher to do west hartford. Feels more uptight, but thats just my opinion. Check out Cuvee on the weekends for bar/lounge atmosphere. Definitely lots girls here in the center...but many travel in packs of friends (they grew up with usually)


I know you didn't mention it directly, but sounds like you want more socialization which would probably calm down the desire to run to NYC or other areas every weekend . I don't know your work situation and how social it is. i work in a company where probably half the people there are looking forward to retirement.

-For me the best thing that helped me out with my life right now was my decision to go back to Grad school. It's kept me busier and occupied some of those time gaps where its easy to feel depressed. Also, its great for interacting with other people and being around younger people.

-Gym, lots of people always suggest this, but I dont see it as a great avenue for meeting friends. Maybe picking up girls, but thats if you want to risk turning you gym into a hunting ground.

-Meetup.com I would try this site and look to schedule events in advance so you know whats going on with your calendar.

If I had to pick a spot to live in CT it would be New Haven over Hartford. It's centerally located for me and close to NY and still in driving distance to RI beaches. I prefer New Haven nightlife over Hartford any day. I think you are in for an adjustment regardless of what actions you take to shore up your nightlife activites and social life.

CT is one of those places where it's average to below average for our age group (with the exception of stamford as I feel this is really close to NY). It's a great place to have a family or own some nice land in my opinion. There are some great parks and beautiful areas, I would try to appreciate that aspect of it.

Worst case, you leave in a year or two and move out. That's my plan if I don't get promoted in a year
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Old 03-22-2013, 10:20 PM
Location: Coastal Connecticut
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Stamford on its own doesn't really hold up to New Haven though, but the short-ish train ride to NYC certainly makes up for that.
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Old 03-23-2013, 08:45 AM
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Originally Posted by Stylo View Post
Stamford on its own doesn't really hold up to New Haven though, but the short-ish train ride to NYC certainly makes up for that.
Agreed. Stamford is desirable because of its proximity to NYC and for the wealth that flows through the city. Outside of that, New Haven trumps Stamford in the areas of nightlife, restaurant diversity, arts and culture. It's much more vibrant and colorful than Stamford - a subjective criteria that many often overlook when comparing the two cities.

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Old 03-23-2013, 08:58 AM
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Cough cough, we've been down this road before. There are an equivalent quantity of 25+ Zagat rated restaurants in Greenwich/Stamford versus New Haven. New haven is also a much younger crowd- college aged vs more of a working/professional vibe in Stamford. It goes along with the respective city reputations- college town vs financial/professional hub.
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Old 03-23-2013, 09:40 AM
Location: Coastal Connecticut
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I don't even want to start, but Zagat also skews older.
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Old 03-23-2013, 12:28 PM
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A place is what you make of it. I know Fairfield County has SONO but that is a long drive, its basically south Norwalk and there are lots of bars and things to do if you are single....Middletown is supposed to have fun bars..it is a college town (Welseylan University) so you would have younger nightlife....Milford is a bit far for you but I remember going to see my friends band play there...its near the long island sound and there are bars and somewhat of a night life there....I went to West Hartford for the first time a couple weeks ago and I thought it was awesome for a single person...I went to a coffee shop there and I was literally the oldest person there and I am not even forty yet. You 're not gonna be single forever are you...you might just find the right girl and wanna stay around here..,,hey then you will be asking where the playgrounds are...ha ha.
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Old 03-25-2013, 04:46 PM
Location: Glastonbury, CT
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Hmmm, where to start? I moved here six months ago from Sarasota, FL and have been pretty miserable in terms of making friends/getting out at night. Sarasota is not a big city but has a decent-sized downtown and plenty of other little hubs of activity throughout town. I knew a lot of people and was comfortable walking into any bar alone, knowing I would find someone to talk to if that's what I wanted to do. Even the strangers were easy to talk to; many of them became my friends (a rather obvious observation, yes).

I find it hard to relate to people here. I'm not sure if it's just cultural differences or perhaps that Florida cities are melting pots of people from all over and Connecticut is full of people from Connecticut. Not only did they all go to school together but they generally seem to have little interest in integrating new people into their circles.

I am 31 and not a fan of the nightlife options people have mentioned in Hartford. A bunch of just-out-of-college kids getting wasted and keeping an eye out for someone to take home for the night, or, again, just those exclusive groups of people who aren't interested in forming new friendships.

I have made a few friends, and one of them is my personal trainer at the gym. So, what do you know, you CAN make friends at the gym!

My friends at home tended to lie somewhere between 'hipster' and just, I don't know, 'average joe'. At one point I researched 'hipsters in Connecticut' and what I found as far as interesting shows and events that I might enjoy seemed to all be in New Haven, just as others keep saying.

All told, it's tough to leave your comfort zone, and maybe you will have the same difficulty making friends. If so, think of it as an excuse to catch up on all those books you've been meaning to read... Also, hike a lot! Outdoor Connecticut is AMAZING.
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Old 04-10-2013, 02:58 PM
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"Outside of Boston and NYC, educated and affluent residents have since moved to the suburbs."

That's true of Hartford, Bridgeport, Waterbury, etc., unfortunately. But it is definitely not true of New Haven. Some sections of New Haven have lower-income levels like Hartford, but the other half of the city is more educated and affluent than just about any suburban town. Gentrification has hit the area full blast, just as it has in the other big EC cities. See http://www.city-data.com/forum/29065736-post115.html
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Old 10-23-2014, 03:56 PM
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Default Where did you end up in Hartford

I am a young (22 yrs old)female professional that just got a job in Hartford. I am curious, where did you end up living and how do you like it? I have to move up to Hartford fairly soon and want to know the best and most affordable areas to check out.
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Old 10-23-2014, 10:11 PM
Location: Coastal Connecticut
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Originally Posted by Treesamia View Post
I am a young (22 yrs old)female professional that just got a job in Hartford. I am curious, where did you end up living and how do you like it? I have to move up to Hartford fairly soon and want to know the best and most affordable areas to check out.
"Best" and "most affordable" don't always line up in CT.

West Hartford is a favorite in that area for twentysomethings. Manchester if you want to save as much money on rent as possible.
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