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Old 01-31-2013, 04:01 PM
 
Location: Coastal Northeast
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...and people wonder why I rarely respond to this dude's threads.

 
Old 01-31-2013, 04:57 PM
 
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Let's get this train back on track...........


Nep, everybody will have gripes about everywhere, that's a given.

Before you back out of the move to Charlotte, take a look at some of the posts from the people that are downing the place. I'm sure you'll notice that "their" M.O. is that they just b*tch and moan about any little thing......


In closing, i say this to you nep:



Ray Charles - Hit The Road Jack (Original) - YouTube


Enjoy Charlotte and good luck!
 
Old 01-31-2013, 05:26 PM
 
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So after several weeks on the road, umpteen miles on your car, you've come to the conclusion that there is absolutely no place in this entire country to where you could relocate. And given all those options you've decided that the best place to be is to sit home with mom and dad.

Neither densely urban Boston/ NYC, with uber expensive housing and several months of cold/ cooler weather is going to give you anything you want in life. It's some of the three major things you didn't want. What is going on with your thinking ? Don't start with the number of gays. There are gay people everywhere. You don't need 50,000 gay guys- you want a relationship- you just need one and he's not likely to be found in bar.

No place is perfect, everyone is telling you that. Get in the car and go to Charlotte- good luck
 
Old 01-31-2013, 05:36 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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So after several weeks on the road, umpteen miles on your car, you've come to the conclusion that there is absolutely no place in this entire country to where you could relocate. And given all those options you've decided that the best place to be is to sit home with mom and dad.

Neither densely urban Boston/ NYC, with uber expensive housing and several months of cold/ cooler weather is going to give you anything you want in life. It's some of the three major things you didn't want. What is going on with your thinking ? Don't start with the number of gays. There are gay people everywhere. You don't need 50,000 gay guys- you want a relationship- you just need one and he's not likely to be found in bar.

No place is perfect, everyone is telling you that. Get in the car and go to Charlotte- good luck
There is no perfect place, even in this entire country with all of its options. But for some reason, I can't think of a better option than Charlotte, although I have two concerns about it. (1) Will I be able to adjust to the more southern culture? (2) Will the gay population be sufficient and quality enough compared to greater Hartford?

If the answer to those two questions is yes, then I think it will be the perfect place lol. I think I'm gonna try it for a month. If it's that bad, then I'll probably just head down to southeast FL and settle there, because it has a huge gay population and no southern culture. But then there's more problems there...such as extreme overdevelopment and never ending heat & humidity
 
Old 01-31-2013, 05:47 PM
 
Location: CT
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Well, I am supposed to start driving down tomorrow. But now I am having second thoughts. I am reconsidering moving back to NYC. Although, I know if I do that, I will never be able to own property in my life, due to the ultra extreme cost of living. I've also been reconsidering Boston.
I think you would benefit from living in each major city of each state for a month at a time; then you will have enough first hand knowledge to make your choice. I can see you're torn, why not try it?
 
Old 01-31-2013, 06:27 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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I think you would benefit from living in each major city of each state for a month at a time; then you will have enough first hand knowledge to make your choice. I can see you're torn, why not try it?
LOL. Let's see...with about 50 major cities in the country, that will take about 4 years!

Well, my parents gave me $300 to assist me on my trip, even though I already have a good chunk of money in the bank.
 
Old 01-31-2013, 08:54 PM
 
Location: Live in NY State, work in CT
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My trip was only 6-weeks, not 4 months. I was not really that impressed with Denver. It's quite brown looking and the people are either hippie/liberal or cowboyish. Nice scenery though on the Rocky Mountains.
I've long given up on this "schizophrenic" forum, but if it helps any, a good friend of mine from college who is gay moved to the Denver area (from Boston, he's originally from Oklahoma and also lived in St. Louis for awhile, he hated it there) and he thrives there.
 
Old 01-31-2013, 09:53 PM
 
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nep321, you already know you hate it here so ignore everyone who came into this thread to create doubt in your choice and just move to North Carolina. I swear, as soon as the posters started piling on with the negative comments about NC or your living arrangements, I knew it would create second thoughts.
 
Old 01-31-2013, 11:31 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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nep321, you already know you hate it here so ignore everyone who came into this thread to create doubt in your choice and just move to North Carolina. I swear, as soon as the posters started piling on with the negative comments about NC or your living arrangements, I knew it would create second thoughts.
Well, I'm all packed up and leaving tomorrow morning. If I don't like Charlotte, I will simply leave and probably just head on down to southeast FL. I ruled out southeast FL in favor of Charlotte, because I didn't want constant heat & humidity 24/7, overdevelopment with no natural space, tons of traffic, high cost of living and one of the worst job markets in the nation. And Charlotte is a shorter plane flight to CT. So we'll see. I really don't have a better option at this point that I can think of, and need to move on with life.
 
Old 01-31-2013, 11:44 PM
 
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Good bye

The last couple pages on the Charlotte board have been filled with people being welcoming and kind to you. Some have offered to help you through your adjustment. Give it a year, not a month. A month tells you nothing. It's a big metro area covering two states. It's going to take some time to explore it and see just where you might fit in best. Besides, it takes a year in a new place to feel at home. A month won't do it.

You have a place to stay and thus an address for a potential employer to see that you're resident. That helps. You've got lists of places that can be possible employers. You'll do fine, you really will, just give it time. This is a good move for you.

Safe journey.
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