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Old 01-31-2013, 10:12 AM
 
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We are in our early 30s and we've been married for 3 years. We separated couple weeks ago and I moved from NJ to CT. I'm looking for a divorce as soon as possible and wondering how soon I can file a divorce here in CT? I heard that I need to live here at lease for a year before filing but don't know if that's true. Can I file legal separation if I cannot file divorce now.

For alimony, we do not have children and have no properties to split. She's a part time waitress, and I have about double of her income. is it a big chance that I will pay for alimony ?

Thanks a millón!
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Old 01-31-2013, 10:58 AM
 
Location: Central, CT
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It sounds like you'll have a simple divorce unless she's mentioned alimony. Its something she would ask for in the filing not something that just "happens." If you can break up amicably you can save money by using a the same attorney. Use the lawyer finder at ctbar.org when you contact them let them know you don't have much you want quick and cheap.
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Old 01-31-2013, 10:58 AM
 
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You need to speak to a lawyer - random strangers on an internet board is not the way to go for something as serious as a divorce

Your post is confusing. Were you both living in NJ and you you alone just moved here. Is your wife still in NJ ? Are you still a NJ resident? It may then be possible to file in NJ.

CT is not exactly a one year residency state. It can be one year living here, but it can also be one year a resident from start of proceedings until the dissolution of marriage decree is finalized. Confusing , yes

CT is an equitable distribution state. That means the court tallies up both parties assets, their earnings potential, length of marriage, etc. and then decides how to split any property or arrange for alimony. Each situation will be different. In addition to property, assets can be cars, bank accounts, pension plans, 401Ks, IRA's etc.

Please to speak to a lawyer to figure out which state and how to file.
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Old 01-31-2013, 11:46 AM
 
Location: Western NC
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I am not in CT, but I have gone through divorce. I can tell you that for me, I was told that everything right down to your toothbrush is Marital property. My Ex did have to give me a good part of his 401K because we were married for the most part of him build it up. I did not get alimony.

I have looked up the residency thing in CT and from what I understood, you do need to live there 1 year before you are a resident, but if you were a resident before and wanted to move back and claim your residency again, you can go to court and plee your case to a judge and could get it then.

Good Luck, but I do agree with willow wind, you should seek a lawyer as they know the best.
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Old 01-31-2013, 12:26 PM
 
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Thanks for the replies, they helps a lot !

She will move to another state too this week. We lived in NJ for about 1 year in a rented apt, before that we lived in NYC.

I think my case should be simple, by "no properties to split" I meant literally no asset, 0 savings, no pension plans, 401Ks, IRA's, even no cars because I just got out of school and start working recently. But it seems my boss likes me and I expect a bigger position for a not too long time, whereas she is still working part-time. That's why I wanna it sooner than later. She will request an alimony last time we talked.

Is legal separation will do any help?

You guys are right and I will consult a lawyer soon.
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Old 01-31-2013, 08:55 PM
 
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We are in our early 30s and we've been married for 3 years. We separated couple weeks ago and I moved from NJ to CT. I'm looking for a divorce as soon as possible and wondering how soon I can file a divorce here in CT? I heard that I need to live here at lease for a year before filing but don't know if that's true. Can I file legal separation if I cannot file divorce now.

For alimony, we do not have children and have no properties to split. She's a part time waitress, and I have about double of her income. is it a big chance that I will pay for alimony ?

Thanks a millón!
Why can't you just file in New Jersey?
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Old 02-01-2013, 12:19 PM
 
Location: Connecticut
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A friend told me that you can be required to one year alimony for every two years married here in Connecticut. So the 18 year he endured the nastist, most selfish woman in the world means that he has to pay her alimony for 9 years. He has to struggle to make ends meet now and she is living it up. This b**** even had the nerve to say to an arbitration panel that she should not have to work unless he gets a second job. Sorry, to me the divorce laws favor the woman too much these days IMHO. They were written when it was the man who cheated and the wife just stayed home and took care of the kids. Jay
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Old 02-01-2013, 07:52 PM
 
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A friend told me that you can be required to one year alimony for every two years married here in Connecticut. So the 18 year he endured the nastist, most selfish woman in the world means that he has to pay her alimony for 9 years. He has to struggle to make ends meet now and she is living it up. This b**** even had the nerve to say to an arbitration panel that she should not have to work unless he gets a second job. Sorry, to me the divorce laws favor the woman too much these days IMHO. They were written when it was the man who cheated and the wife just stayed home and took care of the kids. Jay
He just should have dumped her sooner.
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Old 02-01-2013, 08:08 PM
 
Location: Northwest Hills, CT
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A friend told me that you can be required to one year alimony for every two years married here in Connecticut. So the 18 year he endured the nastist, most selfish woman in the world means that he has to pay her alimony for 9 years. He has to struggle to make ends meet now and she is living it up. This b**** even had the nerve to say to an arbitration panel that she should not have to work unless he gets a second job. Sorry, to me the divorce laws favor the woman too much these days IMHO. They were written when it was the man who cheated and the wife just stayed home and took care of the kids. Jay
Really? I was married four years and the lawyer I consulted with told me I probably wasn't entitled to alimony (even though I made half of what he did). At the time I just wanted out (he was a serial cheater) so I didn't argue.
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Old 02-03-2013, 10:30 AM
 
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A friend told me that you can be required to one year alimony for every two years married here in Connecticut. So the 18 year he endured the nastist, most selfish woman in the world means that he has to pay her alimony for 9 years. He has to struggle to make ends meet now and she is living it up. This b**** even had the nerve to say to an arbitration panel that she should not have to work unless he gets a second job. Sorry, to me the divorce laws favor the woman too much these days IMHO. They were written when it was the man who cheated and the wife just stayed home and took care of the kids. Jay
I couldn't agree more

I too have heard countless horror stories like you described jay. I have never been married and to be honest I had no idea that alimony existed like this its horrible.
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