If you're looking for good school systems stay in the Farmington Valley or consider West Hartford. Avoid Bloomfield and Windsor. I don't know about Wethersfield.
Once you know the back roads commutes become less troublesome. I live in West Simsbury and I've rarely had a problem getting into Hartford, or anyplace else. The airport is 25 minutes away as well.
Avon, Simsbury, West Simsbury, Granby and East Granby (which offer reasonable access to the highway and airport), Farmington, West Hartford... all interesting areas. I would avoid Bloomfield and Windsor, but that's me. The realtors would be very happy to sell you something in that area.
