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Old 01-12-2018, 04:02 PM
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Anyone have opinions on this program? My son was 6 weeks premature and we noticed awkward crawl and feeding issues at 14 months. Dr. said this program might help. He has been in it 3 months but started walking at 15 months. I don't think they had much to do with it. Feeding specialist comes once a week for 1 hour but since I make a decent salary I paying a lot per month for her 4 visits. Son is not improving with solids and now struggling whether to end it. Feel like we don't get much support, very minimal for the money.

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Old 01-12-2018, 04:42 PM
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Our situation isn't too similar though I'll tell you anyway. Our child was behind on speech at about the age of 3. So we called them and they came out to evaluate her and told us she did indeed have a speech problem, but they couldn't help us because cognitively and motor skills were on par and that she had to be lacking in at least two things for them to help her. So we went to a private therapy place for speech and paid big bucks for her therapy. After about 8 weeks of sessions she was already speaking at a normal pace for her age. So we were able to stop. It was well worth the money.

So does throwing money at it and getting help privately sometimes help? In my experience, yes it does. Howevrer, if you think you aren't getting your money's worth I would perhaps get opinions from doctors etc on the issue. If my daughter's speech hadn't cleared up as quick as it did and I didn't see any progress at all then I likely wouldn't have kept paying for it.
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Old 01-12-2018, 04:43 PM
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By the way, walking at 15 months is still within the normal range.
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Old 01-15-2018, 02:35 PM
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I don't think that in your case it's worth it to pay for Birth to Three visits.

Play with child a lot. Have lots of interested adults play with child, talking, baby games, gross motor games, fine motor games, songs, etc. Don't worry about feeding issues, as long as child isn't severely underweight. I've seen whacko parents who think their child is underweight when the kid is actually normal, or even overweight, just not morbidly obese like the rest of the family. I've seen parents continually force feed normal kids, until the child is finally obese. It's very, very rare for me to see a 15 month old who has a true feeding issue - mostly normal thin kids whose parents were thin children, with worried parents. And don't think that just because the professional involved, who stands to make money treating the kid, says the kid needs treatment, that the kid really DOES need treatment. I saw a nutritionist at CCMC teach a parent of an overweight child, in multiple visits, how to encourage the child to take in MORE calories, to make the child even more obese, to satisfy the worried mother! I could not believe it!

I've seen normal children who gagged on anything thicker than thickened liquids until they were almost two years old. And they all outgrew it. Most of these feeding issues, the kid will just outgrow with time, and there's not much you can or should do about it.

It is completely normal for a child to not walk until 16 months old, with nothing wrong with the child. 34 weeks gestation is not that early, usually they do just fine. Average age at walking is 13 months old. So when you consider that your child walked at 15 months, and was 6 weeks early, your child walked right on time.

If you ask the pediatrician, and the pediatrician says don't worry, there's probably nothing to worry about. If you express concerns repeatedly, of course the pediatrician is going to refer you to Birth to Three for an evaluation, even if your child doesn't need it. And if you have to pay for it out of pocket, of course the provider is going to say that you need services.

My recommendation, unless your child is severely underweight or has other medical or developmental issues that you haven't mentioned, is to stop the services, and just get every related adult involved with the toddler, to spend lots of time playing together, going to indoor kiddy gyms, children's libraries, playgrounds for toddlers, spray parks for toddlers, etc, to encourage gross motor skills. As for feedings, offer tiny minced soft bits, along with purees, and let the toddler self-feed the tiny soft bits from the high chair tray while you all eat, along with spoon-fed purees. If you're afraid he's not getting enough food, continue the bottle (and if still nursing, don't stop). Go right ahead and give thickened bottles with formula, cereal, fruit in them to encourage getting accustomed to thicker textures.

Do not worry, as long as pediatrician is not worried. I guarantee you he will not dine on purees at his wedding, not even at his nursery school "graduation".
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Old 01-16-2018, 09:50 AM
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Most of Bt3 is covered by state or insurance but I think it's worth it, at least for the initial consult to see if it's necessary. I have a nephew in the program who is 2.5 and has done pretty well with it.
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Old 01-17-2018, 11:56 AM
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The fact that your son was premature will give you leverage in the program. We have a toddler with speech delays and have nothing but wonderful things to say about the progress and assistance they've provided to us. It's also extremely affordable. PM me and I can go into more detail on our son. We also had a lot of feeding issues.

The initial evaluation is free, as well as the first month of services.
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