[andthentherewere3]

Originally Posted by JViello

Just like your post towards me and the rape victom close to me in my household.

Shame on you. Hypocrite.

What in the world are you talking about? I haven't bashed your rape victim family member/acquaintance whatsoever. I feel terribly for all rape victims, and I certainly would never blame them, or suggest they had a "habit" as you did.

And I believe name-calling is against the TOS.

[goldenband]

JViello, I'm sorry for the experience you described (which I guess had been posted in this thread, but now isn't? -- so I won't be more specific than that). Without going into details, let's just say that I've been in a similar position, and I know something of how horrible it is, and can be.

But I don't see how that excuses, among other things, your insinuating that the victim was a drug addict ("Perhaps she wasn't a slave to anything but her own habit"). That's what really crossed the line; you could've disagreed with steph3kids in many other ways, but the way in which you chose to do it was distasteful, IMHO.

Part of being a grown man (or, if you prefer, an adult) is acknowledging that it's your responsibility to communicate in a way that's clear and properly represents your intentions. The corollary is that if a bunch of people are telling you that you blew it in that regard, generally speaking, they're right, and you blew it. It was your responsiblity to express yourself in a way that made it clear that you weren't being disrespectful to the rape victim; unfortunately, you didn't succeed, and offended several people (perhaps more). All it takes to make that right is an apology -- not one that's directed at any particular person (least of all me), but just on general principles.

[steph3kids]

This tread is degenerating.
I am sorry if I stired things up here w/my story.
I just thought there was something really wrong w/the police dept. in Waterbury and how they handle (or should I say did not handle) this case.

Maybe it could have been the case in other towns too.

I have no agenda whatsoever. I did not know people on this forum had to have an agenda! It makes me wonder what is some of yours!?!?
I won't name anybody here!!!

I think this forum is meant to be a great ressource for people needing info.
Not for people bikering about who lives in the best town!!

Steph

[Stratford, Ct. Resident]

Originally Posted by steph3kids

I think this forum is meant to be a great ressource for people needing info.

Not for people bikering about who lives in the best town!!

Steph

That is the point. Unfortunately, some tend to be a little too rabid and dramatic. I don't care to get into a p**sing contest with these types, but sometimes it's inevitable that you'll have to refute someone's ridiculous assertions.

-Rant over.

[JayCT]

I think that this thread needs to end. I will be closing it. Jay