[JViello]

I post my opinion. I live here. I interact with people including those who might move here. I was VERY respectful in doing so but *I* am the bad guy? I "attacked" people? LOL The majority of the attacks here are on myself for being a conservative and holding to a moral standard. Rights and opinions for everyone, except me. Right.

So much for "tollerance" eh?

P.S. I literally forwarded this thread to a gay friend and we had a laugh because he knows me. lol

You seem like a nice person too, I wish you the best in your journey. I still think CT would be very good for you on many fronts if you could make the details work.

Good luck.

[Tetto]

Give it a rest. JV is right in that the OP opened herself to challenge by declaring her sexuality (who cares?) and looking for very specific things, ie other gay people, tolerant neighborhoods; all good stuff for sure. But just imagine for an instance, if people minded their own business, who the hell would know who is gay and who isn't? I really don't care, but get pissed when it's jammed down my throat.

I think she would do fine in any town in CT, people really don't care what you are, as long as your nice, and she seems nice!

I wish her the best of luck.

[Seattle's Best 28]

Originally Posted by Tetto

Give it a rest. JV is right in that the OP opened herself to challenge by declaring her sexuality (who cares?) and looking for very specific things, ie other gay people, tolerant neighborhoods; all good stuff for sure. But just imagine for an instance, if people minded their own business, who the hell would know who is gay and who isn't? I really don't care, but get pissed when it's jammed down my throat.

I think she would do fine in any town in CT, people really don't care what you are, as long as your nice, and she seems very nice!

I wish her the best of luck.

The op opened herself to challenge? what???? I have lost all faith.

[goldenband]

I don't think the OP "opened herself to challenge", any more than (say) a Christian person would be opening themselves to challenge if they were to post about wanting to live in a highly Christian, socially conservative area.

A gay person typically wants to live in an area where they won't be treated with contempt, or worse, on a daily basis; a conservative Christian typically wants to live somewhere where co-workers won't roll their eyes every time they allude to their beliefs. I don't think it's reasonable to question every such poster -- gay, Christian, or both for that matter! -- on the premises of their beliefs. I don't think our Christian visitors want to be dealing with dismissive opinions about the Resurrection every time they post.

To the OP: have you looked at the University of Washington's program in atmospheric sciences, in Seattle? If you can afford to live there, it seems tailor-made for you.

[Tetto]

Originally Posted by goldenband

I don't think the OP "opened herself to challenge", any more than (say) a Christian person would be opening themselves to challenge if they were to post about wanting to live in a highly Christian, socially conservative area.

A gay person typically wants to live in an area where they won't be treated with contempt, or worse, on a daily basis; a conservative Christian typically wants to live somewhere where co-workers won't roll their eyes every time they allude to their beliefs. I don't think it's reasonable to question every such poster -- gay, Christian, or both for that matter! -- on the premises of their beliefs. I don't think our Christian visitors want to be dealing with dismissive opinions about the Resurrection every time they post.

To the OP: have you looked at the University of Washington's program in atmospheric sciences, in Seattle? If you can afford to live there, it seems tailor-made for you.

Then why not simply state "couple looking for relocation advice"? Why the open proclamation of being lesbian? No one would have even been aware they were gay. Look, I'm not bashing her or gay people in any way, I hope they find what they're looking for, but Seattle or San Francisco, CT is not!

[Rich Lee]

Originally Posted by Tetto

Then why not simply state "couple looking for relocation advice"? Why the open proclamation of being Lesbian? No one would have even been aware they were gay.

No one on this forum would. But once the OP moved into her new place, her neighbors would. Aren't you unintentionally aware of your neighbors' domestic situations? You might not know their marital status, but you most likely know their sexual orientation.

Of course, this brings up a whole other scenario. This state (collectively) is tolerant. But that's no guarantee that the OP would end up with a neighbor who was.

I'll never forget a listing that I had in Middlesex County. A neighbor actually introduced himself and requested that I assist in keeping the street "a certain way."

[goldenband]

I think the OP's sexual orientation is totally relevant to her question, since she wants to live somewhere that people aren't generally going to harass her for being a lesbian. I can't say that Hartford is 100% free of that -- most minority populations are NOT gay-friendly, for starters -- but the West End is relatively safe and welcoming.

Oddly enough, there are plenty of folks who can tell if a person's gay/lesbian, even if that person never breathes a word about it. Heck, I know more than a few women who were able to tell their sons were going to be gay before they were even in elementary school -- before the kid even knew what sex was, or what being gay was. And I certainly know women who never mention anything about their private lives, let alone their sex lives, yet it's completely obvious that they're butch lesbians: it's just the way their personalities are. So I don't think it's reasonable to argue that "no one would know", because lots of people can figure it out in about two seconds, hence the term "gaydar".

Now, if you (or anyone else) were to argue that people with those sorts of personalities should CONCEAL themselves, and should "act straight", eradicating any hint of effeminacy or butch-ness, so as not to catch any flak...well, let's just say I hope you're not arguing that.

[goldenband]

I mean, seriously, when people keep saying things (to gay men) like "don't shove your lifestyle in my face", I've always assumed they meant "don't talk about your love/sex life in front of me". Which is a reasonable thing to ask of anyone, though I've only met a bare handful of gay men (and zero lesbians) who have wanted to brag about their sex lives in front of me -- most are very private -- so in my experience, the stereotype doesn't hold up.

But if they really mean "don't lisp, don't be effeminate, don't do anything or have any mannerism that makes me realize you're gay", then I have zero sympathy for their position.

[Stratford, Ct. Resident]

Originally Posted by goldenband

But if they really mean "don't lisp, don't be effeminate, don't do anything or have any mannerism that makes me realize you're gay", then I have zero sympathy for their position.

I know i'm going to regret this, but i have to say it.

Why is it acceptable, to you, that a grown man can shriek and flail his extremities like a pre-pubescent girl? I don't have any issues with gay people who carry themselves as mature adults. Those who don't however, i do hold in contempt. Sexuality isn't the issue, maturity is.

......................Flames incoming

[Seattle's Best 28]

Originally Posted by Stratford, Ct. Resident

I know i'm going to regret this, but i have to say it.

Why is it acceptable, to you, that a grown man can shriek and flail his extremities like a pre-pubescent girl? I don't have any issues with gay people who carry themselves as mature adults. Those who don't however, i do hold in contempt. Sexuality isn't the issue, maturity is.

......................Flames incoming

So if it's a maturity issue, why would you make it into a gay issue??? Same thing can be said for why blacks act as thugs, why girls gossip, why this, why that.

It's life!