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Old 07-16-2009, 08:00 PM
 
Location: Metropolis
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Upper middle class suburbia USA. You can't escape it. The demographics speak for themselves. Children of upper middle class families are expected to excell in education, become socially proficient and experience the finer aspects of society because their parents have the money to do so.
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Old 07-16-2009, 08:24 PM
 
Location: New London County, CT
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Upper middle class suburbia USA. You can't escape it. The demographics speak for themselves. Children of upper middle class families are expected to excell in education, become socially proficient and experience the finer aspects of society because their parents have the money to do so.
Why wouldn't all families want their children to excel in education, socially and financially?
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Old 07-16-2009, 08:27 PM
 
Location: Coastal Northeast
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Why wouldn't all families want their children to excel in education, socially and financially?
I don't think urbanquest said anything about "want", rather, they said these kids are "expected to", which I fully agree with.

I do agree, though, that people of all socio-economic backgrounds want their children to succeed.
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Old 07-16-2009, 08:34 PM
 
Location: The brown house on the cul de sac
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[quote=UrbanQuest;9802779 Children of upper middle class families are expected to excell in education, become socially proficient and experience the finer aspects of society because their parents have the money to do so.[/quote]

Well if it really is all about the money to do so than the rest wouldn't really matter now would it?

No, I think most parents, (and of all socio economic groups) expect their children to excel in the above stated to make them better rounded people, contribute to society and mankind and to succeed in their future endeavors!
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Old 07-18-2009, 11:03 AM
 
Location: Metropolis
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We are talking about upper-middle class suburbia right?
Let's not get off topic....
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Old 07-18-2009, 01:45 PM
 
Location: Central Virginia
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I disagree that all parents expect their kids to suceed. Most parents WANT their kids to succeed and get an education, sure. But there is a difference between wanting and expecting. Parents in the towns you are referring to will expect their kids to get a good education. If their kid isn't doing well in school, they will find a solution, be it a tutor, or monitoring the kid like a hawk to make sure they get better grades.
There are many areas across the US, however, where parents don't seem to care one way or the other how their kids do in school. If the kids gets good grades, great. If they don't, they don't. Unfortunately, this happens more in lower income areas than higher income areas. Just talk to teachers in these schools and ask them how hard it is to get a child to care when their own parent doesn't.
So anyway, I don't think it should be considered a negative thing if you are in a town where kids want to do well in school and want to go to college. It's certainly better than the alternative. It's been proven over and over, that busy kids are successful kids. Kids involved in after school sports and activities have a higher rate of graduation, going on to college, and are far less likely to get pregnant in high school or do drugs. Keep em busy, I say.
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Old 07-19-2009, 10:20 AM
 
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What is the real deal with the commute from Ridgefield to NYC? My DH works very close to Grand Central- but looking into it deeper- the hour and 15 minues our realtor told us seems a little off- seems like an hour and 45 minutes is more realistic. I know there is a shuttle from Ridgefield to Katonah- which adds about 25 minutes- anyone have first hand experience with this? I've seen other postings other boards that vary.Thanks for all your comments!
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Old 12-21-2009, 12:05 AM
 
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Default I agree & think kids benefit from less academics

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I want my kids to do well, and do highly value education (I used to be a teacher) and I also understand that I set the tone in our home. But being the "different" family who doesn't live in their car taking kids from one activity to another, and being constantly pressured to do more after school can be difficult. Thesegoto11, I think you and I are on the same page- it is possible to do well, and not have to push kids to the edge in order to become accomplished. I want them to be kids- they only get that chance once. I'm just looking for people that think the same way- not the whole town, but just a few people. It seems that in the tri state area, that is like finding a needle in a haystack. Thank you all for your postings and insight.
I am similarly seeking a more rounded experience for my children. I think they will be better off for it in the long run. I am considering Ridgefield, and would love to find out more. Finding a community that values less structured time for kids is key. Where we live now, I often find that my children are the only ones without afterschool activities -- so there is no one for them to play with after school!
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Old 12-21-2009, 06:42 AM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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just moved from Ridgefield two months ago after growing up there myself and raising my 7 yr old twins there most recently. In my opinion it's definitely less pretentious and over-scheduled than Darien, Westport, Greenwich, New Canaan and Wilton...You can do as little or as much as you want and the economic diversity is a little more prevelent. My kids had friends in mansions as well as little 1500 sq ft ranches, all who played very well together.

Interesting that someone brought into the discussion NOVA and Loudoun County in particular. I moved from Ridgefield to Loudoun County and the difference here is significant. Granted I am in western Loudoun (which is more rural and less expensive), but the competitiveness and overscheduling is basically non-existant. And the people are much more friendly, so I'm curious about the "pretentiousness of Loudoun County" that was remarked earlier in the thread.
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Old 12-21-2009, 03:02 PM
 
Location: Coastal Northeast
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Interesting that someone brought into the discussion NOVA and Loudoun County in particular. I moved from Ridgefield to Loudoun County and the difference here is significant. Granted I am in western Loudoun (which is more rural and less expensive), but the competitiveness and overscheduling is basically non-existant. And the people are much more friendly, so I'm curious about the "pretentiousness of Loudoun County" that was remarked earlier in the thread.
When I mentioned Loudon, I was not referring to education/pressure cookers. IMO, Fairfield County is the epicenter of this. What I was referring to is the idea of superiority which I experienced when visiting. Granted I only visited for a few weeks combined, but it seems as if the people there consider themselves super-affluent if they can afford a 600k home in a cookie-cutter neighborhood; and if they drive a Chevy Suburban, no other car is better than theirs. The "one-up" attitude people seemed to have in Loudon and Fairfax was the turn-off. I did not find people there to be down to Earth at all. Just my opinion - don't mean to offend.
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