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Old 04-21-2010, 08:51 PM
 
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I'm 22, married and recently moved from FL to CT because my husband is a true new englander at heart and wanted me to experience the change of scenery.So far, I have nothing good to say about CT ,just that it's very pretty with the 4 seasons. I'm very HOMESICK and I'm not sure it's a good move for me even though it's been only 4 months.
I have ZERO social life as it's very hard to find people my age around here! Even though I'm young agewise, I'm very mature and find that girls my age still live with their parents and talk only about clubbing and boyfriends. Where are all the young couples who want to travel, double date, discussing the future? Not also to mention that I'm now working part time as an hostess for $8.00 an hour compared to my full time $13 an hour as an administrative assistant in Florida . My jobs' experiences and education don't seem to help me at landing a good job here. I feel there's NOTHING there for me but EVERYTHING for my husband.
He's been taking care of all the bills since my paycheks are to lbe laughed at and he's been recently promoted and will be making a few dollars extra. I feel guilty when I talk about how depressed I am as things are going well for him, but then again it's not that I liked my Florida job so I can't complain much. I just miss a good paying job and my social life, when I'm not working, studying , looking up for jobs or doing house duties, I'm home in front of the TV doing nothing! So please where can I find 20 something engaged or married couples.

PS: I live in Enfield
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Old 04-21-2010, 08:57 PM
 
Location: Connecticut
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You really need to get out and meet people. You are homesick and the only way to get rid of that feeling is to meet other people. You should look to join some type of activity that interests you. Maybe take a class at the local community college. Check if there is a newcomers club in town. The main thing is to stop complaining and get out and find people with similar interest. Jay
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Old 04-21-2010, 08:59 PM
 
Location: Coastal Northeast
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I'm 22, married and recently moved from FL to CT because my husband is a true new englander at heart and wanted me to experience the change of scenery.So far, I have nothing good to say about CT ,just that it's very pretty with the 4 seasons. I'm very HOMESICK and I'm not sure it's a good move for me even though it's been only 4 months.
I have ZERO social life as it's very hard to find people my age around here! Even though I'm young agewise, I'm very mature and find that girls my age still live with their parents and talk only about clubbing and boyfriends. Where are all the young couples who want to travel, double date, discussing the future? Not also to mention that I'm now working part time as an hostess for $8.00 an hour compared to my full time $13 an hour as an administrative assistant in Florida . My jobs' experiences and education don't seem to help me at landing a good job here. I feel there's NOTHING there for me but EVERYTHING for my husband.
He's been taking care of all the bills since my paycheks are to lbe laughed at and he's been recently promoted and will be making a few dollars extra. I feel guilty when I talk about how depressed I am as things are going well for him, but then again it's not that I liked my Florida job so I can't complain much. I just miss a good paying job and my social life, when I'm not working, studying , looking up for jobs or doing house duties, I'm home in front of the TV doing nothing! So please where can I find 20 something engaged or married couples.

PS: I live in Enfield
Enfield is not the most happenin' place in CT. Most of the nightlife/young crowd is in the New Haven area and south toward Stamford. Then again, it's much more expensive to live down there.

Where does your husband work? Can you move to an area that would suit you better? I've been to Enfield a few times and it seems drab and boring. I couldn't imagine living up there. Just my .02

CT is a very hard place to meet people if you're new, but you have to just get out there and strike up a few conversations. Lots of people will be out with their own circle and won't care to chat, but just move past them and brush 'em off.
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Old 04-21-2010, 09:04 PM
 
Location: New London County, CT
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I would also add that people tend to get married later than they do in the south. (Not making a judgement-- It's just how it is.) You might be better off looking for some single girlfriends than other couples. While there is a large segment that likes to go out and party an club, I think you'll find that if you look, and perhaps do as Jay suggests, you'll find others with mutual interests.

Do you know about meetup.com? It's a great way to find local groups of people with similar interests that meet regularly.

My brother lives in Enfield. Nice quiet town, but you're right... Not a lot happening.
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Old 04-21-2010, 09:05 PM
 
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Heh the only thing I know about Enfield is there's a Bedding Barn there (a store that sells beds and mattresses). You're sort of sandwiched between Hartford and the Massachusettes border, and you're actually closer to Springfield MA than Hartford. The main interstate is I-91, which runs just to the west of you; Springfield would be maybe around a 20-minute drive, depending on traffic.

I lived in Florida for a summer - you couldn't pay me enough to go back to live. I don't really even like visiting all that much. I went when I was around your age and hated it. I'm not all that fond of Connecticut either though I'll miss the seasons when my husband retires and we move south to the Carolinas. Connecticut is BEAUTIFUL. But there isn't much to it.

There's a lot of culture and history but I'm afraid if you want hot-spots you'll have to head into Hartford, Springfield, or take day-trips to Albany, Boston, or New York. There are a couple of casinos east of you but they're at least 1.5 hours away. I've never tried to get there from your end of the state, I'm down almost an hour or so at the end of I-91 in New Haven, and can scoot onto I-95 within 5 minutes. I-95 takes you north-east (to Rhode Island, those casinos, Groton/New London, Provincetown, and Boston all the way up to Main), and south, to NYC and all the way to Florida.

My suggestion to you is to get acquainted with your neighborhood first. Neighborhoods are a pretty big deal up here. See what interests you most about Enfield; architecture, history, a particular store, the town green, the politics, a cluster of a certain cultural group you don't know much about, etc. etc. Use that as your starting point to learn more about the town and the people in it. Let them know that you are interested in them. In short time, you'll find that they are also interested in you.
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Old 04-21-2010, 09:08 PM
 
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Enfield does not have much going on for 20-somethings. I agree that New Haven would be the best place in CT, but it's about an hour drive from Enfield. You could probably do pretty well with West Hartford. And if you know anybody in school at UConn, there may be some activities you'd like to check out in the Storrs/Manchester area.
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Old 04-21-2010, 09:23 PM
 
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JayCT: I'm not usually the complainer type but I guess I have to wok harder at meeting new people. Maybe it would have been easier if I was enrolled in a Community College but I'm pursuing my schooling online to preven the transferring process and be more flexible with my time.

Kidyankee764: He's working in windsor , not far away from Enfield

Mlassoff: Thank you for the website! I'm going to check it out! and yes, I did notice that people up here tend to marry and have kids later.

Anonchick: Thank you for those suggestions. We've been to Boston already and New York is next on our list
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Old 04-21-2010, 09:26 PM
 
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Noodless: Have you read my post? I din't marry a suggar daddy, he's FAR from being a millionaire and by no means I'm envious of his success. I'm VERY happy for him that's why I said I feel guilty when I tell him how depressed I am.
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Old 04-21-2010, 10:20 PM
 
Location: Where the sun always shines
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I'm 22, married and recently moved from FL to CT because my husband is a true new englander at heart and wanted me to experience the change of scenery.So far, I have nothing good to say about CT ,just that it's very pretty with the 4 seasons. I'm very HOMESICK and I'm not sure it's a good move for me even though it's been only 4 months.
I have ZERO social life as it's very hard to find people my age around here! Even though I'm young agewise, I'm very mature and find that girls my age still live with their parents and talk only about clubbing and boyfriends. Where are all the young couples who want to travel, double date, discussing the future? Not also to mention that I'm now working part time as an hostess for $8.00 an hour compared to my full time $13 an hour as an administrative assistant in Florida . PS: I live in Enfield
For one, maybe being 22 and married wasnt such a hot idea did u ever think of that? To me a 22 year that lives on her own is probably more stressed out than she should be anyway.

Also, ur no longer in the south, your in the Northeast where the wheels spin a little faster. College degrees are valued a bit more than all of the skills you may have acquired in your many years of working. Its not too late, get ur butt back in school or you'll make 8 pr/hr for years to come.
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Old 04-21-2010, 11:04 PM
 
Location: CT
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Wow- Noodles and Jacktravern are really sensitive and understanding. I was just thinking to myself I haven't met any of the rude people the northeast is so famous for yet but I spoke too soon. I moved here from Florida and I can tell you the wheels spin plenty fast down there- it's not some backwoods area. (all weird news stories & voting machine debacles' aside) In fact, my company had to promote me from Florida because it's such a busy region. I don't understand why it's necessary to criticize her marriage or education.

Anyways- I just wanted to tell you we just moved up from the Tampa area and I absolutely love it here. What kind of things do you like to do? I think there were some good suggestions made- try to get out and enjoy some of the parks and walking/hiking trails. Do you go to church? If you're not religious maybe try taking a class like Jviello said or joining some group/volunteer work where you can meet people who are likely more mature. I'm probably not the best to give advice on meeting people since I am new too and am not exactly a social butterfly. My husband & I just spend time with our kids going to parks and things like that.
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