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Old 05-18-2010, 01:54 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Also I suppose I should add. We are open to any states where gay marriage is legal so if you don't think Connecticut is affordable or right for us feel free to suggest another state. I don't really want to move to a state with only civil unions... I am a woman in love just like any other woman in love I want to marry my fiance. And we are not party going rainbow wearing gays but we do hold hands in public and we are both very happy about who we are so no we are not trying to persuade others to be gay but we also aren't hiding who we are because it makes others uncomfortable.
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Old 05-18-2010, 02:00 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Honestly, I think you would have a hard go at it without some kind of career job. Service industry jobs here do not pay that much more than FL. You can do it, just know you will be shut out of a lot of areas due to cost. Your best bet is to come visit and see if the "lower priced areas" jive with you. Maybe they will...I don't know.

Oh and just to comment on the bold above...Please don't take this the wrong way but many of us heterosexuals kind of laugh at the statement - Marriage brings many more challenges then benefits. So get ready for a wake up call. lol But I wouldn't change a thing if I could.
Thanks. I know marriage can be turmoil sometimes but my fiance and I are very serious and have been together for a long time we live together and are already pretty much married in our minds However it is nearly impossible to even get affordable health care coverage if you aren't actually married and forbid anything happen to either of us but if something did the other would have no say so in anything. Our parents would decide everything and seeing is how neither of us are close to our parents or even tolerable of them that would not be a good idea.
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Old 05-18-2010, 02:18 PM
 
Location: New England
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Also I suppose I should add. We are open to any states where gay marriage is legal so if you don't think Connecticut is affordable or right for us feel free to suggest another state. I don't really want to move to a state with only civil unions... I am a woman in love just like any other woman in love I want to marry my fiance. And we are not party going rainbow wearing gays but we do hold hands in public and we are both very happy about who we are so no we are not trying to persuade others to be gay but we also aren't hiding who we are because it makes others uncomfortable.
Oh I think that the state would be fine for you, if you don't mind living in a blue collar town like I do. (Manchester) I like it here but I'm just not sure what you are looking for.

P.S. Don't get to excited about benefits. Family plans are notoriously higher than individuals. More than triple the cost in my case. As for something happening to your partner, you can go to an atty and have a will made and give full power of atty to your partner. Same for a life insurance policy. You can make your cat the beneficiary. Just something to think about and one of the reasons I scratch my head when I hear about "married benefits". I'm still looking for all these "extra" benefits in my own marriage. lol
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Old 05-18-2010, 05:10 PM
 
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And we are not party going rainbow wearing gays but we do hold hands in public and we are both very happy about who we are so no we are not trying to persuade others to be gay but we also aren't hiding who we are because it makes others uncomfortable.
I think that was what KH02 was hinting at in terms of "flaunting". The definition of the word will obviously vary from region to region, but around here, "flaunting" is basically defined along the lines of flaming/buoyant/loud personalities. You'll both do fine here, provided that you can afford it.
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Old 05-18-2010, 06:11 PM
 
Location: In a house
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As a card-carrying heterosexual female married to her card-carrying heterosexual male husband, I'll chime in and say, really, no one's going to care much. Especially regarding lesbians. In fact, just the very idea of it will probably turn a few straight guys on. Men can be like that.

I don't like seeing public displays of slobbering, no matter who's doing it. I don't like seeing people crouch down to let their dog lick their face, either. So just don't get all smoochy gropey in front of me, and I don't care what you do, or to whom. Oh and that monkey-kisser? I reported the monkey to the authorites. He used tongue! <spit>
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Old 05-18-2010, 06:56 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Is there anything to do there? As I said before we are both very artsy. We love music and art, photography and nature.
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Old 05-18-2010, 07:20 PM
 
Location: In a house
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New Haven has the Shubert Theatre, among others. There's a Shakespeare theatre, the train from New York City runs through the state and has several stops along the way. Boston is a 20 minute drive from the northeast tip of Connecticut. Connecticut has some of the most diverse natural resources in a small area, it's home to some of New England's prettiest highways and nature preserves. So basically, with regards to New England, it's close to everything, plus it has some of everything. Except warm winters and dry summers. You won't get that here.
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Old 05-20-2010, 04:42 PM
 
Location: SI, NY
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After reading what you're looking for, I'm not sure a suburb would satisfy your needs completely right away. Fairfield (where I am in the process of moving now) is very artsy, there are art and photo galleries and a lot of goings-on in town, which I think would suit your needs, and is close to NYC, but it is super expensive, in my opinion, especially compared to where you are now.

Also, since the two of you aren't married yet, you could always try New Haven first, rent there, and then when you are married and the time comes for children, you can move to a suburb of your choosing because by then you will have the knowledge of what you want and what works for you in terms of a smaller town. New Haven can satisfy all of the needs you have presently - you can rent, there is a better opportunity for a job where you live, you will be surrounded by arts, Theatre and Yale University, and as far as I remember, a gay-friendly community. (I grew up nearby, which is why I'm not suggesting Hartford, but other people might tell you Hartford and New Haven are similar in those respects.)

Also, since there are very individual people on the board with very individual views, I wouldn't ask what the "overall" view of your relationship is, since everyone can only answer for themselves... as you've seen.
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Old 05-20-2010, 06:15 PM
 
Location: New England
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Is there anything to do there? As I said before we are both very artsy. We love music and art, photography and nature.
Yea, it's everywhere. Don't worry.
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Old 05-27-2010, 01:00 PM
 
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First, congratulations. Second, I know you said CT, but you might want to know of another option. It's called Sleepy Hollow, in Plainfield New Jersey. Plainfield has lousy schools (I know you said you want family, but it sounds a-ways off), therefore this area, Sleepy Hollow, which has winding roads and old houses and is wooded, has become popular for families who send their kids to private/catholic schools and gays. It is exceptionally pretty, it has a wide variety of houses and prices, it's cheaper than surrounding nice areas (but it IS still New Jersey-expensive), taxes are lower, it has a train station to New York City less than a mile away, and it's known as a bit of an eclectic/artsy community with a good neighborhood spirit. I think they have their own web site. Try it. You could probably even write them and ask for help. I lived next to it for years without even knowing it is there. Our former governor lives there (big deal). As for jobs in the area, you're taking a huge risk moving near NYC without a good paying job.
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