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Old 05-31-2014, 12:17 PM
 
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I am so sick of hearing people whine about bullying. If someone is causing you trouble you better take care of it yourself. If you are too weak to handle it then it's your own fault. I have zero sympathy for you.
Easier said than done, especially if we are talking about kids and the relentless heartless bullying done in and on the way to school and by way of the social sites. People are not all the same and handle things in the same ways, their experiences differ and shape who they are. Words do hurt, often more long lasting than a punch in the nose. Kids want to be accepted and have friends. When they feel ganged up on and bullied, some will attack back and try to form other alliances, some will cave in and take it and be miserable, and others it will drive over the edge. I personally think these little monsters (most often it seems to be girls) should be criminally charged and kicked out of the public school system forever. Their parents should also be charged, then perhaps they would watch closer what they were doing on their phones and computers. While there have always been bullies, when I was a kid you never saw children telling the victim to go kill themselves. The level of the attack has become merciless. The children responsible for such attacks certainly knew they were pushing the victim to a breaking point, still they kept on, some even making remarks after the kid had died. What kind of disgusting little animals act like that. And how do they sleep at night. I'd be forever ashamed if I had a kid like that. And with no real penalties and schools more interested in covering their behinds and meaningless PR after the fact, the brats really have nothing to fear.

So would you send your daughter out to fight some other kid? You've probably heard about the Chicago 14 year old shooting another female the same age in the back after a fight over a boy. These two obviously both wanted to stand up and fight and "take care of it" themselves. And you can see the result, one kid dead, the other going to prison. Being a hothead and jumping to physical confrontation often creates more problems. How many times have you read about the loser of a fight coming back with a gun and shooting the other person to death. Yes, that too is "taking care of it yourself". That too is something that never used to happen when I was growing up. But these days, it seems ingrained to grab a gun.

As far as this 19 year old and why she was in this porn flick, who knows for certain why, one can only speculate. But raunchy behavior is widely accepted and even looked up to these days. Drunken college student videos and photos exposing themselves cluster the internet. That behavior is accepted by many as the norm. So perhaps she thought this too would be accepted in the same vein. The internet is a cowards paradise, they can post nasty shocking comments anonymously from almost anywhere in the world.
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Old 05-31-2014, 07:03 PM
 
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I am so sick of hearing people whine about bullying. If someone is causing you trouble you better take care of it yourself. If you are too weak to handle it then it's your own fault. I have zero sympathy for you.
Not everyone is tough or knows how to take care of things themselves. One poster put she was probably popular because of her looks. Many times good looking girls get bullied by other girls because of their looks. Jealousy is a mean emotion. The world is full of gentle souls who can't handle things as easily as others. I have sympathy for ANYONE who would choose suicide.
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Old 06-01-2014, 02:15 PM
 
Location: West Phoenix
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She did more than one movie, but she should have known that someone who knew her would see the video and it would get out. She figured she could grab the money and run and no one would know who she was.
As far as those who were picking on her, they were showing their IQ was lower than their age, sorry she could not handle it, I guess she should have learned to delete her accounts and tell them who were bothering her to go get a life. she was a very pretty young lady.
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Old 06-02-2014, 03:27 AM
 
Location: Buckeye, AZ
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She did more than one movie, but she should have known that someone who knew her would see the video and it would get out. She figured she could grab the money and run and no one would know who she was.
As far as those who were picking on her, they were showing their IQ was lower than their age, sorry she could not handle it, I guess she should have learned to delete her accounts and tell them who were bothering her to go get a life. she was a very pretty young lady.
Perhaps she didn't show signs. Not everyone wears "I am suicidal" on their shirt. I do only when I wear my Sabu t-shirt but that's it. It's hard to know sometimes even if the producers know the typical tells.
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Old 06-02-2014, 08:18 AM
 
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How do you take care of it? The shooters at Columbine were allegedly bullied and look at what happened, they shot up the school and then killed themselves. Yeah THAT'S the right action. The fact is the world has changed and fighting back is wrong and snitching just gets you in trouble with other students. My father could actually fight bullies when he was in high school and maybe get a detention tops. Nowadays, you get suspended and likely processed for standing your ground.
And that is one of the many problems. Children are not learning how to deal with things like bullying , rejection etc. They are encouraged to report the issues , which really doesn't help. In the mean time they keep everything inside, building until finally they snap.
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Old 06-02-2014, 11:44 AM
 
Location: Buckeye, AZ
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And that is one of the many problems. Children are not learning how to deal with things like bullying , rejection etc. They are encouraged to report the issues , which really doesn't help. In the mean time they keep everything inside, building until finally they snap.
Even if they are, they are just as wrong fighting back. Think about it, I get bulied but one day I take the first swing to protect myself and it is stopped by a teacher, guess who gets in trouble? Hint, it's not the bully.

This is the problem with the sue heavy world we live in. We rather keep ourselves from getting sued over anything including protecting students.
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Old 06-02-2014, 03:12 PM
 
Location: La Mesa Aka The Table
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The video that I watched (that ended before the actual porn started) showed a very articulate and self-confident 19 year old. She may have had insecurity issues but she hid them well. When I see so many high school and college age kids with so many strikes against them, I'm amazed when someone like this decides to end it.
That's the Same one me and my friends watched. Showed the end first before the interview and sex scene. I'm not sure if it is because ive worked in the public sector dealing with people for so long, but it seems she was looking away a lot during the interview. Even not knowing the outcome her life and her fully answering the questions, I still came up with she wasn't very comfortable.
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Old 06-03-2014, 12:02 AM
 
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Of course she was naive about life. She was 19.

19 year olds are complete morons.
The line has to be drawn somewhere for 'legal adulthood' and we mostly do it at 18 but science proves that the brain is still developing well into our 20's. Anyone who is essentially the same person in their 30s that they were at 19 is emotionally retarded in a severe way.

Also, lets not just wave off our hypersexualized culture and our now seeing the first salvo of young women who were raised as young girls during that era. We're going to see more and more 'porn starlets' who don't comprehend what they're getting into. Here comes the generation who were told that they were all going to be famous. Don't be surprised by what they do in the meantime.
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Old 06-03-2014, 09:09 AM
 
Location: Hiding from Antifa?
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I am surprised this hasn't happened a lot more. These "Casting Couch" porn flicks are total cons in the porn industry. They advertise for girls wanting to get into the industry, and almost every one of them is desperate for money. They are promised two things, big potential money and that the videos would only be shown to producers looking for "talent". They are tricked into doing sexual acts they have never done before, because it is "what the producers want to see". Obviously these "sexual acts" that they probably would never do in real life, "pay better".

Then the reality sets in for the girl, when her tape meant only for the producers gets uploaded to a porn site for all her acquaintances to see. Maybe at first she tries to pretend that she knew what she was getting into, so she doesn't come off as a complete idiot.

The sad thing is, these flicks are very popular, because of the "girl next door" aspect. The men who like these flicks remember a time when they were young, when they would say just about anything to have sex with a girl. They have sampled the usual porn available and feel that it is all a scripted act. That is the porn that is not real. The casting couch flicks are more real to the viewer. Unfortunately the girls that get caught up in it don't realize how what they are doing is going to be so available to the public.
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Old 06-06-2014, 09:46 PM
 
Location: Buckeye, AZ
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I am surprised this hasn't happened a lot more. These "Casting Couch" porn flicks are total cons in the porn industry. They advertise for girls wanting to get into the industry, and almost every one of them is desperate for money. They are promised two things, big potential money and that the videos would only be shown to producers looking for "talent". They are tricked into doing sexual acts they have never done before, because it is "what the producers want to see". Obviously these "sexual acts" that they probably would never do in real life, "pay better".

Then the reality sets in for the girl, when her tape meant only for the producers gets uploaded to a porn site for all her acquaintances to see. Maybe at first she tries to pretend that she knew what she was getting into, so she doesn't come off as a complete idiot.

The sad thing is, these flicks are very popular, because of the "girl next door" aspect. The men who like these flicks remember a time when they were young, when they would say just about anything to have sex with a girl. They have sampled the usual porn available and feel that it is all a scripted act. That is the porn that is not real. The casting couch flicks are more real to the viewer. Unfortunately the girls that get caught up in it don't realize how what they are doing is going to be so available to the public.
That or the whole BangBus style porns where you find a girl in public and see if they want to make a porno with you.

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