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Old 05-27-2014, 12:40 AM
 
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seems like a lot of youth today are unprepared for the harsh realities of the world, having been given so much positive reinforcement in their youth with very little negative. They seem to glaze over and some get anxiety for simply being told they did something wrong, they gotta do it this way....

In any case, what did she expect? She should have been ready for the comments and if anything just embraced them. You'll never please everyone, and who cares what people think or say? Sex does sell, she could have made some cash and paid for college.
This girl came from a broken home with who knows how many problems. I'm sure this girl had more negative in her life than most and very little positive reinforcement.
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Old 05-27-2014, 08:58 AM
 
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More accurate title would be:
"19 year old college student kills herself after being bullied"

Regardless of what anyone thinks of her decision to make the video, she had a right to be free from bullying. I'm sorry those bullies were able to get to her, but it can be very difficult to take that kind of abuse, especially at a young age. She shouldn't have to take it. They were the cause of the death, and they should be prosecuted. The charge is reckless disregard for life.

It isn't her being emotionally immature that caused the problem. The bullies were the emotionally immature ones. If they weren't insecure Aholes, they wouldn't have behaved that way. It isn't her fault. Don't blame the victim.
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Old 05-27-2014, 09:07 AM
 
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More accurate title would be:
"19 year old college student kills herself after being bullied"

Regardless of what anyone thinks of her decision to make the video, she had a right to be free from bullying. I'm sorry those bullies were able to get to her, but it can be very difficult to take that kind of abuse, especially at a young age. She shouldn't have to take it. They were the cause of the death, and they should be prosecuted. The charge is reckless disregard for life.

It isn't her being emotionally immature that caused the problem. The bullies were the emotionally immature ones. If they weren't insecure Aholes, they wouldn't have behaved that way. It isn't her fault. Don't blame the victim.
Sorry, not buying this. I'm sorry she had a tough life but she opened the door on this the moment she sat on that couch. She made the choice and should have dealt with the consequences. Life is tough, people can be mean and the world is full of insecure A holes, nothing will ever change that.

I do feel bad that her bad decisions led her to what she did. Teens are not known for making great ones, but I'm sure there are two sides to every story.
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Old 05-27-2014, 10:31 AM
 
Location: FLG/PHX/MKE
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Too bad. I have to wonder, though, if the taunts following her porn shoot were merely a catalyst or trigger, rather than the root cause? This probably wouldn't have made the news if there wasn't some socially unacceptable component. It sounds like garden variety bullying, with a headline-worthy component.
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Old 05-27-2014, 10:40 AM
 
Location: USA
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Being bullied is bad, but there is no such thing as a right not to be bullied. No one is born into this world with the right not be a victim of some sort. That is simply not how life is. There is no Utopia and all the political correctness utilized will not make it happen.
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Old 05-27-2014, 11:20 AM
 
Location: Savannah GA
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Being bullied is bad, but there is no such thing as a right not to be bullied. No one is born into this world with the right not be a victim of some sort. That is simply not how life is. There is no Utopia and all the political correctness utilized will not make it happen.
Exactly! And even so, she was 19 years old -- AN ADULT! You can't "bully" an adult. Harassment is probably the more correct term. But again, she is the one who made the decision to do something outside of traditional societal mores and then boast about it on social media. That's a huge difference from kids who are "bullied" because they're different, or fat, or unpopular, or just "because."

I'm sorry the girl is dead. But she clearly had far bigger issues.
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Old 05-27-2014, 11:30 AM
 
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Exactly! And even so, she was 19 years old -- AN ADULT! You can't "bully" an adult. Harassment is probably the more correct term. But again, she is the one who made the decision to do something outside of traditional societal mores and then boast about it on social media. That's a huge difference from kids who are "bullied" because they're different, or fat, or unpopular, or just "because."

I'm sorry the girl is dead. But she clearly had far bigger issues.
Well put.
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Old 05-27-2014, 11:41 AM
 
Location: Cape Cod
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That poor young woman and her family. She made a bad decision to begin with and couldn't handle the fallout. It is possible that like so many kids her age she had received so much positve feedback ( a trophy for just showing up) that when something as negative as this hit her she couldn't deal.
I blame society and the media for the Turbo charged Sex Sells that permeates our lives. It is disgusting when you see 12-14 year old children flaunting their sex appeal to attract boys. It is not cute and we need to teach our girls that there si more to life than their bodies and sex.
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Old 05-27-2014, 12:03 PM
 
Location: Richmond, VA
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You make a porno at age 19, brag about it on social media, then get your feelings hurt when the kids back home make fun of you? Sorry, that's not bullying -- that's you being nave about life and the repercussions of your own actions. What did she expect?
My thoughts exactly. I'm having a really difficult time seeing how she is a victim in all of this.
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Old 05-27-2014, 12:08 PM
 
Location: Richmond, VA
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If they weren't insecure Aholes, they wouldn't have behaved that way. It isn't her fault. Don't blame the victim.
How are her classmates insecure? I would argue that anyone who makes a sex tape and then flaunts about it online is insecure. Look at me! Look what I did!

Um... yeah. Most of us don't need a sex tape and Facebook post to confirm our prowess in that area lol
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