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Don't forget that obits are usually written by family members or the executor of the estate who has to publish the death notice in at least 2 newspapers.
An obituary and a notice to creditors is not the same thing...the wording is completely different. I'm sure it can vary from state to state, but apparently if the estate is going through probate, the executor must publish a notice to creditors in the local newspaper. (I've seen this type of notice myself in the legal section of my own newspaper.)
I was just wondering yesterday what I'll put in my mom's obit, or say at her funeral. IF there is either. She refuses to do any estate planning and says she has the money to pay for her own funeral But really, what do you say about someone who has been difficult, annoying, a burden to everyone around her from about age 50 on, who's only accomplishment is that she hoarded up her house with crap, seems to not care one bit about me, has never contacted me in my adult life unless she directly wanted something, ignored my in my childhood, made me feel bad for earning a college degree and tells me I'm going to hell? Really... what to you say?? Personally, I'm at the point where I don't even want to deal with the aftermath when she dies. And she has no other family. "Oh, she's dead? Thanks for letting me know. Do what you want with her".
Sounds just like my mom, except my mom has taken enough Vicodin to kill Keith Richards.
Our culture is irredeemably lookist. All the girls want the obituary to read, "She was so CUUUTE!" What's wrong with pointing out that she was sort of funny looking but charming, ran a neurophysiology research lab at YALE and then became a best selling author who sold millions of books? Did anybody really read the obituary, or just what some snarky feminists said about the obituary?
When I wrote my dad's obit, I wrote a story about him. People said it was unusual. He achieved a lot, but I wrote about his earlier years. He lived to be 97. It was the first one I ever wrote, but 3 years later I wrote one for my mother which wasn't unusual, although she also lived to be 97. When I was in graduate school, one of my courses was writing non-fiction. An assignment had been to interview someone and I'd written the paper about my father, so that was the reference for his obituary.
Here is another guy wearing a toe tag,
zipped up and laying in the body bag!
He was here for many years,
save your grief and tears!
Now there is more beer for all to drink,
the dead guy certainly doesn't care what you think!
Have a beer, enjoy your day
because this guy has nothing left to say!
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But really, what do you say about someone who has been difficult, annoying, a burden to everyone around her from about age 50 on, who's only accomplishment is that she hoarded up her house with crap, seems to not care one bit about me, has never contacted me in my adult life unless she directly wanted something, ignored my in my childhood, made me feel bad for earning a college degree and tells me I'm going to hell? Really... what to you say?? Personally, I'm at the point where I don't even want to deal with the aftermath when she dies. And she has no other family. "Oh, she's dead? Thanks for letting me know. Do what you want with her".
