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Old 02-05-2015, 12:10 PM
 
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I'm a little shocked by the "good for her" crowd posting here.

He should go to jail for secretly taping them having sex etc. but to take extreme violence at someone over this is wayyyy out there.

Anytime you think that some sort of betrayal deserves this level of violence, flip the genders and see if you agree.

This is not much different than some of the honor killings or throwing acid on women we hear about in crappy foreign countries.
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Old 02-05-2015, 01:53 PM
 
Location: State of Washington (2016)
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He was very much in the wrong to make the recording without her knowledge. He embarrassed her and could cause emotional damage for years to come.

She on the other hand caused not only physical damage but stopped him from the ability to have any children (naturally) the ability to urinate without aid and very much likely emotional and psychological damage.

The man should face charges of production and distribution of child pornography (if the laws in South Africa state any persons involved must be 18+) along with statutory rape (again, if that is applicable under South African law) and the girl should face assault charges. That's really all there is to it.
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Old 02-05-2015, 02:50 PM
 
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So if the GIRL was 17 when she committed her crime. how old was she exactly when he began fooling with her?

Lets flip it, ok.

How would you feel if a 25 year old female had sex with, and posted online, the performance of a 16 year old BOY for the world to critique?
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Old 02-05-2015, 02:50 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I have zero sympathy for the guy. And the idea that your whole life is over bc you broke your penis is dumb and short-sighted.

However, you simply CANNOT physically assault someone for doing something offensive, betraying, etc.
That is not how it works.
She should face jail time.
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Old 02-05-2015, 02:56 PM
 
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So if the GIRL was 17 when she committed her crime. how old was she exactly when he began fooling with her?

Lets flip it, ok.

How would you feel if a 25 year old female had sex with, and posted online, the performance of a 16 year old BOY for the world to critique?
If you were addressing this to me given you use the "flip it" phrase here goes.

1) We don't know her age when it started. It isn't the US so I don't know what the culture or law is there either.

2) I would think the 25yo female should go to jail just like the guy.

It basically sounds like you are looking for excuses to justify violence. "Well maybe she was 16 when it started" or to imply I am biased by noting if a woman did it?

Sorry, acid attacks in retaliation for someone secretly taping you or whatnot is wrong.

Both go to jail. I don't care about the genders, you apparently do.
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Old 02-05-2015, 03:07 PM
 
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If you were addressing this to me given you use the "flip it" phrase here goes.

1) We don't know her age when it started. It isn't the US so I don't know what the culture or law is there either.

2) I would think the 25yo female should go to jail just like the guy.

It basically sounds like you are looking for excuses to justify violence. "Well maybe she was 16 when it started" or to imply I am biased by noting if a woman did it?

Sorry, acid attacks in retaliation for someone secretly taping you or whatnot is wrong.

Both go to jail. I don't care about the genders, you apparently do.
Where I live, CHILDREN are not subject to ADULT laws because they are CHILDREN.

This girl was a child and this ADULT used her shamelessly.

I never said she shouldn't be punished but I do believe her punishment, as a child, is prescribed by law to be therapeutic rather than vengeful.

As it should be. 17 year old girls are CRAZY and you would have to be either a predator or mentally challenged to mess with one, at all, ever.
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Old 02-05-2015, 03:25 PM
 
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Where I live, CHILDREN are not subject to ADULT laws because they are CHILDREN.

This girl was a child and this ADULT used her shamelessly.

I never said she shouldn't be punished but I do believe her punishment, as a child, is prescribed by law to be therapeutic rather than vengeful.

As it should be. 17 year old girls are CRAZY and you would have to be either a predator or mentally challenged to mess with one, at all, ever.
So, if that's your view what do we do with the "CHILDREN" in this story?
Three teens charged in slaying of 14-year-old girl - KCTV5
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Old 02-05-2015, 03:27 PM
 
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If he's not pressing charges, she's probably in danger.

Throwing acid on anyone is not the appropriate reaction to anything, whether it's a father doing it to his daughter because she looked at a passing motorcycle or a pimp doing it to his uncooperative ***** to be an example to the rest of the girls, or a girl who decided to undress and have sex with someone who then exploits her.

I like the previous comment from a parent "keep your clothes on".
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Old 02-05-2015, 03:32 PM
 
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Where I live, CHILDREN are not subject to ADULT laws because they are CHILDREN.

This girl was a child and this ADULT used her shamelessly.

I never said she shouldn't be punished but I do believe her punishment, as a child, is prescribed by law to be therapeutic rather than vengeful.

As it should be. 17 year old girls are CRAZY and you would have to be either a predator or mentally challenged to mess with one, at all, ever.
Yep! And if I were the parent of the girl, he would be missing much more than his penis. And SHE would be in BIG TROUBLE!

Reverse gender???

If he were my son and did this to a young girl, I'd probably be thankful that he can't reproduce.
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Old 02-05-2015, 03:33 PM
 
Location: Minneapolis
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So if the GIRL was 17 when she committed her crime. how old was she exactly when he began fooling with her?

Lets flip it, ok.

How would you feel if a 25 year old female had sex with, and posted online, the performance of a 16 year old BOY for the world to critique?
If you really want to "flip it", let's do it accurately and completely:

A twenty-five year old female engages in consensual sexual contact with a seventeen year old male. She records the encounter without his knowledge, then posts it online.

Then we have the part of flipping it you seem to find irrelevant...

The seventeen year old male tracks down the twenty-five year old female and pours acid into her vagina, causing both excruciating pain and irreversible sexual dysfunction.

If we did flip it, the discourse here would not include outrage over underage sex, clandestine recordings, or internet videos. However, this thread would be overrun with feminists who would't allow the discussion to veer in the slightest from that of sexual violence against women.

This isn't about gender politics. This story has two people who engaged in terrible behavior. However, to suggest that the acts of these two are somehow equatable, yet alone to outright ignore the actions of the one who inflicted serious bodily injury on the other, is detestable.
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