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I wonder if the bodice of the dress was lined and about the sheerness of the skirt. I can't tell from the picture.
I think its unfortunate that she had this experience on such an important night in her young life. On the other hand, I wish girls could be "girls" for just a little longer. My own grand daughters sometimes surprise me with the heavy make up and revealing outfits.
I wore mini skirts, short shorts, and bikinis. I don't know how my father lived through it Does this make me a hypocrite? Sure. But at least I keep my mouth shut.
She looks fine - this was about her size. The teacher even made a comment about "Us big girls gotta cover up." This is about that teacher being uncomfortable about her own body and trying to force this student to feel the same way.
Yep. And other people who are uncomfortable about their own or others' bodies doing the same thing. Shame on the teacher, and shame on them. That's where the REAL shame belongs!
I agree. She can't help having a cleavage and if some slim girl wore that dress, it would probably be deemed appropriate by the prom police. Double standards are not fair. Thick or thin, same dress code.
I think some of you who don't approve are just looking at, and are disgusted by the size of this young girl, not how beautiful she is and how pretty the dress is.
No, not at all. She is a beautiful girl, I just personally don't consider that much cleavage to be a good look. That's simply my personal preference, and if I had a daughter, I would have guided her toward a different dress. I'm guessing that a specific point of the prom dress code was violated, otherwise, how could they have turned this girl away? But maybe it truly was willy nilly and without just cause.
I agree that double standards are not fair, but if a small busted, or differently shaped girl had worn the same dress, it could have looked completely different. Just like a very short dress that covers enough derrière and thighs on a 4' 11" girl, might be completely indecent on a 5' 8" girl.
Valid points in many posts here, from various ways of viewing the issues.
Yep. And other people who are uncomfortable about their own or others' bodies doing the same thing. Shame on the teacher, and shame on them. That's where the REAL shame belongs!
Absolutely.
The way I see it, absent any concrete "rules" about dress, this is about the individual's personal feelings on the "dress issue".
Heck, this thread has brought up some thoughts that I haven't felt in a long time.
When I, 25 years ago, was looking for my prom dress, it was mortifying. What was out there, at that point, simply didn't fit. It might have fit at the waist, but the bust? Not even close.
There was nothing, off the rack, that would fit.
Now, 25 years later, I get it. But, back in the day? I was inconsolable.
And, for those who say, "just lose weight", I've been there since I was about 12. When I was 18, and shopping for dresses for prom, I was working on losing weight. You see, for me, what I learned growing up, is that one can really only be loved if they are thin. So, that was the goal. And, when I still was a "bigger girl" at prom time, it was devastating.
Thankfully, my mom understood the concept that my bust was not going to disappear, and she wanted to see me in a dress that worked for me. So, the "electric blue sequined dress" was born.
(Yup, again, it was the early 90s. Frankly, I envy this gal's dress, but that's beside the point.)
This gal's dress is, IMO, wonderful for her body type. Shoot- she may be trying to lose weight, or not, it simply works for her at this time. And, who is ANYONE to judge it? From the photo, it's obvious that she feels beautiful in it, and that's what matters.
I know what it's like to be told "we don't have anything for you". Frankly, that's one of the worst feelings I've ever experienced.
If schools want to make rules about this, that is their prerogative. But, for God's sake, make it uniform. It's really not that difficult. Neckline plunging a certain length from the collarbone. Hem a certain length above or below the knee. Shoulders covered.
Just don't leave it for individuals to interpret. Because, as we have seen, that is simply a recipe for disaster.
As a fellow woman who also has a lot on top, I know from personal experience wearing something cut like this just how much more of her cleavage can be seen from "above". That's probably why it was decided that the dress was inappropriate.
I'm also a fellow woman with a lot on top, and I disagree with pretty much the whole post. I saw nothing wrong with what she was wearing.
I agree that double standards are not fair, but if a small busted, or differently shaped girl had worn the same dress, it could have looked completely different.
Yup, if someone without a bust or other curves to fill it out had tried to wear a dress like that, it wouldn't have worked.
So, that's what this is about? That the bigger girls should essentially wear potato sacks, because to encourage them to wear something that *might* make them feel good about themselves is encouraging obesity?
I'd tell you where to take your skinny, judgmental butt, but I'd not like to get banned from this forum.
Nope. Not what I'm saying. I'm saying you dress according to figure. Quite simple. Fashions are designed for the thin. They are meant for the thin. I am far from a twig. I have a 21.2 BMI and 15% body fat. I could rip men my age apart if I needed to. Even being as in shape as I am, I cannot wear many of today's fashions. They are designed for the thin, tall body type. I am stocky, athletic and short no matter how fit. I pay attention and respond accordingly.
That dress was not made for a skinny person with a tiny cup size. I was a string bean and couldn't have worn that dress without a wardrobe malfunction. The dress was for someone who was curvy and on the larger side.
That dress was perfect for that girl. It was in excellent taste.
Be that as it may though, if you've been alive and breathing for about, gee, the past 7, 8 years or so, you'd realize that "fashion" has moved from having a size zero as the sample size. All of the major designers that I know of have come to accept this reality.
Sure, there are some designers that are holding out to this completely unrealistic ideal, but most have come to understand that, nope, that's not where the money is.
Have at your ideals. "Fashion" in general, has moved from the ideal of size zero. Move with the times, or not. But don't think for a moment that what you think is what "fashion" is these days.
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