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Old 06-29-2016, 12:37 PM
 
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To me giving the guy a gym membership or exercise equipment is condescending, and an order of magnitude more insulting than calling him fatty. I respect his right to be fat.

@ anyone that thinks "fatty" is such a horrible insult, what descriptor do you use to describe a fat person?

Suppose you are at a graduation and there are 50 people on stage all dressed alike, you want to point out you Brother who is on stage to someone else, your brother is standing next to a very fat guy, do you say "my brother is the guy standing next to the very fat guy", or do you use some euphemism for fat which is pointless because it means the same thing, or do you engage in some needlessly complicated description "he is the sixth guy from the left in the second row" because you don't want to point out the fat guy in the room? And btw, if you answered: I would describe him as fat but I would not call him fat to his face, that is hypocrisy.


I acknowledge that "fat guy" or "large guy" would have been a better descriptor for the server to use than "fatty", as "fatty" has kind of a juvenile edge to it, like calling a guy named Bill, Billy. But even those are not acceptable to many of the posters in this thread. Ideally they would like everyone to be willfully blind to the fact that the guy is obviously very fat. That is an attempt to abridge speech, and I will not allow my speech to be abridged.
How you are unable to understand that calling someone a fatty to their voice or writing it on a receipt where they will most likely see it is totally rude is beyond me. It's not rocket science to have some common decency & manners. No wonder people think this country is declining, blame it on the people who were born in a barn.
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Old 06-29-2016, 04:53 PM
 
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How you are unable to understand that calling someone a fatty to their voice or writing it on a receipt where they will most likely see it is totally rude is beyond me. It's not rocket science to have some common decency & manners. No wonder people think this country is declining, blame it on the people who were born in a barn.
This totally.

Look, I may think as I go through my day and run into people asking me ridiculous questions "What a stupid moron!"

If I actually said that, I would expect to get punched in the face. Why do people think saying rude hostile things think there should be no repercussions?

These are horrible small people saying things like this to build themselves up.
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Old 06-29-2016, 07:14 PM
 
Location: Outside of Chicago
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What a disrespectful punk. The waiter is an idiot because this could follow him for a while. Good luck explaining why you got fired at interviews in the near future, and the owner is within his right to tell future employers about this if/when they call.
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Old 07-03-2016, 07:37 AM
 
Location: NC
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dude did kind of look like a fatty it seems. dont be scared of the truth.
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Old 07-03-2016, 07:49 AM
 
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dude did kind of look like a fatty it seems. dont be scared of the truth.
Exactly, maybe everyone should jump on social media and the new every time someone offends them. Im sure that will teach people not to call a fatty fatty.
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Old 07-03-2016, 11:16 AM
 
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dude did kind of look like a fatty it seems. dont be scared of the truth.
Yea well thee days YA DONT SAY A WORD!!! (Trust me I know......... Ya say the slightest thing and it sets someone off,makes them mad,etc)
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Old 07-03-2016, 12:02 PM
 
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I love how people on this board thinks that people are so sensitive now compared to the past. Really, think about that. Yes, there is a change in use of words that are offensive to people (like the n word, fatty, retard, etc). But in reality we are able to say so much more, do so much more and be way more free and independent then in our history. Its been a progressive thing, and its part of the evolution of humans. Just because people are not ok with you being a jerk dose not mean people are getting more uptight, it just means your jerk speak is less tolerated.

But go back in time and see all the things you couldn't say, talk about, talk about freely in mixed company, who you couldn't talk to, and what could get you killed for saying.
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Old 07-03-2016, 01:33 PM
 
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While I agree that this shouldn't be front page news, I also don't understand the motivation for saying cruel things about people, nor do I understand the tolerance of such behavior.

I actually think the guy should have been made to make a public apology to the man instead of being fired. It likely would have had a bigger impact.
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Old 07-03-2016, 02:54 PM
 
Location: NC
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he got his 15 mins of news time (over something insanely stupid, even). so its time to move on.
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Old 07-03-2016, 03:07 PM
 
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"Don't be a d*ck" is good advice. Apparently the server didn't know this. But, overall, it's really super advice.
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