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Old 04-30-2018, 09:07 AM
Location: colorado springs, CO
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Originally Posted by rstevens62 View Post
Was she lured away or did she willingly leave? The article is pretty vague on this.
Originally Posted by purehuman View Post
is there a difference?
I think there is. I was her same age when a small group of us were skipping class & walked about 2 blocks away to a convenience store.

This biker (late 30's?) pulled up out front while we were all inside & I told my friends: "Hey; you see that biker on that Harley? I'm going to go take a ride with him ..."

And they were all freaked out & telling me he was going to kidnap me or rape me or something but I was unfazed & walked up to him saying: "I like your bike; can you take me for a ride?"

I will never be the one to argue that as a teenager; I should never have survived myself. This was long before the days of cell phones, let alone social media. He didn't seek me out & he didn't lure me but he sure as heck didn't turn me away.

He did say something like "I sure hope I don't get in trouble for this, Jailbait!" And I tried to tell him "I'm not jailbait!" (I was 15: I was jailbait)

And no; nothing "bad" happened, depending on your definition of bad. I got dropped off at the same convenience store about an hour later & my friends were still there waiting for me, huddled behind the store & I got lectured by a bunch of stoners who suddenly sounded like Moms: "What if, what if, what if ..?"

In a court of law, had "something bad" happened, I suppose it would have been all on him. But I knew better than that & so did my peers. I don't think the emergence of social media makes a difference. Legally; any banter between the two of them would evidence "luring" on his part but she shouldn't get a victim's pass per the court of public opinion.

It took me about a split second to catch on to how to play the false narrative to my advantage when I was a kid. Why be dumb when I could be "vulnerable; with low self-esteem". Why would I own up to doing something super lame & stupid when it could be "acting out with a cry for help"?

This is pretty dangerous, IMO. It doesn't matter anymore that "It wasn't my responsibility; I'm the victim!" if I'm dead in a dumpster. A lot of women & girls won't get a chance to be a hashtaghero, despite how it "should" be. That's just not how it is.

Last edited by toosie; 04-30-2018 at 04:00 PM.. Reason: Edited out asterisked profanity
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Old 05-01-2018, 03:08 PM
Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
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I can't understand why she was allowed to leave school. That seems to be the weak link....
I was at my son's school one day wen they went on lock down and no one could leave the building. It wasn't a pleasant experience and definitely not something I'd care to have done at my child's school every day.
Sometimes I feel like we expect schools do do a better job of controlling our kids than we do.
Instead of saying schools need to step up and educate kids about these dangers, why don't we first ask why the parents aren't doing this at home?
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