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A 72-year-old grandmother insists she has found ‘true love’ with her 19-year-old husband – who says he has ‘never seen attracted to younger women’.
Almeda Errell, from Maryville, Tennessee, fell in love with husband Gary Hardwick at a birthday party, with the pair enjoying a whirlwind romance.
After just two weeks of dating, Gary popped the question and the couple decided to get married, despite their 53-year-old age gap.
The ones 'hurt' are the ones who will not be getting their inheritances because they were swindled by a con artist.
Imagine if there were more predators like this guy hitting the senior homes targeting the elderly for their homes and assets. But who are we to judge? If the vulnerable want to sign away their wealth over to someone who they might spend over a few years with vs direct descendants I guess we should let it be.
I feel like, if someone comes into my life when I am old, and makes my last years more enjoyable, actually gives me time and attention, love and affection, when my actual descendants see me as a nuisance they don't even want to bother with visiting...well it's sure my own choice who I want to leave my assets to, so long as I am of sound mind.
If you don't invest any time in your elders, why would you feel entitled to their wealth?
And why assume he's only there for an inheritance? Just because MOST 19 year old guys are only drawn to "young and hot" women? If he is genuinely happy to be with her, then good for him! If he isn't that hot for her, but is giving her love and kindness even in the hopes of an inheritance, still...he's earning it.
Frankly I LOATHE how family members get all vulture like about the wealth of their elders. That's gross, to me.
I had a Great Aunt who was inspirational to my young self. I lived with her for about a year or two, during the end of my teen years, and she taught me so much and I loved her dearly. Others in my family did not really "get" her but I did. We were close. Her own sister, and others, thought I was just cozying up to her hoping she'd leave me money, and nothing could have been further from the truth. When she passed, I was in her will to be able to retrieve whatever I wanted from her material possessions, and I did go through her condo and took sentimental family things and old photos and stuff like that, but for the most part her wealth, her money and stuff that was auctioned, went first to her care as she had dementia and had to be in a home (and we wanted it to be a nice one) and what was left, went to a foundation at a college that she designated. I didn't get any money. My other family couldn't believe it, I think Grandma died believing that I'd inherited money I didn't want them to know about, and wouldn't quit grilling me about a pair of ruby earring she wanted. Psh.
I know a lot of people just cannot believe that a young person might have a genuine loving and affectionate bond with an old person, but I prefer the company of older people. They have a lot of soul and a lot of stories. Besides it isn't any of my business to assume things and judge people for their choices.
The ones 'hurt' are the ones who will not be getting their inheritances because they were swindled by a con artist.
Imagine if there were more predators like this guy hitting the senior homes targeting the elderly for their homes and assets. But who are we to judge? If the vulnerable want to sign away their wealth over to someone who they might spend over a few years with vs direct descendants I guess we should let it be.
If that's his motive, he could have a long wait. She could live another 25 years. He looks like a great guy.
The billing specialist in my doctor's office was around 60, when she met the guy who's now her husband. He wasn't yet 25. They met in an acupuncturist's office, I think, and hit it off, had a lot of interests in common. He stayed in touch with her, and things got intense. He said he'd never been interested in women his age. They've not been married 6 years or so. Going strong.
If she has lots of money, then his motives are suspect.
However, I know a couple of married couples where the wife is substantially older and those are sound marriages and much more happy than a typical matrriage.
Not sure if it is relavant, but those much younger husband's are both big, strong, confident, and very handsome men. So they are not settling for their older wife.
I'm more perturbed about how he proposed after only 2 weeks of dating ... and he is 19. That's crazy to me. I think you need to date at least a year to know if you really want to spend the rest of your life of your life with someone ... but hey that is me. Some people say they 'know' right away ... but I really believe it takes time to develop and know in your mind that you're 100% sure .. b/c it's a huge commitment.
I'm divorced and I am a huge advocate of not rushing into anything and taking one's time.
The ones 'hurt' are the ones who will not be getting their inheritances because they were swindled by a con artist.
Imagine if there were more predators like this guy hitting the senior homes targeting the elderly for their homes and assets. But who are we to judge? If the vulnerable want to sign away their wealth over to someone who they might spend over a few years with vs direct descendants I guess we should let it be.
I'd love to have this be a "believe in true love" story but realistically...he was in fact targeting the elderly before this...his previous girlfriend was 75. And these two met and married within three weeks. It isn't looking good from here.
And there is more to being upset about an inheritance than the actual money. From my experience - witnessing it, I mean - it is about the family feeling unloved and forsaken by the person, who shows this in a concrete, material way by grabbing some stud and leaving assets to him instead, but rarely, rarely is it just that.
It hurts A LOT to feel forsaken by someone who was supposed to *want* to take care of you, because that person preferred to get off for a few years and then just drop dead and be gone from you forever.
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