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Old Yesterday, 07:25 AM
 
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Two people have commented on me saying in my post, 'but what can you do?' This is an English saying used when people do something that doesn't make sense. Saying, 'but what can you do' means idiots can't be prevented from doing stupid things.

Just thought I'd clear that up......
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Old Yesterday, 07:37 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Two people have commented on me saying in my post, 'but what can you do?' This is an English saying used when people do something that doesn't make sense. Saying, 'but what can you do' means idiots can't be prevented from doing stupid things.

Just thought I'd clear that up......
Thanks. Sometimes communications across the pond require translation.
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Old Yesterday, 07:44 AM
 
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Right. For all of the reasons you mentioned, is why I said that something in this story just doesn’t add up Maybe it is actually more involved than what was reported in the brief article?
Yahoo News? I think it was taken from a local TV news station, though. Well, in any case, that poor woman is now out of her entire retirement savings. In her mid-50's, she doesn't have a lot of time to rebuild that.

The Chinese must assume that a lot of Americans find military men attractive. Even ones who are a fraction of the age of their targets. The whole story is so odd...
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Old Yesterday, 07:54 AM
 
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But what can you do??? How about using common sense and never giving away money or any personal information to someone you don't actually know (have never met in person). That's a simple start.

Even then, dating and getting to know them as a person before making any big commitments (like giving someone thousands of dollars) would be ideal, but the least a person can do is meet (and talk to someone) face to face before doing anything rash.

Start with Skype/ FaceTime as a screening tool and make sure they are the same person in the online pictures. Then meet face to face. Those basic common sense screening methods would weed out the vast majority of scammers. Being scammed by someone you've met in person is different and may be a little more difficult.

But doing basic things would have prevented the woman in this case from giving away her life savings (almost $300K) to someone she never met.
Why so outraged about a rhetorical question? Perhaps English is not your native language (just guessing since your screen name is French for "nobody"). Calm down. It's a colloquial expression that English speakers understand is not intended to be taken literally.
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Old Yesterday, 07:55 AM
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Location: Ohio
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Why can't I ever find these women? I could sure use the money.....
Can't recommend this. If you live in this country and you pull this stunt on a US-based person, you'd be looking at Federal charges for wire fraud. Hard to picture a scenario where the Federal judge or jury would be the least bit sympathetic to a ********* who preyed upon the lovelorn. (edit - That filtered word is not a profanity, it's a word that means a person who commits fraud.)
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Old Yesterday, 07:58 AM
 
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???
You can say no. now I am naturally cheap, so the nanosecond some one asks me for money my radar goes up.

Case in point, I was chatting with a gentlemen off of match, very nice sounding until..... for some reason he kept asking me to send him pictures. humm no. first he said it was because so many people on line use old pictures that did not look like them now. Ok sounds plausible, so I took a picture in front of city hall with the date and time behind me, posted it on match.

He kept asking for more pictures, finally I said, "I do not send pictures to people I do not know", that if he was interested in getting to know me, we could arrange a meet and greet. period.

we did meet and we really didn't connect but the point is, I establish boundaries immediately. it's easy and weeds out those that I'm suspect about.

If someone ask you for money a simple "sorry I do not send money to strangers, EVER" and hang up.
Again, to a native English speaker, "what can you do" is clearly not a question expecting an answer but an expression of the futility of trying to deal with the entirety of this sort of situation.
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Old Yesterday, 08:17 AM
 
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Can't recommend this. If you live in this country and you pull this stunt on a US-based person, you'd be looking at Federal charges for wire fraud. Hard to picture a scenario where the Federal judge or jury would be the least bit sympathetic to a ********* who preyed upon the lovelorn. (edit - That filtered word is not a profanity, it's a word that means a person who commits fraud.)
1. My post was a joke. You can look it up.
2. Most victims will never report the loss because they don't want the embarrassment
3. It happens in the US all the time. If you believe otherwise, please send me $10,000.
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Old Yesterday, 08:32 AM
 
Location: St Louis MO area
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I get single, male requests all the time on facebook. For fun sometimes I'll accept the friendship to see what they say (every once in a blue moon it is someone I actually know) and the ones I don't know, always send me an IM starting out, "Hello, dear."

Why do they always call me dear?

Many are current or former military and many are widowed.

Delete immediately. Block immediately.

How can you NOT see these are scams?
I have started getting these in the past year... Three or four each week on Facebook, always widowed, always working overseas, almost always former military. And their Facebook account was just set up in the past two days, and they have zero "friends" (or maybe a few that are clearly from a foreign country), and they are always well educated and have pictures of them with their kids or grandkids.

I guess this is a clear sign that I am now considered one of those "women of a certain age?" HA! I'm 46. But I don't ever hear of these scammers sending "friend" requests to my 20- or 30-something co-workers.

My husband works at a bank. When anyone comes in to wire money overseas, the tellers are required to ask if they know the person, if this could be a scam, etc. Every single one of the customers lies, even though the bank is trying to protect them. And every single one of them somehow tries to spread some of the blame to the bank after the scam is figured out: "Why didn't the bank tell me this could be a scam? WAAHHHH!"
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Old Yesterday, 08:48 AM
 
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Well, in the words of Romana II......."he told you what you wanted to hear!" (The Horns of Nimon)
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Old Yesterday, 09:06 AM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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Two people have commented on me saying in my post, 'but what can you do?' This is an English saying used when people do something that doesn't make sense. Saying, 'but what can you do' means idiots can't be prevented from doing stupid things.

Just thought I'd clear that up......
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Why so outraged about a rhetorical question? Perhaps English is not your native language (just guessing since your screen name is French for "nobody"). Calm down. It's a colloquial expression that English speakers understand is not intended to be taken literally.
English Dave- my apologies. The phrase was lost in translation (actually on second read, I just read it incorrectly). I'm glad you took it in good stride, unlike this other poster.

To Chaofan....your guess is wrong. English is my first language. Now take your own advise, and CALM DOWN!!!
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