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Old Yesterday, 12:03 PM
 
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Chanel Miller has written a book. I very much look forward to reading it.

https://people.com/crime/woman-sexua...chanel-miller/
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Old Yesterday, 12:19 PM
 
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Good for her. I'm glad she got the validation, and found the confidence and strength to write her book and self-identify. I'll say it again. Good for her.
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Old Yesterday, 01:39 PM
 
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It is, indeed, quite a feat to tell a story you can't recall.
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Old Yesterday, 05:23 PM
 
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It is, indeed, quite a feat to tell a story you can't recall.
Touche.

Her observations about the rape exam are valid, and in my opinion, enlightening. I do think there need to be changes in how those exams are conducted to lessen the negative impact on women reporting rape. When you read through her story, it was the rape exam that she points to as being horrifically traumatic, because, as you note, she doesn't recall the sexual assault so all of the humiliation she associates with the incident occurs in the rape exam room.

I'm a voracious reader but no thanks. I've heard her story already enough, and am not interested in her further just because (as the CNN headline states) she wants "the world to know her name".

I can think of other voices that deserve to be heard loud and clear. We've heard hers already, thanks.

But yes, changes need to be made in preparing the rape exam kit, point taken.
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Old Yesterday, 05:29 PM
 
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Great. Now the biggest fake news story of 2016 can become the biggest fake news story of 2019.
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Old Yesterday, 07:47 PM
 
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The more I think about it, the more really concerning the title "Know My Name" and the desire behind writing this becomes. What is this unquenchable desire some have for fame, at any cost and for any reason?

For a woman who is claiming to be terribly humiliated, why is it so important to her that we all know exactly who she is, and what she looks like so that we would likely (hopefully?) recognize her in public after she makes the rounds of interviews on news shows?

And a follow up question - what was her personality like, before this incident happened?

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Old Yesterday, 09:42 PM
 
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Touche.

Her observations about the rape exam are valid, and in my opinion, enlightening. I do think there need to be changes in how those exams are conducted to lessen the negative impact on women reporting rape. When you read through her story, it was the rape exam that she points to as being horrifically traumatic, because, as you note, she doesn't recall the sexual assault so all of the humiliation she associates with the incident occurs in the rape exam room.

I'm a voracious reader but no thanks. I've heard her story already enough, and am not interested in her further just because (as the CNN headline states) she wants "the world to know her name".

I can think of other voices that deserve to be heard loud and clear. We've heard hers already, thanks.

But yes, changes need to be made in preparing the rape exam kit, point taken.
Absolutely, great care has to be taken in these situations, regardless of the outcome. I can imagine what it's like to wake up after a bender and not know where you are, to the possibility that you were raped. That uncertainty has to be maddening.

So when the available facts later offer an alternative and you run with the worst case scenario, I'm going to wonder what the payoff is. I have to admit, I never thought this would be it. But it makes total sense.
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Old Yesterday, 09:45 PM
 
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The more I think about it, the more really concerning the title "Know My Name" and the desire behind writing this becomes. What is this unquenchable desire some have for fame, at any cost and for any reason?

For a woman who is claiming to be terribly humiliated, why is it so important to her that we all know exactly who she is, and what she looks like so that we would likely (hopefully?) recognize her in public after she makes the rounds of interviews on news shows?
She's a hero now. And sympathy and pity can be addicting.

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And a follow up question - what was her personality like, before this incident happened?
I suspect it was exactly as you see it now. This isn't trauma at work.
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Old Yesterday, 10:40 PM
 
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Yet if she was driving, they would hold her fully responsible.
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Old Yesterday, 11:18 PM
 
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Yet if she was driving, they would hold her fully responsible.
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