How about DAFB???? Look on the AFPC website and see what is available. You get spouse preference.
Dover is nice, i have been on the base a few times. Drop me a PM when you get there and I can give you some ideas for good eats and stuff to do.
Are you staying on base?
There are quite a few apt complexes in Dover area as well, you can look them up on your favorite apartment finder site.
Also there is Dover Downs, which is a racetrack and casino. Might be employment there. You should have a pretty good support base being a military wife. Usually coworkers and military wives can get you started in the right direction.
Have fun and relax. Being a military wife is great and you have a lot of benefits and support.

I have been one for almost 9 years now, DH has been in for almost 10.