Mentality as a whole is very similar to Californians (Denver: cliquey, living)

[AMPL]

We have lived in California for 3 years(just been back) and after being here for 1 year (we live in Parker CO) – we consider people’s mentality as a whole in these two states to be very similar. It is the same self-absorbedness, airiness and lack of caring for anything except me, me - we feel a lot of times (To clarify, it is not all people that are like this, but neither is it in CA, but it is enough to be a trend). From talking with a lot of other people - we are definitely not alone with our opinion - we get that it has not always been like this, but it is getting worse by the minute. There are a lot of good things to say about Colorado - it is pretty obvious, but this is one opinion we never heard before we moved here and we want to let people know what we think about living here when they consider moving here. We do not intend to pi.. off people we just want to help others make a informed decision.

[zenkonami]

Respectfully, I disagree. There's a little bit of "self-absorbedness, airiness and lack of caring for anything except me" in other places I've lived, such as Phoenix and Las Vegas, but nobody is comparing Colorado to Arizona or Nevada (Parker to me is somewhat like Fountain Hills in Arizona.) Nevermind the difficulty generalizing about a population in a state this large and functionally diverse (agriculture, tourism, finance, government, energy, etc...)

I've found some people here that fit the OPs description, but many people that care deeply for their surroundings and fellows...I'm not even sure what airiness is meant to convey...

[RedSoxFanGoingWest]

Originally Posted by AMPL

We have lived in California for 3 years(just been back) and after being here for 1 year (we live in Parker CO) – we consider people’s mentality as a whole in these two states to be very similar. It is the same self-absorbedness, airiness and lack of caring for anything except me, me - we feel a lot of times (To clarify, it is not all people that are like this, but neither is it in CA, but it is enough to be a trend). From talking with a lot of other people - we are definitely not alone with our opinion - we get that it has not always been like this, but it is getting worse by the minute. There are a lot of good things to say about Colorado - it is pretty obvious, but this is one opinion we never heard before we moved here and we want to let people know what we think about living here when they consider moving here. We do not intend to pi.. off people we just want to help others make a informed decision.

There are self-absorbed people in every city, in every state in this country...

[Timmyy]

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[Bradburn1]

Originally Posted by AMPL

We have lived in California for 3 years(just been back) and after being here for 1 year (we live in Parker CO) – we consider people’s mentality as a whole in these two states to be very similar. It is the same self-absorbedness, airiness and lack of caring for anything except me, me - we feel a lot of times

When you say you feel this mentality a lot of times, what do you mean exactly? Do you have rude, snotty neighbors?

I'm so sorry this has been your experience, I live in north Denver (Westminster) and my experience is the exact opposite. My community is filled with wonderful, caring people who go out of their way to help and support each other. Do we have some selfish jerks? Of course! Everywhere does, but the vast, vast majority of people I know here are totally awesome fun, friendly, giving people. I've lived in Westminster for 7 years and it's by far the nicest, friendliest place I've ever lived.

[CruisingUSA]

Originally Posted by Bradburn1

When you say you feel this mentality a lot of times, what do you mean exactly? Do you have rude, snotty neighbors?

I'm so sorry this has been your experience, I live in north Denver (Westminster) and my experience is the exact opposite. My community is filled with wonderful, caring people who go out of their way to help and support each other. Do we have some selfish jerks? Of course! Everywhere does, but the vast, vast majority of people I know here are totally awesome fun, friendly, giving people. I've lived in Westminster for 7 years and it's by far the nicest, friendliest place I've ever lived.

That don't mean anything. They are your neighbors. You've been there for 7 years of course they going to bend over backwards.

You neighbors do not make up the whole city. That being said, I do kind of feel Denver is a bit cliquey.

[Bradburn1]

Originally Posted by CruisingUSA

That don't mean anything. They are your neighbors. You've been there for 7 years of course they going to bend over backwards.

You neighbors do not make up the whole city. That being said, I do kind of feel Denver is a bit cliquey.

It's my experience, that's what it means. I was pointing out that saying an entire city is self-centered or cliquey is completely subjective. I've had had plenty of a hole neighbors in other places, believe me--being a neighbor seems to have little to do with it (unfortunately).

I wonder if there is some way to objectively measure this? Like a city "Jerk index" (or the flip side "friendliness index"). I imagine that would be quite useful but I can't imagine how it could be done, there's enough variability in any proxy index to give statisticians nightmares.

[cowboyxjon]

A lot of people moved to Denver from California over the past few years. Maybe a lot of them moved to Parker?

I don't know what else to say, really. I think you can find people like this anywhere.

[CruisingUSA]

Originally Posted by Bradburn1

I wonder if there is some way to objectively measure this? Like a city "Jerk index" (or the flip side "friendliness index"). I imagine that would be quite useful but I can't imagine how it could be done, there's enough variability in any proxy index to give statisticians nightmares.

This whole country is full of fake, flakey people. That's why I ordered my passport because I just want to get the hell out of this country. I met some guys from Sweden the other day...even if they didn't have the accents you'd know they weren't from Colorado and most certainly not America.

[Cupcake77]

Originally Posted by Timmyy

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