U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > U.S. Forums > Colorado > Denver
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 10-07-2014, 09:23 PM
 
15 posts, read 18,792 times
Reputation: 14

Advertisements

I'm moving from San Diego to Denver early next year, and I'm curious about the people there...specifically the gay guys. Yes, I understand that it's unfair to generalize a group of people, however, there are usually common characteristics/trends.

I'm hoping gay guys in Denver are more masculine than gay guys here in SD. I feel the guys here are pretty feminine, they like watching "the kardashians" or "real housewives of," they care way too much about their hair/nails/looks, they are materialistic, they are very into "the scene," and like to wear things that are super tight or like to wear close to nothing at all (and just love a cute tank top).

Where are the gay guys who like to go hiking, and camping? or partake in outdoor activities other than going to the bar to gossip? The guys who are just...I don't know...guys?

I really don't mean to offend anyone...there is nothing wrong with the guys I mentioned above- they just aren't my type. I guess I'm just a bit upset and hoping for a nice change. I feel like I just don't "fit" in with the crowd here...hoping that'll change in Denver.

Any advice/thoughts/feedback?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 10-08-2014, 06:11 AM
 
145 posts, read 221,093 times
Reputation: 262
Honestly, with that attitude, I think you'd be better off moving to Colorado Springs and hooking up with one of the closeted Evangelicals there.

Most of the gay men here in Denver are just complex human beings who don't really concern themselves with perpetuating any sort of butch/femme stereotype. Many of the gay men here here like looking good AND getting dirty, we like watching sports AND watching musicals, we like hiking mountains AND hitting the clubs.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 10-08-2014, 06:29 AM
 
Location: Golden, CO
2,181 posts, read 5,630,863 times
Reputation: 2073
I've visited San Diego but I can't really compare, as I've never lived there and haven't tried to date there -- but I did live in LA for a little while.
I think you may find what you are looking for in Denver and these types of guys probably exist in San Diego as well. There are sports teams to join like flag football (a gay co-worker plays in a league) and plenty of guys who are into outdoor activities and sports. My partner and I like to camp, off-road, and hike, though the groups we hang out with aren't all gay guys (a few straight couples too).

Hope this helps somewhat. And you know what? Your question is TOTALLY OK. The type of guy you mention above -- basically guys who wish they were teenage girls from the 80s/90s who are hanging out at the mall OR guys who wish they were black women -- are not the types of guys I find attractive either. You'll find that type here too, however.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 10-08-2014, 07:33 AM
 
15 posts, read 18,792 times
Reputation: 14
Quote:
Many of the gay men here here like looking good AND getting dirty, we like watching sports AND watching musicals, we like hiking mountains AND hitting the clubs.
I don't think I explained myself clearly (my apologies). These are the kind of guys that would be great to meet- guys who can comfortably be a bit of both and not solely be interested in the clubs/looking good. Also, definitely not into hook ups...looking for some great new friends and eventually something more substantial than that.

Quote:
The type of guy you mention above -- basically guys who wish they were teenage girls from the 80s/90s who are hanging out at the mall OR guys who wish they were black women
That's pretty spot on, LOL. Thank you for your reply; much appreciated!
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 10-08-2014, 09:11 AM
 
Location: Denver, Colorado U.S.A.
14,174 posts, read 23,271,626 times
Reputation: 10428
I'm not into the "gay scene" in Denver since I'm married and we have kids, but I did live here for a couple years in the 90s before meeting my now husband and moving to California. Anyway, it seemed like there were all types in Denver. I never noticed there being a majority of fem acting gay guys.

Now we live around a lot of gay couples with kids, and they're just typical people. You'll probably be pleased with they types of guys you'll find here.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 10-09-2014, 05:16 PM
 
79 posts, read 83,237 times
Reputation: 252
(note to self: create gay bar with "Lumberjack Nights" to lure traffic in from So Cal area ... )
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 10-09-2014, 06:39 PM
 
20,896 posts, read 39,157,087 times
Reputation: 19172
Quote:
Originally Posted by Techn0lady View Post
(note to self: create gay bar with "Lumberjack Nights" to lure traffic in from So Cal area ... )
Lumberjack? Did you say Lumberjack? Well, here's the bartenders.....



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sZa26_esLBE
__________________
- Please follow our TOS.
- Any Questions about City-Data? See the FAQ list.
- Want some detailed instructions on using the site? See The Guide for plain english explanation.
- Realtors are welcome here but do see our Realtor Advice to avoid infractions.
- Thank you and enjoy City-Data.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 10-09-2014, 07:41 PM
 
5,368 posts, read 5,148,120 times
Reputation: 3308
Edit: Sigh, I'll be an adult about this.

OP, just like San Diego or any other city in America it is all about the situations that you put yourself in. What bar do you go to? What do you do outside of work to get to know other gay men?

Some people make me laugh because they hang out at the flash rave bar and they hope to meet super masculine men there. You won't. Well, you might, but it is unlikely.

Every city has the hangouts that the out-doorsy and active people go to. This bar is usually the place where sports teams are organized as well. I am still new to Denver but I think the place to do that here is the Wrangler.

I can say that on Grindr here, there are plenty of men talking about their affinity for out doors activities. But from what I have seen the gay scene here is the exact same as the gay scene anywhere. It is all about the situations you put yourself in that will determine who you meet.

Last edited by CravingMountains; 10-09-2014 at 07:53 PM..
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 10-10-2014, 08:39 PM
 
15 posts, read 18,792 times
Reputation: 14
I think that's the issue...I just don't really know where to go.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 10-22-2014, 02:56 PM
 
Location: High Plains of Colorado
97 posts, read 106,432 times
Reputation: 158
NOTE, I'm generalizing here, and that's dangerous stuff. Nonetheless:

Denver is far too prissy and materialistic for me, but I think that's probably true in all big cities.

Colorado Springs, Pueblo would be places to check out. Pueblo probably doesn't have much of a gay scene at all, but I'm sure there's plenty of gay ppl. The Springs might make a decent trade-off for you, particularly coming from California -- it's likely to seem very low-key, modest, and not at all flaming or prissy.

You can have as much of California as you want in Colorado (besides the beaches and warm weather) or you can have damn near none of it (blessedly, IMO -- I left California in the early 90's and I've never regretted it once). So again, I'm generalizing and that probably makes me 90% wrong already. Best of luck to you.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:


Options
X
Data:
Loading data...
Based on 2000-2016 data
Loading data...

123
Hide US histogram


Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > U.S. Forums > Colorado > Denver
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6.

2005-2019, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35 - Top