I'm here 10 months in and feel like I'm not fitting in "Bigly"? (Denver: best cities, salary)

[N610DL]

Originally Posted by BarryK123

FYI, the correct word for your title is "jibe." Jive is what Barbara Billingsley translated in the movie "Airplane."

I made up a word - moderators can we change thread name "I'm here 10 months in and feel like I'm not fitting in "Bigly"?

[Mike from back east]

Originally Posted by N610DL

I made up a word - moderators can we change thread name "I'm here 10 months in and feel like I'm not fitting in "Bigly"?

Done.

[N610DL]

Originally Posted by Mike from back east

Done.

lol I was joking but thanks!!!

[mysticaltyger]

Originally Posted by N610DL

So I moved here 10 months ago for a new job and just got cut loose unexpectedly (no written explanation, reasoning, etc.) I'm 29, male, straight & single and was courted here for a new job and a fresh start. Let's just say I may have a potential feeling it's not working out so far.

I'm from NJ originally and moved here from Southern California. I would say I was probably bored out there, but content. I would only say since I moved here have I been just angrier deep down and constantly bogged down by job changes. It was a big process to move into an apartment with no furniture and start all over again. I will also say I need to do a better job of getting out more and joining sports clubs and go snowboarding, but all of that takes a back seat to work. But overall, I'm less relaxed and angrier than I was in California. I also feel the high altitude is screwing with my digestive system a bit.

I've met guy friends (drinking buddies per say) just fine. But the dating scene is grueling even compared to L.A. Not because it's the lack of women here but because I don't think they "jive" with my overly sarcastic dark personality type. Without going too much into specifics, it's wearing me down gradually.

I don't know if 10 months is enough, but has any transplants moved here and feel like it's a bit overrated? Are there people who have moved here and went somewhere else because they didn't like it? The only 2 places I would consider moving to are Florida or back to SoCal.


PS: I know 10 months isn't enough time to judge, but it could be a good barometer. So I'll hang in there until the 1.5 year mark when lease is up and make the ultimate call - just looking for perspective.

I am almost certain that NJ sarcasm is hurting you. People out West don't get sarcasm and/or don't like it. It's interesting you mention anger. Sarcasm is actually a form of anger. The East Coast (NYC, Philadelphia, Boston, DC) has an angry energy going on. If you grew up there, it seems as natural as the air you breathe, so you don't notice it. But you are carrying it around without even being aware of it. Trust me. Other people pick up on it. And they don't like it.

[Magnolia Bloom]

Life is short. Go with your gut. What is the worst that can happen? You move back.

I think you would love it along the coast in SE Florida. And if not, try someplace else.

It stinks to move. But it stinks more to look back in regret for not making a move when your insides are telling you it's not your happy place.

[N610DL]

Originally Posted by mysticaltyger

I am almost certain that NJ sarcasm is hurting you. People out West don't get sarcasm and/or don't like it. It's interesting you mention anger. Sarcasm is actually a form of anger. The East Coast (NYC, Philadelphia, Boston, DC) has an angry energy going on. If you grew up there, it seems as natural as the air you breathe, so you don't notice it. But you are carrying it around without even being aware of it. Trust me. Other people pick up on it. And they don't like it.

I'm almost certain you are incorrect being people from the Midwest and even Colorado have the same attitudes (or close to it). And by the way the Attitude you get in DC is totally different than NYC. If you lump all cities together as far as attitude goes, you are nuts.

Yeah I pick up on a vague Colorado vibe and I tell it like it is. Can't have our head up our a** and in the mountains all the time. My attitude is polarizing in Denver and more appreciated in Los Angeles but not some "unwelcoming" behavior like you impose. I will say a lot of CO types would be eaten alive on the coasts and it's probably a huge reason they reside here.

[N610DL]

Originally Posted by Magnolia Bloom

Life is short. Go with your gut. What is the worst that can happen? You move back.

I think you would love it along the coast in SE Florida. And if not, try someplace else.

It stinks to move. But it stinks more to look back in regret for not making a move when your insides are telling you it's not your happy place.

Where in Southeast Florida? - curious. Just down in Boca Raton and Hillsboro Besch for work and really liked it. I felt very relaxed for certain

[SkyDog77]

Originally Posted by N610DL

I will say a lot of CO types would be eaten alive on the coasts and it's probably a huge reason they reside here.

And some East Coast and California types get eaten alive here. Too career focused and can't climb or ski well enough to fit in.

[history nerd]

It's interesting how most people responddin g have been transplants... The story is so much different in every way for natives. Try moving out of the trendy areas and come experience real Colorado.

[Count David]

Originally Posted by N610DL

I will say a lot of CO types would be eaten alive on the coasts and it's probably a huge reason they reside here.

I moved here because I couldn't hack it in So Cal.

Originally Posted by SkyDog77

And some East Coast and California types get eaten alive here. Too career focused and can't climb or ski well enough to fit in.

Ggggguuuuuiiiiilllllttttttyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!