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Old 03-02-2017, 06:33 PM
 
Location: On the sunny side of a mountain
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I have to agree with the others that your wife should finish school. It will be less stressful on you financially if she has higher wage potential.

Get your teaching certificate, let the grandparents help out with the kids for a while longer until they are closer to kindergarten and your childcare costs won't be as high.

Take a bunch of vacations to Colorado in the meantime and enjoy the outdoors. A year or two isn't that long to get some things in order and not create stress where it doesn't need to be.
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Old 03-02-2017, 07:49 PM
 
Location: Mars City
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Now that we have talked to a realtor and cleaned up our house I am starting to get cold feet. The job outlook in the Denver area and surrounding area makes me nervous. My wife would get a job no problem as a nurse with over 10 years experience in critical care. I currently do not have a teaching certification but I would be able to teach under a temporary certification in Colorado. I would also like to teach math and I don't think I would have that difficult of a time eventually finding a teaching position in math.

I've made a pros and cons list and I am still driving myself crazy. I know I would love to go hiking and skiing and be with my cousins who also have two small kids but I am very nervous on ruining what we have good here.

My wife is also in grad school which could be very stressful. As much as I thought we don't want to be in Florida and I want to go to Colorado and living that lifestyle now that we have the chance to do it I'm getting cold feet.

Or do we say screw it and move this summer and start establishing our lives in Colorado?
Why is it one extreme or the other (Florida vs. Colorado)? Maybe if you chose somewhere more in-between (including in climate, affordability, and region of the country) you wouldn't be stressing so much.

I understand coastal living - you mentioned Florida and Rhode Island - and get the benefits of being near the water. You might really dislike being so far from the water, and really dislike the many long months of winter in Colorado. I still haven't found another person from a coastal location now living in CO that has adjusted to it here. And even in the few hot months of the year here, it still doesn't feel right to someone who comes from the coast. I shunned another part of the country with high heat and humidity to come to CO, and now find myself valuing those things. It sounds crazy on paper, but that's how one's perspective can change when experiencing something so different from one's roots.

I know the feeling of having it good (financially, etc.) and wrecking it by trying something vastly different, and moving to a completely different location. CO can be a great place, but it can also be a place that's very alien on many levels, and not feel like home.

The rush to do something that you are starting to feel uneasy about is a good healthy red flag to slow down, turn down the emotions, and put more wisdom and thinking into it. And just remember; your ideas and envisioned life in Colorado may not turn out like you're dreaming of. You have to be careful that it doesn't take over you, like a runaway train.

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Old 03-03-2017, 06:59 AM
 
Location: Way up high
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I'm from Miami which is hotter than Daytona Beach and I'm out here in Colorado. Eventually bf and I will be moving back to Florida but more than likely up that area.


You guys have it good out there. Denver is very expensive in all aspects: rent/housing, taxes, child care, etc.


Stay put!!!!!! It would be a bad move on your part
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Old 03-03-2017, 07:26 AM
 
Location: Denver
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Stay put finish schooling. The dryness will get to you eventually in Denver without bathing in moisturizing creme. Yea we get tons of sun and mild weather but IMHO its too much of a good thing. Guaranteed the whole front range will be having lots wild fires and smoke come spring… think zero moisture that is Denver. If I lived out of state the only place I would consider moving in Colorado is the beautiful mountains. Working on my exit plan. god luck
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Old 03-03-2017, 08:05 AM
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Location: Foot of the Rockies
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OP, I think you are overestimating nursing salaries here. According to thes links:
Registered Nurse (RN) Salary in Daytona Beach, Florida
Registered Nurse (RN) Salary in Denver, Colorado
at best it would be about $5/hr more.

Now once your wife gets the NP, she'll make more.
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Old 03-03-2017, 08:58 AM
 
Location: In the hot spot!
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Why is it one extreme or the other (Florida vs. Colorado)? Maybe if you chose somewhere more in-between (including in climate, affordability, and region of the country) you wouldn't be stressing so much.

I understand coastal living - you mentioned Florida and Rhode Island - and get the benefits of being near the water. You might really dislike being so far from the water, and really dislike the many long months of winter in Colorado. I still haven't found another person from a coastal location now living in CO that has adjusted to it here. And even in the few hot months of the year here, it still doesn't feel right to someone who comes from the coast. I shunned another part of the country with high heat and humidity to come to CO, and now find myself valuing those things. It sounds crazy on paper, but that's how one's perspective can change when experiencing something so different from one's roots.

I know the feeling of having it good (financially, etc.) and wrecking it by trying something vastly different, and moving to a completely different location. CO can be a great place, but it can also be a place that's very alien on many levels, and not feel like home.

The rush to do something that you are starting to feel uneasy about is a good healthy red flag to slow down, turn down the emotions, and put more wisdom and thinking into it. And just remember; your ideas and envisioned life in Colorado may not turn out like you're dreaming of. You have to be careful that it doesn't take over you, like a runaway train.
This^^^^^^^

OP, I understand where you are as one who has moved his family multiple times for various reasons (mostly job-related). Some moves worked out beautifully while others were disasters. I would caution you not to move to quickly on this and recommend your wife finish school where you are. As another responder said your hesitancy could be a blessing in disguise. Trust yourself and your instincts. You mentioned that you left Rhode Island to get away from the cold, but Colorado gets pretty cold as well. It may not be the cold, grey months long winter like the northeast but it does get pretty cold nevertheless. Colorado is a wonderful state and summers are fantastic.

One thing I would not overlook is the fact that your parents moved near you to be closer to their grandkids. Please take that into account as you ponder your next step. Good luck.
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Old 03-03-2017, 09:12 AM
 
Location: 26N x 82W
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I know the feeling of having it good (financially, etc.) and wrecking it by trying something vastly different, and moving to a completely different location. CO can be a great place, but it can also be a place that's very alien on many levels, and not feel like home.

The rush to do something that you are starting to feel uneasy about is a good healthy red flag to slow down, turn down the emotions, and put more wisdom and thinking into it.
^^^ This is very thoughtful advice. You should listen more to your head than your heart right now, IMHO.

In the grand scheme of things a year or two will go quickly, your wife will be finished with school, you will (hopefully) gain additional equity in your home to use too.
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