How easy/hard is it to make friends? (Denver, Colorado Springs: how much, to buy)

[Quicie]

I was looking at the, Am I crazy...leaving all my friends behind to move to Denver? thread, and everyone seemed to be concerned with how easy it is to make friends. Then I thought "what about www.m/e/e/t/u/p/.com" or starting a website for newcomers to meet up and make friends. I think it would be a good idea because it's obvious that this is a concern for many people here. Any feedback would be nice!

[Sockeye]

Reading Pulitzer Prize winner Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" would be a great primer, before establishing that website.

[Charles]

Who need (real) friends when you have (virtual ones on) City Data Forum?

paraphrased from

You Might Be an Engineer If...

[katysalsa]

It's hard making new friends. I've lived here for 3 months and we just met a couple. I think it's challenging because at what point when you meet someone cool do you say "hey we should hang out?" Most of the time I just meet random people in check out lines and I think, she would be a cool friend to have, but it's wierd to ask for a phone number when you don't even know the person. Plus if you're out as a couple and you meet someone I'm afraid they're going to think we're swingers or something. I'm pretty friendly, but it's still akward. I joined meetup and will go to the first outing this week. I've heard good things about it, plus everyone there wants to make friends. We're all there for the same purpose

[jcfg]

I have to say that my husband and I left the Denver area mostly because we had such a hard time making friends. We were used to having lots of friends and were shocked by the elitism and aloof attitudes in Denver. We met a lot of people at first and we'd make plans to hang out, only to have them not show up and never call to apologize. I didn't need an explanation, as things come up for all of us, but I would have appreciated an acknowledgement or apology for standing me up. Then the same person would call me up months later and act as if they hadn't blown me off for months. Weird.

I found Colorado Springs to be much friendlier, but nowhere near as friendly as the south.

[Quicie]

Originally Posted by Charles

Who need (real) friends when you have (virtual ones on) City Data Forum?

paraphrased from

You Might Be an Engineer If...

Hey Charles! I love the You Might Be an Engineer If.......

My favorite:
choosing to buy flowers for your girlfriend or upgrading your RAM is a moral dilemma.

at an air show you know how fast the skydivers are falling.

you comment to your wife that her straight hair is nice and parallel.

you sit backwards on the Disneyland rides to see how they do the special effects.

you window shop at Radio Shack.

you've already calculated how much you make per second.

LOL.........Where in the world did you get these from? They are too funny.

[Charles]

Originally Posted by Quicie

Hey Charles! I love the You Might Be an Engineer If.......

My favorite:
choosing to buy flowers for your girlfriend or upgrading your RAM is a moral dilemma.

at an air show you know how fast the skydivers are falling.

you comment to your wife that her straight hair is nice and parallel.

you sit backwards on the Disneyland rides to see how they do the special effects.

you window shop at Radio Shack.

you've already calculated how much you make per second.

LOL.........Where in the world did you get these from? They are too funny.

What do engineers use for birth control? Their personalities.



When does someone realize they should become an engineer? When they realize they don't have enough charisma to become an undertaker.

[rkb0305]

Originally Posted by Quicie

I was looking at the, Am I crazy...leaving all my friends behind to move to Denver? thread, and everyone seemed to be concerned with how easy it is to make friends. Then I thought "what about www.m/e/e/t/u/p/.com" or starting a website for newcomers to meet up and make friends. I think it would be a good idea because it's obvious that this is a concern for many people here. Any feedback would be nice!

I've been here for almost a year. I have joined several groups on meetup.com and have met a ton of people, but have made only one actual friend. The meetups tend to have so many members that I rarely see the same person twice, and when I do it is like getting reaquainted all over (Where are you from? How long have you lived here? What brought you to Denver?) I don't know that it is any harder to make friends than in any other city. I think it just takes time.

[Quicie]

Originally Posted by rkb0305

I've been here for almost a year. I have joined several groups on meetup.com and have met a ton of people, but have made only one actual friend. The meetups tend to have so many members that I rarely see the same person twice, and when I do it is like getting reaquainted all over (Where are you from? How long have you lived here? What brought you to Denver?) I don't know that it is any harder to make friends than in any other city. I think it just takes time.

I didn't realize it was THAT hard to make friend there. Geez, a year and only one friend.

[downtownnola]

In my experience, Denver is not an easy place to make friends. I've lived here for 4 years and have a great group of friends but it has taken time.

I have lived in much smaller towns of 50,000 to 100,000 people and I found it MUCH easier to make friends in those types of places. People in smaller towns are more laid back, and seem to have more time to invest into friendships.

I can't quite put my finger on it, but there's just something about the people here. I've certainly not found people here to be all that friendly, and even the people that seem friendly also seem too busy to invest much time into friendships. Maybe this has just been my experience, but I've talked to alot of people who feel the same way. Who knows what causes this- maybe it's just the transient nature of the population here.