NYC Resident looking to relocate (Denver, Mead: travel, jobs, house)

[dmg80]

Hi-
I am a 28 year old single female and have been living in NYC for the past 5 1/2 years. I do really enjoy it here, but I've been thinking about a move out west for quite some time. My sister lives in Denver and has for many years. My main concerns are meeting people, getting a job, and feeling lost. I love NYC because everything is right there. I'm pretty down to earth and I find it very difficult to meet guys here that aren't obsessed with themselves. I am an HR Manager at a beauty company so I would be looking to do something similar. Any thoughts?

[Spincycle]

Originally Posted by dmg80

Hi-
I am a 28 year old single female and have been living in NYC for the past 5 1/2 years. My main concerns are meeting people, getting a job, and feeling lost. I love NYC because everything is right there. I'm pretty down to earth and I find it very difficult to meet guys here that aren't obsessed with themselves. I am an HR Manager at a beauty company so I would be looking to do something similar. Any thoughts?

If you like Hoboken, NJ I would suggest Lodo section of Denver. It's like Hoboken and the Meadowlands (i.e. football stadium and Byrne arena) together. The RTD light rail train in Denver reminds me of that similar system in Hoboken/JC (HBLRT). There are many young singles and nightlife in Lodo (more so than Hoboken).

The job market is very tough in metro Denver because of hugh influx of applicants (out of state and within state) for a limited # of jobs. But there are some jobs. I tend to believe there is a significant hidden job market (one that you don't see always online).

Again if you like Hoboken, then Lodo may be for you. Good luck.

[1000xZero]

Thanks Spincycle!

I live in Hoboken, NJ. It's a great town but I have been thinking of moving for a while. Denver is definately in the Top 5.

Honestly I feel the same way as DMG80. I've been reading these forums and they are great. I really appreciate all the input that everyone has given.

[Charles]

Originally Posted by dmg80

I do really enjoy it here,...... I love NYC because everything is right there.

If you like NYC so much, why do you want to leave?

[livecontent]

Originally Posted by dmg80

Hi-
I am a 28 year old single female and have been living in NYC for the past 5 1/2 years. I do really enjoy it here, but I've been thinking about a move out west for quite some time. My sister lives in Denver and has for many years. My main concerns are meeting people, getting a job, and feeling lost. I love NYC because everything is right there. I'm pretty down to earth and I find it very difficult to meet guys here that aren't obsessed with themselves. I am an HR Manager at a beauty company so I would be looking to do something similar. Any thoughts?

I am a former New Yorker and I worked in the City and I have been in Colorado for about 30 years. There is much to love about NYC; there is much to love about Denver.

I do not think the people are substantially any different---they just put on different type of facade--New Yorkers may have a louder persona but under the surface noise it is sometimes similar. So, if you are looking for different people, you are going to find many of the same here. Especially, in these recent times because most people in Colorado are from somewhere else. It is not like the old Imaginary West--those days are gone--Denver is sophisticated and becoming more aggresive and has some of the personal obsessions that go with the competitive enviroment. Many people in Denver are not outdoor types; many have never been on a horse; many do not go into the mountains (Denver is on the Great Plains); most do no ski and they have the same nightime and weekend activities of New Yorkers but maybe with less glitz and certainly expense.

Yet it is not New York. From my prospective, and what I can remember about living in NYC, there are differences. NYC has more people breed in the Metro New York area and Denver has more people from many other places, with many from the midwest. When I got here, I found people more reserve; quieter; harder to engage in conversation than a New Yorker. Today, Denver has changed much and there is more ethnic diversity and definetly less personal reserve. It is louder; has more energy; it has a bigger belief that it is a great city; it is not the west of cowboys, as some would imagine. I am a male and much older than you so I really am not in the game anymore, so I have no prospective on male/female personalities. To me Colorado is a comfortable place but I grew up in Western New York, near Buffalo, and worked for a time in the City. I found New York City populous different than many aspects of WNY.

I find that it takes time to be comfortable in any area--after the initial excitement, there may be years of thoughts about where you came from; but over the years for me it has become home. The biggest change that you will see when you come here is the climate. It is dry semi-arid, with not the lush green growth you see in the east. The Mountains are not filled with mutiple trees with great deal of undergrowth--many places are barren. There are very few lakes, mostly reservoirs and again Denver is on the dry plains. I think this is what makes people more accept or reject the area--the climate.

Maybe you should come for a time and experience living in the west and if it does not work, you can always go back to the Big Apple.

Livecontent

[ANAPA]

Originally Posted by Charles

If you like NYC so much, why do you want to leave?

She'll have to answer that for herself, but I want to answer the question in a general sort of way. NYC is a great city, but that doesn't mean you don't want to experience other things in life. Too many people have the small town mentality, and that includes those in the big city who never move more than 20-30 blocks from where they were born.

I just came back from Denver yesterday and I'm seriously thinking of moving there now because you get the downtown city and you get the Rockies. There's a choice of where and how you want to spend your day.

[Spincycle]

Originally Posted by ANAPA

Too many people have the small town mentality, and that includes those in the big city who never move more than 20-30 blocks from where they were born.

This unfortunately is true of many including some OSI's (old school italians). Nothing against italians, just an observation.

Originally Posted by ANAPA

I just came back from Denver yesterday and I'm seriously thinking of moving there now because you get the downtown city and you get the Rockies.

In NYC you get the city and the shore (eastern LI or the Jersey Shore).

Originally Posted by ANAPA

There's a choice of where and how you want to spend your day.

A day off feels like a day off (where in NYC it can feel like an ordinary workday).

[ANAPA]

Originally Posted by Spincycle

This unfortunately is true of many including some OSI's (old school italians). Nothing against italians, just an observation.

Yeah, because old school Irish are just running to new neighborhoods. In fact every old schooler rushes off to new neighborhoods except for Italians, but it's good to see you're not a racist!

[dmg80]

I am very conflicted, I do love NYC and my job, etc. But I've been here 5+ years, all my friends are setttling down getting married, I am looking to expand my networks, meet new people, etc. I have done that here, but I'm starting to feel like everyone is the same here. The men don't want commitments, they are soo into money and themselves. It's a bit frustrating. I know there are no guarantees and it's not like moving and hour away, that's why I'm seriously considering it.

[ANAPA]

You've been in New York for 5+ years, so where did you come from originally and why aren't you thinking of going back? And yes, people in NYC are very money oriented, but when a one bedroom in Brooklyn goes for $1,200 a month, people are going to be fixated on money. It becomes a part of the culture and unfortantly that's not working for you.

Since there are more men than women in Denver you should have more options if you move there. You'll also have a choice... Be in an very urban envornment or be in the Rockies and among nature. NYC doesn't really offer the same choice without horrid traffic jams that almost make you regret your desire to travel to the shore or among nature.


As for you finding work, I don't know. I have some graphic design work under my belt, but I've heard the "office work" enviornment is flooded, so I'm thinking of going back to my old trade of house painting if I move to the Denver area.