Dating - Are there a lot of good guys? (Denver: eat, nicest)

[sportsfangal]

BS- I see your point here, but sometimes asking for what you want can be risky? In past relationships, I expected the guy to do certain things or treat the relationship a certain way because I thought it was just common sense, like "he's in a relationship-shouldn't he just know what to do?"-But, now that I'm older, I realize you have to ask for what you want and both people should be able to discuss the expectations. Part of why my realationship with my ex-fiance ended was because he wasn't even willing to discuss certain issues that were bothering me in the relationship.


As for the restaurant thing, many times I prefer the guy to decide, but taking turns is always a great idea! I love sushi, too!

Originally Posted by BlueSimple

I know you're joking but yeah, ask for the northern hemisphere! I mean, asking for a lot is not necessarily wrong. Men ask a lot of women also, a woman's perspective is just not something I can comment on. It comes down to what's most important and what factors have the most meaning for you. Asking for the world may be a good way to see what someone has to offer, it just can turn sticky if you end up disliking or holding it against them when what's asked for cannot always be provided.



Haha yeah I have run into that, and been guilty of it. And I would have to say no, it's not because I am afraid to make a bad decision, I have in the past, and if you're with the right person a crap restaurant can actually be a riot, or we can just leave and avoid accusations or blame. Both are good! I have only run into that early on in a relationship, it can be a good way to learn more about the person. If I suggest a sushi place, I feel I can learn something from you by your reaction. Personally I love it and want someone to enjoy it with me because it can be a fun experience. But trust me it's not always read into like that, sometimes I am lazy and want you to decide, but maybe that's something that can be hashed out in advance, like alternating the restaurant picks or something. If it is a "date" well, that should have been planned out in advance I think.



Much appreciated, thank you!

And yeah, cockiness that is serious is just purely obnoxious. You gotta be able to laugh at yourself. It's the same with women, confidence can be very sexy and attractive but when you cross that line, and it's a fine line that's not always easy to see, it's like a switch turns off for me.

[sportsfangal]

BS-Yes, I wish things were that simple also! where's that "EASY" button when it comes to relationships? Thank you for saying "cool chick" that's very nice of you, you seem like a "cool dude"! Manitou Springs is close to Co Sp, where I grew up. I don't know much about it other than an old penny arcade used to be near there, there's a place called the "Glass Blower's of Manitou", where you can watch glass figurines being made. I haven't been there in a long time, but I hope you will still enjoy it. Why did you decide on Manitou Springs? was it for work? Forgive me if you stated this in your post a million years ago!
You also nailed something I was tyring to get across- "on the surface", there's no way to know someone's true personality from these posts, but like you, BS, and others, the posts are intriguing and I would be open to meeting them also.

Originally Posted by BlueSimple

I can see how you would maybe come to that conclusion but it's not really that simple. It never is I don't think. We have had a little back and forth and I chime in on issues when I feel qualified to, just like everyone. Without wanting to disrespect her, yeah, sportsfan seems on the surface to fit my interpretation of what a cool chick is(maybe that's a bad phrase, I am at a loss for a better one right now). If relationships were simply a matter of checking off boxes, then that would work for all people in all situations.

That being said, I live my life open to meeting anyone and everyone. I enjoy seeing and learning from any person, on here or otherwise. There are people on here, male and female, that I would be open to meeting based on their posts and their perspectives, specifically on this thread, sportsfan, wanttomove, turco and venusian all fit in that category, it is what it is. Whether that will happen or not is not something I can answer.

Also, I suppose it would have helped for me to be more specific, I am moving to Manitou Springs from the Chciago area, not Denver, though I will be there sporadically as I have family there.

[sportsfangal]

See what I mean!?? CEREBRAL! I was trying to get that idea across in a few of my posts! not referring to BS directly, but if you want to meet/date someone, and both parties are willing then go for it!! Exactly what I was trying to convey!

Originally Posted by Venusian_Artist

Dude, just meet her. No harm there. You're over-thinking.

[sportsfangal]

Ha! Love that one!!

Originally Posted by BlueSimple

Also, "hot" is incredibly relative. People find Paris Hilton "hot".

One man's trash is another man's treasure.

[sportsfangal]

BS-I can relate the "overthinking", it's just something I have learned to "adjust" over time and with experience. In the past, I would really overthink certain things, but now, I give it a certain amount of thought, then if I still don't come up with any solutions, I move on, like my original post about what makes certain guys want to date/marry, etc- I give it thought, then I decide, well, I'm not going to stop living my life and enjoying myself. I move on.

Originally Posted by BlueSimple

I do overthink things. Often. I stated that I'd be open to meet just about anyone. But I feel I was just being honest and realistic, those things have nothing to do with harm or fear.

[sportsfangal]

"V" posted that If he was attracted to me, he'd want to have sex with me, so as a response (jokingly cocky) I responded "you'd be attracted to me, don't worry!"
It was a joke, a response to his comment. I don't go around thinking or feeling that I'm hot. I simply stated long ago that I didn't have problems meeting men, I didn't mean it as a statement that I think I'm hot, it was "V"'s interpretation.

Originally Posted by wanttomoveeast

Here's what I see you missing. Whether or not you said you were hot, is so not the issue. You mentioned you didn't have problems meeting men, another person viewed that as "you think you are hot". See the difference? No one is saying that you said those words, but they believe you think that way.
You aren't attracting the wrong types, you are choosing the wrong types. IMHO.
That was me in reference to V's post. See how I quoted him.
And this is where I think the opinion was formed that you think you are hot:
You do this by a little cut and paste, although there must be an easier way. Anyway, I cut the first quote and the last quote [in brackets] and then you can quote different sections. I played around until I got it right. You can always go back in and edit your post.

[sportsfangal]

thanks "V"- no, I'm not in the business of offending, try not to!

I know what you meant by the "wallet" comment, I just meant to convey that I don't think all women want to "screw" a guy in the wallet, maybe some do, I have my own money.
and I try to joke also, I guess it doesn't come through well enough in these posts! I won't be winning "America's Next Stand Up" competition anytime soon. Ok-that was a joke, right?

Originally Posted by Venusian_Artist

Pics or it didn't happen. I kid, that's a popular Internet meme. Or maybe I don't?

Not even close. I'm in the business of offending. You? Not so much.

Great. What's your number?

That's a comment about our misandric legal system, not directed at you.

Pics or it didn't...wait, I said that already.

Yeah, uh, my experience is that guys who worry about that stuff don't get laid. It's better to impose yourself, as yourself, on someone, than enter the room apologetically. Naturally, there are more than two choices.

Put *[*quote*]* at the beginning of someone's words (remove asterisks) and *[/*quote*]* at the end (again, remove asterisks.)

[sportsfangal]

BS- I agree with this, also. No one likes a wimp, whether a M or F, I try to exude confidence when meeting people or entering a room or whatever, I try to give off that "vibe", and most people pick up on it.

Originally Posted by BlueSimple

I have to agree with that, that was well said. I have witnessed people "entering a room apologetically" and it can kill almost any possibilities. I am sure it occurs in both sexes, but I have witnessed a lot of guys that spout the "why don't you like me" type of whining. Not so much after highschool and early college, but some guys never get over that sort of simpering attitude and it's pretty pathetic.

[sportsfangal]

HEYYYY!!Turco-Welcome back!!!

Originally Posted by TurcoLoco

Damn, I ignored this thread for a little while and it became a Circus act, good god!

So, who shagged who while I was gone? C'mon, share the juicy stories....hehe.


You know, this thread is only 4K posts behind the 'Happy Hour' thread so keep posting Ladies and Germs!

[sportsfangal]

Hahaha!

Originally Posted by wanttomoveeast

Darn, well, there's always sports to argue with?!? Check out my happy hour post, the last one was so much fun!!!