Dating - Are there a lot of good guys? (Denver: appointed, house)

[Maya12]

I am newly divorced and living in Tampa and I'm thinking of relocating to Denver because I've heard it has a lot of single men. Does it? Do guys tend to be stand-up family-minded guys or players? Do most make enough of a decent living to not be leaning on their other half financially? Is there more of a tendency for women or men to "date up"? Here in Tampa seems like most men are able "date up" because you always see / hear of loser guys with hot younger women. It's just the culture here. Now that I'm older and back into the dating game I'm not interested in being in a city that is so full of young attractive women that my competition for guys my age is a massive supply of hotties ten years younger. A 36-yo hottie is not going to win out to a 26yo one, unfortunately. So I'd like to move to a city where there are more men than women. I am thinking of Denver or San Jose. Any advice?

[2bindenver]

San Jose is for geeks

Denver is for real men

[Jennifer77]

I live in Denver and all I find are men with kids and expensive divorces. My current boyfriend spends every weekend with his 3 triplets! My last boyfriend ended our relationship because he couldn't tell his ex about us. Don't get me wrong, kids are great! But where are all the true singles??

[oberon]

Originally Posted by 2bindenver

San Jose is for geeks

Denver is for real men

Plenty of single geeks in this area too. Count me in as one of 'em.

[RJT]

You're going to find all types in all cities. What is probably more important is where you're looking (church, community organizations, work, bars, friends of friends, etc.).

It probably wouldn't hurt to move to a new location after your divorce to have a new start. But if you're moving to Denver just to meet a man, without changing your own approach, you're probably going to be just as disappointed here as you are there.

[Wyomiles]

I work with a couple of young men who have moved here from North Dakota, after getting their degrees and being offered great jobs right out of school. One just bought a house another is looking. The funny part is they have been telling me it is hard to meet women. They were talking about trying some of that online dating, (does that work ?) So they are out there you just have to find a way to meet.

[patrickmich]

There is a different type of man in Colorado than you would find in Tampa, Florida.
I have never heard the expression, trade up, but it makes sense. I know the types of
guys you have in South Florida. These jerks and bad boys appeal to a lot of women.
I do not think we have as many of those types here. The outdoor lifestyle rules in
Denver, which requires a different kind of man compared to the lifestyle of south Florida.
Honestly, I think in colorado you will find a more substantial man, someone more likely
to have an education, political views, and so on. Whether or not any of these guys
are what you consider hot or dateable, I have no idea. Having lived in South Florida,
I also know that black men are in huge demand, which is probably what you are referring to when you say, dating up. It's not the same culture here.

[kwk722]

I have lived in Palm Beach county and Hillsborough county. Most recently Brandon and Lutz. There is a big difference between Florida cities and Denver. Single guys outnumber the single ladies at most every place around the Denver area, very noticeable. That would include gyms, bars, parks, dog parks etc. I would say Florida also has many more "players" than Denver.
I have a quite few friends that are single with no kids and a couple friends with a ex-wife and a kid or two.

Have you visited the Denver area before?

[kwk722]

Originally Posted by Jennifer77

I live in Denver and all I find are men with kids and expensive divorces. My current boyfriend spends every weekend with his 3 triplets! My last boyfriend ended our relationship because he couldn't tell his ex about us. Don't get me wrong, kids are great! But where are all the true singles??

Just curious, where have you met these guys? What ages are (were) you looking for?

[patrickmich]

It sounds like Jennifer might prefer unavailable men. I really don't see why someone would get invovled with someone who is essentially still involved with someone else.
I have always thought that dating such men makes a woman feel sophisticated.
On the other hand, Jennifer didn't say anything about dating men who are married,
but that was my impression, nonetheless.