Wealthy, single men in Detroit (construction, to move, money)

[firecracker123]

Originally Posted by ModelChick

Okay, everyone. Enough is enough. I am a model, college student and server. I have a lot of good qualities to offer a man. Why should I settle for some poor construction worker who makes 30 K a year, when there is so much more out there for me? The assumptions that I am uneducated are very ignorant.

Settle? Nobody should have to settle for anything -- I guess it's how you come across. Are there any other qualities in a man that are on your list? Having so many great things to offer should make you look at what you need. Are you intelligent? Then you'd want to be able to have interesting conversations. Like to laugh? Humour will be important. Do you have a kind heart? You'll want someone who is empathetic. No girl (or guy perhaps) wants to build a realtionship with someone who is struggling all the time - I am sure, and if financial security is important to you, then that's ok. What you need to realize though is that money will not necessarily bring you all those other things that a successful and happy realtionship needs. Also as an eduacted woman, do not rule out making your own fortune.

OK that being said - if you are looking for a man who will take care of you-- I can't help you with that...BUT if you are looking for a man to make a future with, who happens to be settled, then finish your education, carry yourself well (posture), speak intelligently (telling someone they cannot read, even out of frustration, is not the way to go, it shows lack of education and class IMO) ... dress classy -- this does not mean designer clothes just don't think less is necessarily better here - no matter what your body looks like. Be CAREFUL...you will undoubtly come across men who will use you, just as, I presume you are wanting to do with them. However, they may be a little more seasoned, and you, with your youth, may get hurt --- really. Education is more than school, sometimes it's life

[Rapunzll]

What do you have to offer this man you are looking for? I'm assuming that once you hit 30 and he starts to yearn for another 18 year old, that you will just hope for a healthy divorce settlement?

[STLCardsBlues1989]

Finish college and make your own money. I'd rather marry a poor guy who loves me than a rich who only likes my body. Your looks are going to last, what, maybe 15 years if you have some work done?

[SuziSu]

Wow... this one is getting good! Anyway, I can't blame you for wanting a rich man to take care of you. Many girls choose this route. But it is the easier route. The better men are wealthy and attracted to women who are also successful and have much self-worth! But I say go for it! You will either like it or hate it. Do what makes you happy!..... but make sure it really makes you happy, you know what I'm saying?

[arod0331]

I have to question why you're practically placing a personal ad on a city data forum? I highly doubt a "wealthy, single man" would be sitting around on this forum waiting for a "model, college student and server" to magically appear. Why the desperation? I can assume you have low self esteem and think that a rich man will fix everything? It won't.
You need to concentrate on getting your life together first. Be your own person......most rich men already have younger women who want his money.....they're called "professional escorts"

[trinkit]

This whole thread makes me sad. When women began a serious career path (1980's), they were instructed on how to dress for success (a standard blue blazer was a MUST), how to act, etc., etc. We were told "if you want a K-Mart job, then dress in K-Mart clothes, but if you want an executive job, dress the part". It was more important to have a FEW quality pieces in your wardrobe, than a whole closet of outfits that would last just a few wearings. It makes me sad to see a young lady putting all of her eggs in one basket (young, wealthy man). She needs to build her own basket, then she will have a CHOICE of young, wealthy men -- and probably a few old ones too.

Modelchick, you say you are in college. May I ask which college, and what classes are you taking? It has been suggested here that a good way to meet men on their way up is in college, but it has to be the right classes and at the right college.

Also, you are working as a server -- which is an honest way to make a living, don't get me wrong -- but if you meet "the one" while you are serving him, then he will always think of you as "a server" and nothing more. Believe me, I've seen it time and time again -- wealthy male friends of mine marrying that server, barmaid, etc. and years later when the lady's looks fade the men start looking again. Men who are shallow enough to just look at a lady's looks are just that: shallow -- and it doesn't make for a long lasting relationship. Even when they're 60, doing the "comb-over", and feeling invincible they feel that their money will get them a "young chick". Invariably, they will find someone like you to "comfort them in their fading years", meanwhile you (now married to this person) are sitting home wondering when, if ever, he's coming home. His attitude will be "my money, my power, I do what I want".

Please, rethink your goals and build your own life based upon your own abilities, not your looks.

[STLCardsBlues1989]

Great speech, trinkit. I agree completely. Women have done too much to make ourselves servants to men. There's nothing wrong with being considerate to your husband, as long as he's considerate back. You need help with something, he helps, and vice versa. But a lot of times guys who only want you for your looks will dump when you get too old.

Please, take time to find the right guy, no matter how much he makes. I think I'd get bored sitting on my butt all day spending someone else's money, knowing that in 15 years or less he'll be dumping me.

You could always find the guys who will give you money because you're pretty. His name is Hugh Hefner.

I'd rather marry a guy I know loves me and spend, hopefully, the rest of my life, with him, than to marry a rich guy who I know will probably dump be in 15-20 years. Why would anybody want such a shallow relationship? Money is nice, but it won't bring you happiness.

[scarabchuck]

Hang out at the bars on the water. (Lake St. Clair) My ex hooked up with a rich one that way. Although being 18 might be a little harder, she is much older than that and could win an academy award, for acting like she isn't into the rich thing. I do give her credit though, a little over 2 years in and she's gotten a house, an Escalade, and her body all refreshed.LOL, I sure do feel sorry for him though. Good luck to you, it can be done if your willing to sell yourself out.

[ErikU19]

Tragic Really.

Money doesnt buy love, as you will someday learn for yourself. I just hope you dont waste half your life before really learning to live it.

[Dr.Jim]

This is quite hilarious. Isn't there a reality show or something you could audition for? "For love or Money?" maybe?

Why should you settle for a construction worker who makes 30K? hmmmm....the point your neglecting here is that if you are looking for "love" then unfortunately, you might find it with a construction worker who makes 30K. OR you might find it with a rich executive. But if your 'qualifying' factor isnt "love" and is instead "money" then you are little more than a prostitute.

The funniest part about this is that at age 18 you truly, in your heart believe you have "it all figured out" and in reality you actually know nothing.

You want to be rich? PM me your email address. Go off and then find your "qualified rich man",.....marry him because he is rich,....and in 15 years when you are 33 email me. If you are truly happy and in love I will give you 500K. If if you are unhappy, and realizing your whole life has been a pursuit of a unrealistic happiness that is unattainable without love then you must admit it, and take a hearty "we told you so"

Best of luck,...and watch out for rich guys like myself who could see you coming a mile away,....we will turn the tables,.....play you, and leave you at the curb wondering what happened to all the promises.