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Old 08-25-2016, 11:38 AM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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I introduced my boyfriend to vegetables and hummus Etc a couple years ago, and that's good. But I noticed he never gave up his unhealthy foods like pizza and hot dogs, fast food, etcetera. I would never criticize his eating habits because I'm happy that he's eating vegetables, but I personally know from experience that if I eat any unhealthy food, I don't feel well, regardless of whether there was a salad somewhere during the day. My boyfriend has gained 15 to 20 pounds since I met him even though he has added vegetables to his fast food regimen.

I know it's better to eat vegetables than none at all, regardless of the rest of the person's lifestyle, but I wish my boyfriend would ditch the hot dogs and fast food and pizza and alcohol etc. He's becoming a prime candidate for heart disease which is the number one leading cause of death for men

I love him so much, he is such a good man, and his family loves him so much too, but he refuses to change his diet and exercise habits, which are not healthy at all. I've talked to him about his health and mortality, that when he takes care of his health, he's taking care of the people he loves by NOT DYING ON US. But he is stubborn and egotistical and says the only thing that will kill him is a car accident or a bullet I know better, but he is in denial that heart disease will ever get him. But heart disease kills a huge percentage of people whose lifestyle is exactly like his
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Old 08-25-2016, 11:55 AM
 
Location: Austin
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You can't make him change. He has to want to change himself or nothing will stick.

Why don't you cook more often for him? Have more meals at home if it helps you to think you can better monitor what he's eating that way.
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Old 08-25-2016, 05:06 PM
 
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I introduced my boyfriend to vegetables and hummus Etc a couple years ago, and that's good. But I noticed he never gave up his unhealthy foods like pizza and hot dogs, fast food, etcetera. I would never criticize his eating habits because I'm happy that he's eating vegetables, but I personally know from experience that if I eat any unhealthy food, I don't feel well, regardless of whether there was a salad somewhere during the day. My boyfriend has gained 15 to 20 pounds since I met him even though he has added vegetables to his fast food regimen.

I know it's better to eat vegetables than none at all, regardless of the rest of the person's lifestyle, but I wish my boyfriend would ditch the hot dogs and fast food and pizza and alcohol etc. He's becoming a prime candidate for heart disease which is the number one leading cause of death for men

I love him so much, he is such a good man, and his family loves him so much too, but he refuses to change his diet and exercise habits, which are not healthy at all. I've talked to him about his health and mortality, that when he takes care of his health, he's taking care of the people he loves by NOT DYING ON US. But he is stubborn and egotistical and says the only thing that will kill him is a car accident or a bullet I know better, but he is in denial that heart disease will ever get him. But heart disease kills a huge percentage of people whose lifestyle is exactly like his
There is some research showing that eating "healthy" foods can somewhat negate the negative ones.

How old is he and what does his bloodwork show? How does he function in the rest of his life? Are there any sexual issues (one of the first signs of heart disease shows up in this realm)?
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Old 08-26-2016, 01:36 PM
 
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I introduced my boyfriend to vegetables and hummus Etc a couple years ago, and that's good. But I noticed he never gave up his unhealthy foods like pizza and hot dogs, fast food, etcetera. I would never criticize his eating habits because I'm happy that he's eating vegetables, but I personally know from experience that if I eat any unhealthy food, I don't feel well, regardless of whether there was a salad somewhere during the day. My boyfriend has gained 15 to 20 pounds since I met him even though he has added vegetables to his fast food regimen.

I know it's better to eat vegetables than none at all, regardless of the rest of the person's lifestyle, but I wish my boyfriend would ditch the hot dogs and fast food and pizza and alcohol etc. He's becoming a prime candidate for heart disease which is the number one leading cause of death for men

I love him so much, he is such a good man, and his family loves him so much too, but he refuses to change his diet and exercise habits, which are not healthy at all. I've talked to him about his health and mortality, that when he takes care of his health, he's taking care of the people he loves by NOT DYING ON US. But he is stubborn and egotistical and says the only thing that will kill him is a car accident or a bullet I know better, but he is in denial that heart disease will ever get him. But heart disease kills a huge percentage of people whose lifestyle is exactly like his
The problem isn't so much the junk food that he's eating as it is that he's eating too many calories in general. You can tell this because he's gained 15 to 20 pounds in just a couple of years. Some pizza and hot dogs aren't going to hurt his health anywhere near as much as the rapid weight gain is.

Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do to get him to eat less (if he doesn't want to) other than cook for him at home so at least at home he can be eating lower calorie meals. What you can do, besides cooking more for him, is to lead by example. Eat healthy so you can be thin and healthy and maybe he will eventually start to follow your lead. Unfortunately, people often will not change their behavior, but you can't make him not eat pizza so all you can do is lead with a healthy lifestyle and hope he follows.
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Old 09-01-2016, 11:09 PM
 
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I think the 90% rule is a pretty reasonable way to go about it.

90% of your meals are high quality and within your calorie and macronutrient guidelines. Then 10% of your meals can be whatever you want, within reas☺n of course!!!

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Old 09-02-2016, 11:53 AM
 
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I think it's more likely the other way around. Healthy foods can negate unhealthy ones. For example combining foods with a high glycemic index (GI) with foods with a low GI balances out the total GI.

Furthermore, pizza and lots of other 'junk foods' can be made healthy too. You probably need to start making them yourselves to be sure of that but if you learn how to make pizza made from (partly) whole wheat dough and put fresh ingredients of your choice on them and maybe combine them with a rich salad or vegetable soup, that can be as healthy as any other fresh and wholesome meal. Same for hotdogs, burgers, fries, etc. Have a beer or wine with it.

As said above it's also a matter of portion control and when you (learn to) cook all these foods yourselves the ingredients will most likely be more nutritional dense and make you feel more full and healthy in the end.

Your fear about your boyfriend is justified but he is right too: life should be enjoyed and food is an important part of life. Learn to make as much as you can yourself to live and enjoy it to the fullest.

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