how to convince chubby hubby to lose weight? (rollerblade, pounds, workout)

[mountain~mama]

I've tried to do it say it nicely to him, but my husband needs to get on the bandwagon and lose about 50 pounds. He was never the smallest man, but he used to be so much more in shape. I bought him a bike trainer for his birthday (at his request), but he doesn't use it. He used to bike all the time, but we've had a major change of lifestyle in the past year since we had to move across country.

How, oh how, do you convince a man to lose weight? He knows he needs to, but he just pacifies me. Now I'm starting to get annoyed with him. I worry about his health. He looks about 15 years older than he is. My family has said things to me about his weight. HIS family has said things to me about his weight. Knowing that it can only come from within, how can I persuade him that it's time to get fit?

Thanks for any and all suggestions.

[Northman]

In my last relationship, my girlfriend would make "yum yum!" type remarks about guys she saw that were in shape when we were out and about. It may have been childish, but it worked.......I got my fat butt in shape pronto. Funny how a little jealousy can light such a fire.

Of course, you're married, and that's a different ballgame altogether. How many times do you see a husband let himself go after getting hitched because he gets contented?

Wish I could offer you some actual advice that would help, but the bottom line is he has to want to do it for himself. Good luck.

[emailvasally]

unfortunately I have no suggestions, but am right their with you. I have tried everything I know to get my hubby to loose weight. I hate it when people talk to me about it and say I supposed to do something! I cant make him loose the weight. He now has hi blood pressure and cholestrol and still wont do anything. says he's trying but obviously not. I hate to say it but it really makes me sick now a days when I see him eating stuff he shouldnt. I know that sounds horrible but it is true.
I have tried exercising with him, cutting out all bad foods in the house (but of course I find mcdonalds and candy wrappers in his car) bought him the DR phil book for loosing weight, begged the doc to talk to him, even the kids get after him because he no longer plays with them.

anyway I wish you luck

[TwiloMike]

Originally Posted by mountain~mama

How, oh how, do you convince a man to lose weight?

Tell him his penis is looking rather short these days and that you miss its length when it wasn't covered by so much fat in his pelvic area. If he loses fat he'll reveal more of it.

He knows he needs to, but he just pacifies me. Now I'm starting to get annoyed with him. I worry about his health. He looks about 15 years older than he is. My family has said things to me about his weight. HIS family has said things to me about his weight. Knowing that it can only come from within, how can I persuade him that it's time to get fit?

Thanks for any and all suggestions.

Make it more painful for him to remain fat than to do something about it.

[austinnetx]

The best way is to get in shape yourself. Size 6 or better.

Same for your kids.

Buy him men's health mags so he will be provided with articles on how to do it.

Either he will get the picture from your example or he won't. That is all you can do.

If he still does not respond, then if it that important, give him an ultimatum.

[TwiloMike]

I strongly advise against men's health mags- they are full of garbage advice.

[Huckleberry3911948]

i am powerless to change other people. when i do they end up,
a. controlling me
b. hating me
c. not changing
i can only work on my own character defects.
but i can sure stop eating banana splits in front of him.
people eat to keep going (power up) or to cheer up.
or bek they are a compulsive (12 step stuff)
get help MD or counselor if appropriate.
if not for him for sure for you

[Ohiogirl81]

Originally Posted by austinnetx

The best way is to get in shape yourself. Size 6 or better.

You have to be a size 6 to be in shape? But all bull aside, setting an example is a good idea. Take walks together, fix healthy meals, get rid of the junk food in the house.

If he still does not respond, then if it that important, give him an ultimatum.

Then you'd better be prepared to follow through if he rebels against your ultimatum. Frankly, if someone told me to lose weight or else, I'd tell them where to get off.

No one can convince any one else to lose weight. A person has to want to do it for themselves.

[sean98125]

Read (or google) "Lysistrata"

[jkcoop]

It's got to be his choice and his choice alone. Otherwise he'll be resentful and never stick to any fitness routine.
I was always trying to get my husband to do something. He's not fat, but he's developing a pot belly and I was always hinting, "if you do something about that now, it will be easier", or commenting on what he ate. I tried to adjust my workout routine so that he would workout with me. That's been hard because I run 4 miles a day and he can't run due to his knees. (He will occasionally Rollerblade while I run, but it's rare.)

All that did was annoy him and make him passive aggressive about it. If feel bad when I look back and realized what I was doing.
So I do what I have to do for me and hope that he'll eventually decide to do what he has to do for HIM. Even using comments like, "I want you to do something for your own health" doesn't help. People know when they are unhealthy - most often you aren't pointing anything out they don't know.
I can see him coming around. The other day he made the comment about my abs. Yes, I'm in better shape then before we were married. I can tell it might be starting to bother him a bit. But he has to come to that conclusion on his own.