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Old 05-13-2012, 05:36 PM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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I am so sorry to hear this, Stan.


The pain eases with time but, no, I don't think it ever goes away.
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Old 05-13-2012, 06:09 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic east coast
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Stan, your dog was so beautiful...I'm so sorry she's gone. You will stop crying. We lost our pal of 16 years a month ago...the pain is much less now...but for the first week, oh my gosh, I thought my heart would break..so many reminders and memories. Now, we have the memories, but the reminders have lessened and the tears have stopped, except once in a while...
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Old 05-13-2012, 09:32 PM
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Location: Paradise
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I'm so sorry for your loss...it's like having your heart ripped out. My prayers are with you and your family.

Yes, you will stop crying...in you own due time. Then your heart will be warmed with the good memories. Godspeed Rio.
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Old 05-13-2012, 09:43 PM
 
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Thank you all so much.

Yes. She had AIHA. Even with the transfusion, they feel she worsened from a blood clot.

Do you ever stop crying?
It always hurts to let them go but the pain is worse when it wasn't expected. For now, cry but also talk about Rio when you can. If it helps, put her leash and collar away for now but don't throw them away. After a while when you think of her and talk about her you won't cry as much or as often. After even longer, what you will remember the most are the good times and the loving times. One day you will smile when you remember her. It will still hurt but you will know how to handle it by then. For now though, you go ahead and grieve and you go right ahead and cry. It alright and its normal to feel this way. We will be right here for you when you need to talk.
~Va-Cat~
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Old 05-14-2012, 12:20 AM
 
Location: Homestead Florida
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Very sorry for your loss.
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Old 05-14-2012, 12:25 AM
 
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Take her to the veterinarian, which may help.
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Old 05-14-2012, 04:53 AM
 
Location: Texas
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How do I help my younger dog, Shiner?

Last night, we finally had some dinner for mother's day. I gave her a compressed bone to keep her busy. Well, she and Rio used to play with a bone together. It was so funny. No point in giving them each a bone...they would always play keep away and then take turns chewing just one bone.

She took the bone and then she started trotting around. If that wasn't about to break my heart, after a while, she started whining and going through the house like she was looking for something. She wouldn't chew the bone. Just kept looking and crying.

Finally, I took the bone from her and I walked around with it so she'd have to chase me...then I'd drop it and she'd grab it and I pretended to chase her. She finally settled down to eat it.

How do I help her through this? I was so taken by surprise - I would have wanted her there when Rio passed at the vet clinic. So she'd know. She has never known a world without another big collie there (first at her breeder's and then with us).
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Old 05-14-2012, 05:12 AM
 
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How do I help my younger dog, Shiner?

Last night, we finally had some dinner for mother's day. I gave her a compressed bone to keep her busy. Well, she and Rio used to play with a bone together. It was so funny. No point in giving them each a bone...they would always play keep away and then take turns chewing just one bone.

She took the bone and then she started trotting around. If that wasn't about to break my heart, after a while, she started whining and going through the house like she was looking for something. She wouldn't chew the bone. Just kept looking and crying.

Finally, I took the bone from her and I walked around with it so she'd have to chase me...then I'd drop it and she'd grab it and I pretended to chase her. She finally settled down to eat it.

How do I help her through this? I was so taken by surprise - I would have wanted her there when Rio passed at the vet clinic. So she'd know. She has never known a world without another big collie there (first at her breeder's and then with us).
I am so sorry for your loss. I will be honest, it just takes times before the tears stop. It's okay to morn the loss of your fur-baby.

I have always kept collars and leashes. When coming home from the vet, I allow my remaining pack to smell their collar and then put the collar away. They become keep sakes. (I will reuse leashes.) I have also learned over the years not to wait too long before getting another dog. I like to keep a minimum of two.

You can never replace the dog that has passed. Dogs are one of a kind. Only you will know when you are ready to move forward. You need to grieve the loss of your Rio and so does Shiner.

Just take things, one day at a time.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss...
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Old 05-14-2012, 06:46 AM
 
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How do I help my younger dog, Shiner?

Last night, we finally had some dinner for mother's day. I gave her a compressed bone to keep her busy. Well, she and Rio used to play with a bone together. It was so funny. No point in giving them each a bone...they would always play keep away and then take turns chewing just one bone.

She took the bone and then she started trotting around. If that wasn't about to break my heart, after a while, she started whining and going through the house like she was looking for something. She wouldn't chew the bone. Just kept looking and crying.

Finally, I took the bone from her and I walked around with it so she'd have to chase me...then I'd drop it and she'd grab it and I pretended to chase her. She finally settled down to eat it.

How do I help her through this? I was so taken by surprise - I would have wanted her there when Rio passed at the vet clinic. So she'd know. She has never known a world without another big collie there (first at her breeder's and then with us).
You are right, we at least know what happened but our remaining dogs just know that one isn't there anymore. It hurts to watch them waiting. Shiner will adjust with time too. You did exactly right by playing with her to help her to take the bone. You can help her by setting new fun routines for her. New walks, new playtime, new cuddle times. It will all help her to adjust.

I wish I could tell you that the mourning will only go on a week, or a month or 5 months but I can't. Every person is different and even every dog heals at their own rate. I have found that it helps to talk about your dog. Talk about the funny things Rio did and the fun she and Shiner had. Yes - it will involve tears but then it will also start to include smiles. Its going to be hard but I promise, it WILL get easier with time!
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Old 05-14-2012, 07:20 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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Way too early to even think about it now but when the time is right the best way to honor the memory of Rio is by giving a home to another dog who desperately needs it. The spirit of Rio will lead you to the right time and the right dog.
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