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We had this conversation on here recently, I don't remember the thread ... I'll state it again, for the record.
Anyone that does not accept you and your pet(s) will never be happy. They will always ask of you what you cannot give them. You and your pet(s) are a package deal. If they ask you to get rid of them, quickly show them the door!!!
A pet's love, devotion and loyalty is until death do us part. The divorce rate today is close to 60%. Too many people will just walk away when things get tough, pets don't do that, they stick it out for the duration!
Before I got re-married, any man I dated had to pass the dog test. If my dogs didn't like him, there was probably a good reason. NEXT. (I already got ride of an a-hole that was jealous of my dogs. Yeah, you read that right, jealous of my relationship with my dogs.) You just have to show a man like him the curb ... Which I did. Then I had to apologize to my babies for making them live with an azzhole.
OMG, remember, (or did you hear) about the crazy guy here in San Diego that beat his girlfriends three dogs to death on two separate occasions? People are nuts, the guy only got 5 years in prison. She lost her three babies.
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My situation is a bit different because Artie came to us after J and I were married. J is not a pet person and is most definitely not a DOG person. But he understood that I really wanted a dog -- I'd waited to get one until after I started to work from home and I'd already delayed that in Montreal because I was traveling often.
J feels that Artie comes between us. (He does.) Artie is a craver of attention so when J and I are doing something that clearly doesn't involve him -- like hugging each other -- Artie barks, "What about ME?" Artie also means that we can't spontaneously go somewhere -- I have to find a dog walker or sitter for him, so everything has to be PLANNED -- and J resents that.
But what J says is something to the effect of, "I know that YOU get all sorts of enjoyment from Artie. I know that he's company for you during the day, and I like that. And while I don't love him, I'm happy that you are happy."
I can't ask for more than that. I wish that he was a dog lover but I knew he wasn't even before we got Artie. At least he lets ME be a dog lover.
My situation is a bit different because Artie came to us after J and I were married. J is not a pet person and is most definitely not a DOG person. But he understood that I really wanted a dog -- I'd waited to get one until after I started to work from home and I'd already delayed that in Montreal because I was traveling often.
J feels that Artie comes between us. (He does.) Artie is a craver of attention so when J and I are doing something that clearly doesn't involve him -- like hugging each other -- Artie barks, "What about ME?" Artie also means that we can't spontaneously go somewhere -- I have to find a dog walker or sitter for him, so everything has to be PLANNED -- and J resents that.
But what J says is something to the effect of, "I know that YOU get all sorts of enjoyment from Artie. I know that he's company for you during the day, and I like that. And while I don't love him, I'm happy that you are happy."
I can't ask for more than that. I wish that he was a dog lover but I knew he wasn't even before we got Artie. At least he lets ME be a dog lover.
Now that's love.
Wonder if J was a dog in his former life.
My situation is a bit different because Artie came to us after J and I were married. J is not a pet person and is most definitely not a DOG person. But he understood that I really wanted a dog -- I'd waited to get one until after I started to work from home and I'd already delayed that in Montreal because I was traveling often.
J feels that Artie comes between us. (He does.) Artie is a craver of attention so when J and I are doing something that clearly doesn't involve him -- like hugging each other -- Artie barks, "What about ME?" Artie also means that we can't spontaneously go somewhere -- I have to find a dog walker or sitter for him, so everything has to be PLANNED -- and J resents that.
But what J says is something to the effect of, "I know that YOU get all sorts of enjoyment from Artie. I know that he's company for you during the day, and I like that. And while I don't love him, I'm happy that you are happy."
I can't ask for more than that. I wish that he was a dog lover but I knew he wasn't even before we got Artie. At least he lets ME be a dog lover.
Honey, he's one of the few and I do mean few men, that get it!
It really isn't about your S/O feeling the same about your fur-kid as you do (it's wonderful when they do...) but loving you so much they CARE about your happiness!
However, if they are jealous...kick'em to the curb there is more going on in that controlling freakish head of theirs. Oops, I said that out loud. Well, I meant it, too!
That was one of the few dealbreakers I had when dating. Don't love dogs? Hit the road. A mere tolerance of my dogs would not have worked. My dogs are a huge part of my life and I am involved with rescue. I admit, sometimes they run my life. They are welcome on my furniture and in my bed, and I wasn't going to change those rules for someone else.
Luckily, my husband is as much a dog lover as I am. He loves my hounds and they love him. He and my female beagle have a special bond. More often than not, she cuddles and sleeps next to him at night instead of me.
It goes both ways, though. I love his dogs and parrot just as much as he loves my little hound thugs.
As another poster on cd says "The dog is permanant , you may not be " , yes I am definately a love me , love my dog person ... DandJ yep my chihuahua is your hubby re incarnated LOL !!!! I have never given up an animal for a s.o. nor would I ever .
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